I am a 52 year old single woman who has been living alone for 3 years since my divorce from my ex-husband, and I feel like I am having a very happy life in the past few years of being single, and I am much more relaxed and no longer bothered by the trivialities in marriage. But what I didn't expect was that I wanted to stay away from love, but it just found me, leaving me confused and difficult to choose again, what should I do? Who should I choose?
I am a cheerful woman, and I look okay, tall, plump, white skin, and my friends around me say that I am a reverse growth, and I am not old at all compared to them. I've lived with my ex for 21 years and to be honest I don't love him, or even somewhat hated. He is a man of little ability, does not look good, and can be said to be useless except that he will slip his tongue. When I first married him, it was because of my father, at that time my family was relatively poor, there were several sisters, I was the eldest in the family, there were 2 sisters below, a younger brother, and the whole family lived by planting a few acres of land. His family conditions are very good, his parents are businessmen, my father once worked for his family, because my father worked more realistically, deeply appreciated by his father, the two became good friends. My ex-husband was an only child, and his parents were very spoiled and spoiled, so much so that as long as he wanted, his parents would satisfy him.
When I grew up and reached the age of marriage, one day his father came to my house, I respectfully called out to his uncle, brought him tea and water, he praised me well, and finally said to my father: "If your daughter can marry my son, it would be good for us to marry each other." My father smiled and nodded. At that time, I thought it was a joke, but I didn't expect that after a few days, the matchmaker came to the house to say kiss, and my father, because he couldn't wipe his face, forced me to go on a blind date. When I first met my ex-husband, I felt that he was talking greasy and slippery, not serious at all, and had a very bad impression of him, but he liked me very much, he let his father go to my house many times to say that he had a family affair with this family, and finally my father really couldn't ask me to marry, he said: "His family conditions are very good, you will definitely be blessed to marry in the past, although you don't like him now, you have been together for a long time, maybe you don't think so." If you refuse this family affair, let me see his father again in the future, his family is kind to us, helped us in our family's difficult times, we must not be ungrateful. "Looking at my father's embarrassed look, my heart was like a knife, and I cried several times for this, and finally I forced myself to marry him."
After marriage, he basically did not work much, has been at home to eat old, and when his father died, our life can be said to be very miserable, and then we often quarreled, and finally went to the point of divorce. After the divorce, I went to the field, I had to work well to support myself, and then I did housekeeping work under the introduction of friends, I was arranged to work as a nanny in a family where there was only one father and son living, my job was very simple, that is, to cook for them, clean and tidy, and the salary was not low, which made me very satisfied. The father and son are very rich, the old man is a retired worker, 65 years old this year, very kind, the long is also very young, his wife died of illness 5 years ago, and has been single since then. His son is a big boss, 43 years old, can be said to be young and promising, unfortunately his wife betrayed him and eventually went to the point of divorce.
Their family has changed several nannies, but they have been dismissed because they are not meticulous enough. Since I came, I have been working conscientiously and carefully, without any mistakes, which has won their praise. For the old man, in addition to cooking three meals a day, I also accompanied him to walk the bend and tell him jokes, which made him very happy. He took good care of his son, and whenever he participated in any event, I would prepare clothes for him in advance, which made him very satisfied. But then what I didn't expect was that they actually fell in love with me, which put me in a dilemma, but also a kind of tribulation, what do you say I should do?
@Xuan Yingxiu
This kind of emotion is not good for anyone, and it will become a disaster. Only exiting is the right choice. How do you see this emotion? Welcome to comment on the following.