01
There's a good saying:
"In life, we must step on the beat of life, do what kind of things at any age, get married when you should get married, have children when you should have children, don't delay."
What is the cost of procrastination? Not easy to find, few choices.
Unless you don't get married for the rest of your life, no matter what your thoughts are, and no matter how much you enjoy a free life, when you are single, your peers and people around you will not stop waiting for you. This means that what you have to choose from, as you get older, becomes less and less.
So there is no way to deny that unless you are very good, you will only become more and more embarrassed if you drag your age and your situation in the blind date market.
Zhang Fangyu said: "What men are really interested in women is their posture." ”
Especially women, when youth is not there, the face is not there, the advantage in the marriage market is getting smaller and smaller. If there is no physical attraction, even if you have a beautiful mind, no one wants to find it. Younger, can't look up to you, older, you can't look up. For good older leftover men, they can find someone younger and more beautiful than you.
This is not reality, but human nature, even love, can not change human nature.
For love that happens to ordinary people, age is a problem, even a big one. If you are an ordinary person, then great love will not be your turn at all, and when the passion fades, many practical problems will follow, making you question your choice more and more.
While pursuing love, we must also be practical, don't think about those illusory, so-called soul confidants all day long, can only be said to be encounterable but not sought, can be expected and unattainable.
02
I saw a post on the Internet and asked: The elderly leftover woman, who has a car and a house, but the root cause of repeated failures in blind dates. In fact, just a little, high is not low.
Especially mentioning that there is a car and a house, it is inevitable to define yourself as a high-quality woman, and there are too many high-quality women, and you are certainly not willing to find a poor condition. Even if you like it again, after knowing the actual conditions of the other party, the enthusiasm and fantasy in your heart will be greatly reduced.
If the conditions are good, you will always not meet, and even if you encounter them, you may not be able to look at yourself.
Because of what? On the basis of her car and house, and defining herself as a quality woman, she can get into her eyes, at least in all aspects of the conditions are better than her.
Let's not talk about the age problem, if the other party's conditions are so good, she will certainly not care too much about her conditions of having a car and a house, mainly based on her own feelings. So her biggest advantage will be lost, in the face of the other party's conditions, her conditions are nothing.
Unless she can offer other special values to the other person, men are more willing to find a young, beautiful, and able to take care of themselves.
Maybe it's not because she's too picky, in large part because of the embarrassing situation caused by age. As mentioned in the opening article, excellent people have already been selected, and the rest, relatively speaking, are some strange things that she simply can't look at.
For the simplest example, having 50 objects to choose from at age 25, it's much easier to pick one out of 50 people you like. Wait until you're 30, there are 10 people to choose from, choose the right one from 10 people, and if you're unlucky, you won't be able to pick one.
03
I heard a very solid saying that said:
"Many older women in the North Drift are affected by poisonous chicken soup and fall into a strange circle, thinking that as long as I am good enough, I am worthy of being loved by excellent men, and for men, women are excellent and cute, worthy of love is not equal, women's ability, decisiveness, and direct speech are exactly the subtraction points, and gentle, considerate, able to do housework can take care of talents is a plus." 」
Deeply.
Although it can't be generalized, everyone's ideas and needs are different, but for most men, excellence is indeed not her plus.
The more excellent she is, it is easy to make men timid, because she feels that she cannot control it and dare not hope. On the other hand, I want to find an ordinary one, as long as I am gentle, considerate, and will take care of people.
The more excellent, the more difficult it is to be chosen by men, and it is more difficult to meet a person who can really appreciate her and has excellent conditions by virtue of her own excellence. After all, such a man, the realm is particularly high, there is a car and a house in their eyes is not excellent.
There are cars and houses, at most in the eyes of ordinary men, it is a good condition. And even if you are lucky to meet, maybe people already have a family.
The simplest truth, really very good men, need to go on a blind date? I'm afraid he has a lot of options around him.
The same men who are still single in their 30s are either in particularly good conditions and don't care about your car or house, or the conditions are very general. So it's not that you're unlucky, it's not that you're in poor condition, it's the awkward situation that comes with age.
04
Of course, there are other objective reasons, such as eccentricity, loneliness, strength, arrogance and so on. It is difficult to approach at first glance, even if you are in good condition, you are not willing to approach you again. After all, no one is willing to find a burden for themselves, and they will make themselves very tired.
The conditions are good, it is very attractive, but the key is that two people can get along together, not to say absolutely appropriate, at least there is not so much conflict.
So if you're planning to get married, rather than being single for a lifetime, get married sooner rather than later.
Of course, you should not write the papers because others have handed in the papers, and they have not answered well, life is your own, and has nothing to do with others.
When looking for a partner, don't take the conditions seriously, it is best to only ask for the same, either to be handsome, or to take care of the family, or to be honest, or to ask for a good family. If you want to take all the good, according to your conditions, you are not worthy of the other party at all, after all, the other party is excellent enough to be invulnerable.
The most important thing is to find someone you like and look at someone who has feelings, which will make your married life less boring.
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