"Heart Residence": Gu Qingyu married his first love, why is no one optimistic?

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Many girls have had such a thought, only love one person in their lives, if you can hold hands with your first love until you are old, it is the most romantic and happiest thing in your life.

But

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In the broadcast drama "Heart Residence", when Dong Yao

Played by Gu Qingyu

When I decided to marry my first love, Shi Yuan, netizens were unanimously not optimistic.

Gu Qingyu is a white-skinned, shrewd and capable, elite of the business world, economic independence, high emotional intelligence, and a proper goddess.

It can really be said that flowers see flowers, people see people love, and there is never a shortage of suitors around.

The most loyal suitor is the neighbor Zhan Xiang, a hundred million dollar speculators. Since I first met Gu Qingyu many years ago, I have become a big fan of her. As long as Gu Qingyu has needs, he always appears at the first time. He also strives to create opportunities to get close to the people around Gu Qingyu, just to please her.

To say that in addition to Zhan Xiang's low education, he is not greasy, rich, good tempered, and humorous, the most important thing

It is to Gu Qingyu Baibaibaishun, such a man is how many girls dream of,

But Gu Qingyu was not rare at all.

Emotional things are always one thing drops one thing, one person loses one person to pick up.

Man, what you lack wants, Gu Qingyu

There is no shortage of money, and her commission for doing a project is several millions. But she

She was surrounded by deceitful people, so she wanted to find the purest feelings in the world. The white shirt, the black-rimmed glasses, and the piano are her fond memories of love.

Gu Qingyu's previous boyfriends are in their 20s, and she also gave them white shirts and dressed up as she wanted. Each of her relationships is short-lived, not because she is affectionate, but because she is too affectionate.

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At this time, Gu Qingyu's first love Shi Yuan was not admitted to the ideal school, only went to the secondary school and found a job as a tour guide. Not only that, but his family burden is also very heavy. Shi Yuan's mother is suffering from an illness, in order to treat her mother, Shi Yuan has owed more than 1 million yuan, and even has to use fake marriage to make money.

If such a Shi Yuan did not have the filter of his first love, he would not have stayed in front of Gu Qingyu for 5 minutes, but because he was his first love, everything about him was good.

Gu Qingyu ignored it,

Her eyes were full of him, and she just wanted to be with him.

The first time she went to a concert with Shi Yuan, Gu Qingyu's face was full of love, she said that she had fantasized countless times, but she didn't expect it to really come true.

Gu Qingyu felt that there was only one in the world

Shi Yuan understood her, and she took the initiative to propose to Shi Yuan.

But

Although Shi Yuan has no money, he has face and face

Self-esteem is still needed. he

In front of Gu Qingyu, he was not confident and dwarfed. thereupon

he

Let Gu Qingyu do the property notarization, he does not want others to think of him

Yes

Scam

marriage

。

Gu Qingyu didn't care about these things at all, and felt that as long as he liked it, it was a pity that the reality was not like this.

03

Gu Qingyu's flash marriage was a mistake from the beginning, and the ignorant first love would eventually lose to Chai Mi Oil Salt.

Even if she wanted to marry Shi Yuan, she shouldn't be so fast, and she shouldn't be without informing the parents of both sides

situation

Just do it

Went to get a permit.

China is, in the final analysis, a humane society, China

A marriage of two people is not only a marriage of two people, but also a marriage of two families.

Mother-in-law relationship

It is a hurdle that can never be crossed, especially her

Meet Shi Yuan's mother who wants face.

Shi Yuan's mother is from a large family, there is an innate sense of superiority, even if the family is now in the middle of the road, she still looks down on Gu Qingyu from the bones. She felt that only old aristocrats like Huang Jie's family and their family were the right ones. Therefore, in her heart, even if her son earns less now, marrying a woman like Gu Qingyu is still a loss for her own son. She did not accept Gu Qingyu at all, and she was not even willing to give face.

And the same in Gu Qingyu's home, they felt

She looked for someone who was inferior to her in every way.

Weekly family gatherings, relatives are all there

Will compete secretly.

Since marrying Shi Yuan, Gu Qingyu is no longer the most sought after one. Relatives have a kind of schadenfreude inside and outside, and there is a taste of contempt.

After all, marriage is more realistic than love, more chicken and dog pieces.

After the two flashed marriage, Shi Yuan lived in Gu Qingyu's house

Shi Yuan didn't want others to think he was useless, eat soft rice,

I didn't want Gu Qingyu to pay off his debts, preferring to sneak up in the middle of the night to do an interpreter.

However, no matter what, in the eyes of the Gu family, he was not as good as Zhan Xiang after all.

Neighbor Zhang Apo has Alzheimer's disease and wants to find a neurologist to see. Feng Xiaoqin's first reaction was to ask Zhan Xiang for help, because Zhan Xiang had a wide network of contacts and knew many people. For a while, Shi Yuan was embarrassed.

though

Gu Qingyu did not care, and advised Shi Yuan not to pay attention to it, but Shi Yuan's self-esteem did not allow it.

Shi Yuan urgently needed money, so he hung the piano and sold it online. Gu Qingyu saw it and secretly bought a piano and put it in Zhan Xiang's home. Unexpectedly, After Shi Yuan knew about it, he felt faceless and angry, he said, even if it is a husband and wife, there are things that do not want each other to interfere, you should

Respect me.

Gu Qingyu's kindness, the surprise she wanted to give, was a kind of charity in Shi Yuan's view.

04

We often say that marriage is a two-way street of equal strength.

Whether it's a strong man or a woman

Weak, or strong women and weak men, are easy to cause

In the marriage relationship

and this imbalance often

be

marriage

relationship

The key to rupture

The same marriage of strong women and weak men, as well as cousin Gu Xin, his marriage with Ge Yue is not optimistic.

Ge Yue's father is the bureau chief, holding heavy power, and the family lives in a small western-style building, whether in the career or material wealth can pull Gu Xin.

Gu Xin did not hesitate to abandon his girlfriend who had been in love for more than ten years in order to climb Ge Yue, but unfortunately this marriage was not as smooth as he thought.

First of all, when they first met, Ge Yue's mother couldn't look at Gu Xin at all, and felt that his parents couldn't get on the table. In particular, his mother did not eat elegantly and dressed in a non-class manner. In ge Yue's mother's eyes, it is three words: unworthy. Unfortunately, I couldn't stand my daughter's liking, so I had to reluctantly accept it.

Speaking of the banquet and the marriage room, both sides are mismatched. Ge Yue's parents' pomp and circumstance is to do enough, more than 10,000 tables of banquets, to book more than 50 tables. The marriage house should be bought in a prime location, with a total price of more than 200 square meters and a house of 14 million. Although the woman is willing to pay 7 million, it is not so easy for Gu Xin's family to take 7 million, and it is necessary to sell a set of self-use houses to do so. So Gu Xin's mother was not satisfied,

People marry their daughters-in-law, and their families marry sons.

However, Ge Yue's mother was not satisfied, and she would always point fingers at Gu Xin. afterward

Ge Yue's father was reported, and the scenery was no longer there.

Gu Xin's family began to reverse the situation again, feeling that this marriage was already a strong man and a weak woman, and sneered at the Ge family. This marriage ended up unsurprisingly, and it was also the end of divorce.

05

In Dong Yao's "Thirty Only", Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan's marriage is a strong woman and a weak man. Whether it is at home or in the company, it is Gu Jia who has personally experienced it, although Xu Huanshan is the boss of the company, but the important decision is Gu Jia in the decision, and if there is a problem, it is also Gu Jia to solve.

The more capable Gu Jia is, the more inferior Xu Huanshan will be, and he wants to find an outlet for his feelings. Therefore, Lin Youyou appeared, worshipped him like a god, and immediately met his needs, and there was the final breakdown of the marriage.

The most important thing in a marriage is equal trust, and a marriage where women are strong and men are weak lose equality from the beginning.

One side gives from a high place, but the other side holds its breath and does not want it.

Men are prone to inferiority, no sense of belonging, no sense of existence.

In the marriage of Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan,

If Shi Yuan can go all out, work hard, and have a deal with Gu Qingyu in everything, their marriage can still have a turnaround.

Sadly

Shi Yuan always wanted to maintain his self-esteem, putting Gu Qingyu aside in everything, not like a couple at all.

Between them, of course

Another more important reason is that Gu Qingyu over-glorified Shi Yuan. The person she was going to marry was only the source of her imagination from beginning to end, not the real him at all. Therefore, she could not accept that Shi Yuan could play mahjong, and she could not accept his vulgar side.

In the TV series "Our Marriage", Dong Sijia, a strong financial woman, and Li Yuwen, a full-time grandfather, were also an unequal relationship at the beginning. On the one hand, Dong Sijia enjoys Li Yuwen's well-organized care of her home and son, but on the other hand, she is unwilling to let others know that her husband has no job and takes the children full-time. In the course of time

The feelings between them

More and more distant, more and more strange

bear

afterward

Dong Sijia

Realize

own problems,

Begin

Reflection

Work hard

Do it between family and work

balance

。 Li Yuwen also gained confidence in his work, and the two finally found the key to a happy marriage.

In any marriage, only when two people understand each other, understand each other's difficulties, share responsibilities, and maintain together, can they rush to a better future.

Author: Pretending to be a sleeping cat,

A middle-aged mother. I have done real estate copywriting, writer, Taobao treasurer, HR, experienced vicissitudes, and my heart is still soft. Everyone who pretends to be asleep, she says, expects to be woken up.