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Marrying a woman like Gu Qingyu should wake up laughing every day.
She is so good-looking, so excellent, is a company executive, has a lot of income, is a goddess in the minds of many men, and others can't take her turn if they want to be her boyfriend.
Zhan Xiang is so rich, the conditions are so good, he is also very licking at her, he only wants to be with her, he fell in love with her at first sight, and then he has always admired her, willing to make additional purchases around her, unconditionally good to her, she does not even give a chance.
Shi Yuan was able to marry him, it was really the blessing of his cultivation for several lifetimes, on his conditions, living in a broken alley in Shanghai, his mother spent a lot of money to treat his illness, he himself had no car, no house and no savings, really just a very ordinary ordinary citizen.
Gu Qingyu is also willing to marry him, really because of love, do not care about his conditions, only care about him as a person, care about his kind of unworldly, fresh, not greasy.
Before they got married, he lived in a dilapidated house, and after getting married, he moved into Gu Qingyu's big house, and his life was greatly improved through marriage, he only needed to be grateful for what he had, and then live a good life.
But he was not grateful at all, not only did not, but also very good, put their feelings to death little by little, and now that they have separated, the marriage is also in jeopardy.
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Shi Yuan is too strong self-esteem, living in Gu Qingyu's house, he feels very self-respecting, work is also Gu Qingyu's relationship to get, he feels hurt face, even his mother's money for surgery, Gu Qingyu out, he also feels very self-respecting.
The man is still the man, but he is no longer the man at all.
Shi Yuan has changed, so many years of life is not satisfactory, so many years of living at the bottom of society, so that his self-esteem has become very fragile, very thin, others a move, a behavior, will make him feel very self-respecting.
Gu Qingyu really loves him, and she doesn't dislike him at all, doesn't dislike his bad conditions, doesn't dislike his mother's illness, doesn't dislike his mother, she feels that two people living a life is a matter for two people, so she tolerates all this.
And she was also very distressed about him, worried about his mother's surgery money, and distressed that he secretly stayed up late as a translator to make money, so she took out her own money to give his mother surgery.
Her intentions were all good intentions, so that he would not be so tired to live. Originally, husband and wife helped each other and supported each other, which was all right, but Shi Yuan was very good, because Gu Qingyu did this, he felt that he had no face, and he felt that he made others laugh.
If his self-esteem is not so strong, he can not care about those, the relationship between them is not as good as it is today, they can have a harmonious and beautiful future.
03
Originally, Gu Qingyu married him, and he had always been very wronged by his mother.
Because his mother is the kind of person who feels that his son is the best person in the world, he should be matched with the best woman in the world, like Gu Qingyu, it is a high climb.
Obviously Gu Qingyu conditions are so good, obviously Gu Qingyu's income is many times that of her son, obviously Gu Qingyu has so many assets in his hands, obviously her son climbed high, she is still very proud, always feel that the other party is not worthy of her son, and then has been critical of her, giving her a face.
Ah, Gu Qingyu put up with it, did not bother with his mother, if it were not for gu Qingyu has been thinking about him, otherwise it would not be his turn at all.
It was his damn self-esteem that caused the feelings between them to be in jeopardy. His self-esteem was not good for their marriage at all, except that when they first met, gu Qingyu felt that he had not become worldly and rare.
Gu Qingyu felt particularly inexplicable, knowing that his original intention was for his own good, that he wanted to help him, that he was distressed, that he had lived too hard over the years, that he should live a better life and live a more relaxed life.
But she never expected that her own efforts, in his place, would become a wound to his self-esteem, and he would argue with her without saying thank you.
04
Shi Yuan really didn't distinguish between good and evil, what was good and what was evil, he really didn't distinguish at all.
And Gu Qingyu from the beginning to the end, did not look down on him because he was poor, let alone feel that he was on top, and her kindness was fed to the dog.
Is the self-esteem in the relationship really so important, it is good for a person to have self-esteem, but don't be like Shi Yuan, Shi Yuan's self-esteem is meaningless.
In marriage, remember not to have such strong self-esteem, which may bring harm to the relationship.
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Illustration of the article | stills from "Heart Dwelling"