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To ask what is the most difficult relationship in the world, I am afraid that many people will answer without thinking: mother-in-law relationship.
Indeed, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often makes some families tested, and therefore, when thousands of young girls fall in love, they will always pestering their other half to ask the unsolvable problem of "I fell into the water at the same time as your mother, who will you save first".
A highly emotionally intelligent daughter-in-law and a tolerant mother-in-law living together may have a relatively harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a nitpicking mother-in-law and an indifferent daughter-in-law together may have a difficult time.
However, no matter what kind of mother-in-law relationship, whether the mother-in-law relationship is good or bad, the following three things can not be sent casually, otherwise, it is easy to dislike each other.
One: something that is too expensive
After all, your mother-in-law is not a mother who has participated in your past life, does not understand your living conditions, and does not understand your consumption habits all along.
What may be very common in your eyes has become a manifestation of luxury and waste in her eyes, and the consumption that you may seem to be ordinary is a dispensable superfluous move in her cognition. Therefore, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, too expensive things you do not send.
In the TV series "Heart Residence", Gu Xin's wife was once the daughter of a high-cadre family, and the living conditions and consumption habits that she had heard from childhood were all standards that her mother-in-law's family could not reach.
When they went out to play together, she wanted to honor her mother-in-law, so she bought a silk scarf to talk about her heart without looking at the price, but her mother-in-law saw it and pushed it away and said: Don't don't.
Gu Xin's wife felt that her mother-in-law did not want to spend money because she was reluctant to spend money, not that she really did not like this silk scarf. So I bought it directly, but what I got was not the mother-in-law's touch and praise, but a harsh accusation, saying that she would not live a life.
The daughter-in-law wants to express her heart, but the mother-in-law feels luxurious, and the gift is not delivered to the heart, so the estrangement will also occur.
Two: something too cheap
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, it is wise to give gifts, too expensive is not OK, too cheap is not allowed. Too cheap gifts will make the mother-in-law feel uneasy, and even doubt whether the daughter-in-law is not respecting herself enough. Because gifts often represent the heart of the giver, but also indicate what the image of the mother-in-law is in the heart of this daughter-in-law.
Therefore, gifts that are too cheap may make the mother-in-law feel that she is seen clearly, and the quality of the gifts is difficult to guarantee.
In a previous news, a daughter-in-law figure cheap to buy a foot bath for the mother-in-law, do not know, because it is too cheap, the quality of the product is difficult to be guaranteed, actually bought is the leakage of electricity, this not only did not show the intention, and even almost caused safety problems.
In life, there are always some people who want to spend small money to do big things, but they forget that many things in life are "greedy and cheap to eat big losses", and to send gifts to send the other party what they need and like, both to show their hearts and make the other party comfortable.
Three: Something suggestive
There are some daughters-in-law who will neither send too expensive things nor too cheap things, but the chosen gifts will still be self-defeating, so that the mother-in-law will cause misunderstanding, because they will choose something suggestive, it seems to be "in favor of it", but it is easy to misunderstand whether they are abandoning themselves.
In a family mediation program, there is an episode of the program: the mother-in-law is very angry, because the daughter-in-law sent herself something with a bad meaning, she was just sick at that time, and the daughter-in-law came to see that what she sent was actually a chrysanthemum.
The daughter-in-law saw that her face was not good, and did not apologize and explain.
But in fact, the daughter-in-law is also kind, because she sees that her mother-in-law used to send some photos of flowers, and she will take it upon herself to send flowers to her, but she did not think of the taboo of gift-giving.
It can be seen that when giving gifts, do not send something that is easy to make others taboo, what clocks, shoes, etc., it is easy to think of some bad things, so as to misunderstand.
In fact, many daughters-in-law feel that they are not flattered by spending money, not because it is wrong to send gifts, but because gifts are not sent to the mother-in-law's heart, but aggravate the gap.
In the future, please remember not to send something too expensive or cheap, selectively do what you like, the gift will always make the mother-in-law happy. And the mother-in-law is comfortable, and the family life will be harmonious and smooth.
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