The purpose of love is to get married, I believe that all sincere people will have such ideas, and then there is a "love that does not have the purpose of marriage is a hooligan" this sentence, especially for women, youth is her most precious wealth, if the limited adolescence can not get a stable and happy marriage, then you can imagine how anxious her heart will be.
But for men, it seems that youth is never a point of sensitivity for men, they hope to be able to expand the scope of contact with women as much as possible before marriage, and choose one person to spend the rest of their lives, this idea is excusable, but the premise must be a single state, if there is already a relationship, still constantly comparing their own women with others, which is bound to seriously hurt the expectations of women who love themselves deeply.
Fu Xiaohua (pseudonym), 43, and Lao Peng (pseudonym), 50, have lived together for 15 years, but within a few months of her proposed to break up, her ex-boyfriend Lao Peng repeatedly came to her door to threaten her, and even took a fruit knife to make wild remarks, and only one of them could live.
Such a day really made Fu Xiaohua feel fear in his heart, and his mental state was once on the verge of collapse, in order to avoid Lao Peng's extreme behavior, Fu Xiaohua said that she could only take her 10-year-old daughter Xixi (pseudonym) to hide in Tibet, but this was not a long-term solution after all.
More importantly, Fu Xiaohua said that she already had a new boyfriend, both sides have also met parents, ready to start a license to get married, but the harassment of her ex-boyfriend Lao Peng is her biggest trouble at present, she took the initiative to call Lao Peng out to talk about the emotional entanglement between the two, and completely made a decision.
As soon as Old Peng sat down, he still hoped that Fu Xiaohua could live a good life with him, before he did have something that he couldn't do, such as not taking good care of his daughter, and didn't give his daughter an application fee, etc. He now knows that he is wrong, sorry Fu Xiaohua, I hope Fu Xiaohua can give him another chance, he promised to make practical actions.
However, Fu Xiaohua, who was sitting on the side, kept shaking her head, she said that she had completely despaired of Old Peng, and women did not have 15 years to waste their youth, hoping that Old Peng would let go and let both sides return to normal life.
Referring to the emotional past of the two, Fu Xiaohua recalled that when she was 27 years old, she met Lao Peng, who was 7 years older than herself, and the two had a good relationship at that time, but not long after the relationship, Fu Xiaohua unfortunately had a car accident, not only the pregnant child accidentally miscarried, but also caused her to lose the ability to give birth in the future.
Fu Xiaohua bluntly said that she had lost her fertility, so in these 15 years of cohabitation, she made countless requests to Old Peng to get a license to marry, but they were all prevaricated and delayed by various reasons, which dragged her from 27 to 43 years old, and the marriage date was also delayed for one year, she really couldn't afford to delay anymore, and she longed to have a stable home.
The reason why the feelings have come to the point of breaking up, Fu Xiaohua said that Old Peng is a mountain that looks higher than a mountain, he suddenly did not find other suitable women, so he maintained a romantic relationship with her in the confusion, and when he found a woman with better conditions than her, Old Peng would definitely dump her at once.
Just create people, 15 years have passed, because old Peng's own conditions are not very good, so he has not been another woman, Fu Xiaohua especially emphasized that when the two were in contact at that time, Old Peng promised her that she would marry back to the media, the two are by no means ambiguous, but 15 years of youth has been wasted, Fu Xiaohua vowed that she was unwilling and did not dare to believe Old Peng's rhetoric anymore, and she had no capital to gamble again.
Hearing Fu Xiaohua tell about the grievances and dissatisfaction of the past 15 years, Lao Peng showed sad self-blame at this time: I can now get a marriage certificate with you, these years I have been confused, I am sorry for you, it is all my fault, I still hope that you can live a good life with me.
In addition, Fu Xiaohua also said that 10 years ago, because she longed for a home, she adopted her daughter Xixi, she regarded Xixi as her own, and loved him in every way, but she felt that Old Peng was not concerned about her daughter Xixi, and Old Peng once told her to find Xixi's biological parents and asked Xixi's biological parents to compensate him for 10 years of alimony.
Speaking of this, Fu Xiaohua claimed that Lao Peng's remarks are simply not a normal person with feelings and consciences who can say it, and her daughter Xixi also said in an interview that "Daddy" Lao Peng is not good to her, does not take her out to play, and does not cook much for her, even if cooking feels like feeding a dog to feed herself, there is no feeling between father and daughter.
However, when it comes to "mother" Fu Xiaohua's new boyfriend Xiao Chen (pseudonym), Xixi praised her, saying that Uncle Chen is very good to her, she is very willing to live with her, 37-year-old Xiao Chen also promised that although he is 6 years younger than his girlfriend Fu Xiaohua, he is willing to use his shoulder to support his girlfriend and give her a reliance and warmth.
Xiao Chen said that he and his girlfriend Fu Xiaohua had met each other's parents, and the two sides were also preparing for a follow-up marriage, and Fu Xiaohua was also happy, bluntly saying that no matter how much Money Xiao Chen made, he took the initiative to hand over the money to her for safekeeping, and with her to bear the burden of raising Xixi, she was very satisfied with Xiao Chen and grateful, thinking that Xiao Chen could give her the rest of her life.
However, Old Peng is still not dead-hearted, making a final effort to ask Fu Xiaohua to continue to live with him, in front of everyone, Fu Xiaohua bluntly said that as long as Old Peng gives her 200,000 plus three-bedroom and two-hall houses, she immediately agrees to get a license with Old Peng, otherwise she will immediately marry Xiao Chen.
At this point, Fu Xiaohua frankly said that now and Old Peng only have money to talk about, since Old Peng insists on not letting go, then he will have to pay the price of persistence, and marrying Xiao Chen is to go with feelings, even if Xiao Chen has nothing, she is also willing to marry him, as soon as he hears this, Old Peng directly left the scene in anger.
Fu Xiaohua said bitterly that women do not have a few 15 years to waste, for a woman like her who is already 43 years old is indeed worthy of understanding, ex-boyfriend Lao Peng is slow to give himself a name, the light blossoms do not bear fruit, I believe that no matter which woman is not willing to accept.
15 years of time, I believe that Fu Xiaohua gave his ex-boyfriend Lao Peng countless opportunities, but also put forward countless requests for a license, but they were all wasted by Lao Peng for various reasons, which not only wasted Fu Xiaohua's youth, but also wasted his life.
If 15 years of cohabitation and love can not recognize a person's face, can not make up their minds to enter the palace of marriage, then it seems that the cause of the current situation, whether it is Fu Xiaohua or Lao Peng have unshirkable responsibility.
15 years is not a short time, for the woman Fu Xiaohua, until now to recognize the true face of the ex-boyfriend Lao Peng, it is inevitable that it may be delayed, just so-called: when the break continues, against the chaos, if the man is reluctant to give himself a bright and righteous name, then blindly testing and giving opportunities is actually cruel to himself.
There have been many cases of three or five years of breakup in love, but it took 15 years of love and cohabitation to end this marriage that should have ended long ago, which is really surprising, which also shows that Fu Xiaohua is indecisive about feelings and has unrealistic fantasies, it is his own personality that will rub shoulders with happiness again and again, and he needs to pay for the confusion he has committed.
Then again, old Peng, as a 50-year-old man, has not given his girlfriend a name for 15 years, saying that he is confused, sorry for his girlfriend, this apology makes it difficult for people to feel his sincerity, if 15 years can not give women a sense of security and steadfastness, what can he come up with to ensure the happiness of Fu Xiaohua in the second half of his life?
If you don't love, you should let go early, love and marriage are not making comparisons, everyone has their own unique qualities, don't always have the idea of "spare tire", neither want to fix the feelings in front of you, but also have unwillingness to have feelings in front of you, such a mentality will only keep yourself in a state of psychological imbalance, always staring at each other's shortcomings, but not seeing each other's advantages, and eventually only allowing the other party to withdraw from this feeling in despair.
Reasonable time can fully understand a person, and in the name of understanding indefinitely, this is not the attitude that love should have, but to buy space and time for the unknown ideas in their hearts, so whether it is for men or women, give yourself a deadline, if you can't get the happiness you deserve within a certain period of time, then the turn after letting go may be more meaningful than blindly insisting.
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