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There is a saying on the Internet that says:
You are willing to play umbrellas for others, others are willing to umbrella you.
Indeed, how you treat others, others treat you. The relationship between people is mutual.
You cast a peach for me, and I repay it with a plum; you send charcoal in the snow, and I watch over the reward; you pay with sincerity, and I give back to the truth.
On the contrary, if you calculate everywhere and calculate everywhere, I will naturally avoid it. All good relationships are that you salute me a foot and I give you a foot.
Kinship, too.
01. Good kinship, there are comings and goings
Knowingly, there was a hot question:
I have an idle suite at home, and relatives come to the door to ask to borrow it for a period of time, should I borrow it?
There are two voices in the comments section.
One believes that it should be borrowed, there are thousands of feelings in the world, only family affection is supreme, relatives have blood ties, it is the wealth left by the original family, and it is incumbent on each other to support and help each other.
The other holds that relatives do not share wealth, and that common wealth never comes again. If relatives are entangled in money, in the end it will only destroy their relationship with each other, and even cause property losses.
In fact, family affection is indeed precious, but any relationship needs to be managed, and so does kinship. Those relatives who have come and gone well, when you have the ability, you should help yourself.
Relatives who ignore you when you are down, and who come out to take advantage of you when you have a little success, should be avoided.
Like a diving champion, when her mother is sick in bed, her brother is forced to drop out of school, and the family is in financial distress, almost no one cares.
When she jumped to fame, various relatives came out, and all kinds of smears and cheapness caused great trouble to her family's life.
As Lu Yao said in "Ordinary World":
Kinship is often vulgar, trying to get the light on each other, and rolling their eyes when they don't get it. Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives.
02. There is a kind of relative, and the interests come first
The life of netizen Yang Ning (pseudonym) is also made of chicken feathers because relatives are naturally smeared and cheap.
Yang Ning and his wife Tang Xiao (pseudonym) come from the same small county and now live in a second-tier city. The two have been married for 8 years and have a 5-year-old child.
Yang Ning's family is not well-off, when he first got married, he had no house and no car, and part of the bride price was still made up for relatives. Fortunately, his feelings for Tang Xiao were very deep, and Tang Xiao was dead set on him, so he did not marry.
His parents-in-law strongly opposed it at that time, and brought relatives to his house several times, but in the end they could not change Tang Xiao's determination. Angry and corrupt, they withheld 80,000 dowries and did not give a single dowry.
Soon after the marriage, Yang Ning felt that relying on the three or four thousand salaries in the small county town would never be able to get ahead, so he took Tang Xiao to the big city to join his relatives, thinking of earning money and going home to buy a house.
When the parents-in-law saw that Tang Xiao had just married, they were about to leave their hometown, and they became more and more angry, and directly said that Bai had raised this daughter, and he would not be able to live in the future, and did not think that his mother's family would help her.
When they first arrived in the big city, Yang Ning and Tang Xiao did not even dare to have children.
The two worked diligently to save money, and Yang Ning was in two positions, and every day after work, he also went to the night market to set up a stall to make money.
Later, with the help of relatives, Yang Ning had a relatively fixed stall and started a fruit business.
Yang Ning is honest and generous, coupled with the high quality and low price of the fruits he sells, there are many repeat customers, the business is gradually getting better, and he has also begun to have some savings.
03. Your house is not occupied, first borrow your brother to get married and live for 2 years
Soon after, a storefront near the stall was transferred, and Yang Ning seized the opportunity to take down the storefront. Due to the good location of the lot, the transfer fee and the shop rent are not a small amount.
Yang Ning could only find ways to raise money, and Tang Xiao even held up his belly and returned to his mother's house. Unexpectedly, the in-laws not only did not help them, but also made Tang Xiaoshu cry.
Fortunately, Yang Ning's relatives on this side are more powerful, and they have finally made up enough money.
With the storefront, business is more prosperous.
After several years of hard work, Yang Ning made a down payment for a suite in his hometown county. Not long ago, considering the problem of her children going to school, Yang Ning also purchased a two-bedroom apartment in the city.
Just as Yang Ning's life was getting better and better, his parents-in-law stared at his house in the county town.
Yang Ning's house in the county town, bought a off-plan house, just handed over the house for half a year, because there is no money to renovate, has been empty. He wanted to wait for the economy to be more generous and then renovate it.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law called and borrowed a house from him, and my mother-in-law said: "Your house is not occupied anyway, first borrow me to live for 2 years." ”
It turned out that the brother-in-law had talked about a girlfriend, had been dating for more than 4 years, and planned to get married at the end of the year.
Originally, his parents-in-law had already helped him prepare the money to buy a house, but the brother-in-law was so ambitious that he forced the money to do business.
Who knows, just in the bad year, the money has been lost, hundreds of thousands of dollars, only one car is left.
The parents-in-law first found Tang Xiao.
Tang Xiao naturally said "yes", she has always wanted to repair her relationship with her parents over the years. Besides, blood is thicker than water, the only brother is married, how can the sister not help.
04. Between relatives, exchange hearts for hearts
Yang Ning didn't think about it so much, and his mother-in-law's natural tone made him very disgusted. He resigned on the grounds that the house had not yet been renovated.
But her mother-in-law was not good at giving up, she said: "I will take care of the decoration..."
Yang Ning listened to more worried, with the shrewdness of his mother-in-law, this decoration money was paid, it was definitely not a matter of living for 2 years. Moreover, in case there is any problem in the future, the decoration cost is not clear at all.
Most importantly, Tang Xiao's family looked down on him from beginning to end, and he never paid any attention to him, so why would he risk lending out the new house he had worked so hard to repay the mortgage and had not yet lived in.
For this matter, Yang Ning and Tang Xiao had a disagreement. In the days that followed, the reluctant mother-in-law often called Tang Xiao, hoping to achieve her goal through Tang Xiao.
At the instigation of his mother, Tang Xiao quarreled with him from time to time, and the warm and peaceful life of the past was gone. Yang Ning was very irritable, such a relative, should he lend him the house?
In the Book of Poetry, it is said: Vote for me with a peach, and repay it with a lee."
The feelings between people are mutual, and their behavior is mutually rewarding. In other words, the interpersonal relationship between etiquette and exchange can be more harmonious and close.
Kinship, too.
Man is essentially a social animal, but also a social animal, inseparable from the mutual help between people. Good kinship is a very valuable asset for a person.
But there is a kind of relative who abandons you when you are down, and when you are beautiful, they will come up and want to rub it cheaply, this kind of relative who only wants to take, but does not know how to give, please avoid it.
People are always mutual. To exchange hearts for hearts is to be sincere.
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