If, in a relationship, the questions that men are most afraid of being asked are listed, then I think this question should be the question that men are most afraid of being asked.
That's the "ex." For men, the ex is simply a question that there is no way to answer, because how to answer it is not right. But there is no way to avoid this problem.
Because, for women, the "ex" seems to be an obstacle that cannot be passed. No matter what kind of answer you get, you won't be satisfied.
In fact, instead of being afraid of being asked this question, it is better to say that he is disgusted by being asked this question. However, women are sometimes particularly curious about their other half's ex. Always want to know something about him and his ex.
So I fell into the "I understand the truth, but I just want to know." Therefore, in the feelings of two people, they will consciously or unconsciously ask the other half such questions. But if you finally look back and think about it, it seems that no matter what the other party answers, you are very sad in your heart.
Because no matter how the other party answers, in fact, you have preset the answer in your heart, but the other party's answer is never in your preset, because you hope that in his memories, you can see that he attaches more importance to the current relationship. Then I hope that the other party can express the regret of not meeting you earlier.
But this feeling of presupposition is difficult to be in your presupposition, because when you get the answer, neither answer is what you want to hear.
Because one of the things you need to know is that there is no way to erase people's memories, only to choose to let go. If you are going to ask a man if he can forget his ex, this answer is actually that you already have the answer in your heart, that is, it is impossible to forget.
It seems like yourself, for your ex, can you forget. I think it's the same, but men rarely ask this question because they know that no matter how you ask, the answer is not what you want, and why should I ask it instead of that.
Therefore, when a woman asks her boyfriend some things about her ex, in fact, she can't get over this hurdle, and she is grumpy about her boyfriend's ex. So what to do.
First of all, you have to know that everything we have experienced is part of our lives. As someone once said, "Your temperament today hides the books you have read, the paths you have traveled, and the people you have loved." ”
In fact, there is no way to change these things. Therefore, it is necessary to change the mentality. After all, the predecessor is a thing of the past. It doesn't really have much of an impact on you.
But if you have been obsessed with each other's ex, it is easy to make this relationship problem. Because when you preset conditions, you will do comparisons. Then it may lead to quarrels.
So, if you really want to understand each other's previous feelings, the best way is to ask when you haven't yet established a relationship, which will give you enough thought.
In this way, if you accept it, then your heart is also acceptable, and don't pay too much attention to the other party's ex at this time.
In fact, it is true that this is the case, since it is already an ex, then it is a thing of the past, and there is no need for us to dwell on the past things.
What we should do is to cherish the present, after all, it is now the two of you together. If you always hold on to your ex's affairs. Over time, other bad situations can also arise.
In fact, whether the other party loves you or not, you can completely feel it. So there's no need to dwell too much on each other's exs. After all, the person he's with right now is you.
The happiness you want doesn't need to be compared to the other person. Instead of tangling with an ex. It is better to live a good life now, after all, the right person is right in front of you, you say yes or no.
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