A few days ago, I brushed a news that in Linyi, Shandong, a woman called the police in early December 2021 to say that the gold bracelet she bought when she was engaged was stolen. A few days ago, the public security organs successfully arrested the man suspected of theft. Unexpectedly, this man was the boyfriend of the cousin of the woman who stole the bracelet, on the same day he accompanied his girlfriend to visit his cousin's house, saw the gold bracelet and stole it, and then sold it for more than 13,000 yuan.
Netizens have advised this girlfriend to quickly break up with the man, take advantage of the fact that she is not yet married, see the character, and stop the loss as soon as possible in time.
For me, if this girl is my relative, I would also advise her to reconsider the man's character and their relationship.
It is not excluded that there are some girls in this world who are overflowing with virgin hearts, they are simple and kind, they think of love very beautifully, and once they fall into love, they are carried away. They believed that although the man had made a mistake now, her love could move him and put him back on the right path.
But getting married and living a life, you have to face a chicken feather, countless frictions and accidents, and romantic love alone cannot be maintained for a long time. As Romain Rolland said, "You don't have to be reluctant with love, you have to be responsible for marriage." “
The consistency of the three views is the solid foundation of marriage, only the two people's outlook on life and values are the same, in the face of sudden accidents, in the short trivial friction of countless parents, work together and face together.
This man can steal the gold bracelet at his girlfriend's relative's house, sell it without blushing, and was caught by the police after several months, indicating that he is not a first-time offender, and the thing of stealing chickens and dogs has been done more than once, indicating that he still has no shame in doing this.
Such a person' values are different from those who want to live an ordinary and down-to-earth life.
The opposite of values will break out from the differences of various big things and small things in the real life after marriage. You want him to get a serious job, work hard to make money, and run the family well; he only thinks about stealing and taking advantage of legal loopholes all day long. You teach your children to abide by the law, study hard, and live upwards, but he tells your children that there are many shortcuts in life, and it is okay not to work hard...
Love is the wind and snow, and marriage is chai rice oil and salt.
Eating, drinking, sleeping, electricity, water, gas, houses, cars, children... Everything costs money. Don't say that talking about money is too tacky, marriage without talking about money is a castle in the air, and a gust of wind and a rain will collapse. Even if you have a solid family foundation, do not work hard, do not make money to support the family, there will be a day to sit on the mountain and eat the sky.
Marshall Field once said that for a fledgling young man, the first qualities of being human are honesty, hard work, frugality and integrity. These qualities are more important than anything else, and they are indispensable in any era. If one does not have these qualities, one must achieve nothing.
A person who only wants to live by petty theft and shortcuts, how can you trust him to entrust his future? How can he ensure that he works down-to-earth, makes money on the ground, and creates a safe life for you?
As the old saying goes: "The nature of the country is easy to change and difficult to move!" “
Money will be stolen now, and people may be stolen later.
Today he will knowingly commit a crime, can not resist the temptation of money, to steal money such a handy thing, tomorrow may not be able to resist the temptation of beauty, behind the wife cheating to steal people, then there will be no regrets.
Franklin said, "Eyes should be round before marriage, and eyes should be half open after marriage." “
It can be seen that the importance of choosing people before marriage, choosing the wrong person may delay their own life. Girls are more emotional, sometimes boys use a little means, girls are easily moved, not married. Before getting married, in addition to following your own feelings, you may wish to listen to the opinions of the people around you, especially the opinions of parents and friends.
Parents, as people who have come over, have experienced more things than us, and the starting point of parents must be for the good of their children, so we must bring people to their parents, let them get along more, and then listen to their parents' opinions. Just as the so-called authorities are obsessed with bystanders, you can also ask more about the opinions of friends around you, they can stand in a more rational and objective position to help you put forward pertinent opinions.
Instead of discovering all kinds of contradictions and hidden dangers after marriage, forcing yourself to half open your eyes to make up, it is better to polish your eyes more before marriage, get along more, observe the character of this person, and then make a decision carefully.
What do you say?