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Since ancient marriages, they have paid attention to marrying girls with their heads up and marrying their daughters-in-law with their heads bowed.
This statement is actually exquisite, because marriages that marry high and marry low are more likely to be complete.
In marriage, men should themselves have some responsibilities and shoulder the responsibilities of a family.
The small couple in the next case, because of the imbalance in the initial payment, eventually made the marriage fall apart.
Shi Xiaoli's wedding date is getting closer and closer, and she is also making intensive preparations.
This wedding operation is somewhat special, not only the wedding banquet is the woman's family to pay, even the down payment of more than one million yuan in the marriage room is also taken by Shi Xiaoli's parents.
Because Shi Xiaoli's fiancé Ding Hao is actually a phoenix man from the countryside.
Without background and financial support, he can only rely on his father-in-law and mother-in-law to buy a house and get married in a short period of time.
He knew that everything about himself was not easy to come by, and before it was stable, he could only firmly rely on the Shi Xiaoli family.
The wedding ceremony was soon held as scheduled, and he was also respectful to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, as if he were his own biological parents.
And Shi Xiaoli's parents have been an only daughter all their lives, so naturally they treat Ding Hao's son-in-law as half a son.
Knowing that Ding Hao was born in a cold door, his father-in-law and mother-in-law did not worry less about him in this career.
Especially after getting married, Shi Xiaoli's family is even more energetic to help Ding Hao develop his career.
Ding Hao was originally a backstage manager in a company, and after getting married, he was not willing to accept the status quo and wanted to resign and start a business.
After all, a few thousand yuan of dead wages per month, it is certainly not enough to have children in the future.
He immediately communicated his ideas with his wife and said that he wanted to be a logistics company.
This company needs start-up funds, so Shi Xiaoli immediately ran back to his mother's house and wanted to ask his parents for help.
After Shi Xiaoli's parents learned that their son-in-law wanted to start a business, they expressed great support and enthusiasm.
After carefully counting, he took seven hundred thousand yuan of start-up funds for his son-in-law.
After getting this money, Ding Hao registered the company and officially began to operate.
After a few months, the company gradually began to make a profit.
With the normal operation of the company, the relationship between the young couple is getting better and better.
Because of Ding Hao's current business list, he also needs the support of his parents-in-law's connections.
Although the company is busy, he also finds time every week to visit his father-in-law and mother-in-law, in order to build a good relationship.
In the blink of an eye, they had been married for three years, when Ding Hao's company gradually stabilized, and Shi Xiaoli was also pregnant at this time.
After becoming pregnant, Shi Xiaoli never went to work again, and concentrated on raising a fetus at home.
As the month grew larger, Shi Xiaoli's mother moved to her daughter's son-in-law's house so that she could serve her daughter.
On the day of the birth, Ding Hao rushed from the company to the hospital, and the family was anxiously waiting at the door of the delivery room.
After a long wait, Shi Xiaoli gave birth to a healthy baby girl.
After learning that his wife gave birth to a girl, Ding Hao's eyes flashed a trace of disappointment.
Shi Xiaoli, who had just given birth, did not care about this matter, and his heart was full of cute daughters.
After returning home, she was about to officially start confinement, and the mother-in-law who was supposed to come was now looking for an excuse not to come.
No way, Shi Xiaoli's mother moved in to take care of them.
This stay, even if it is thought, is several years.
In recent years, Shi Xiaoli has not worked, because the child's health is a little weak, and she also has to take care of Ding Hao's diet and living.
Although she has also paid a lot of effort as a full-time housewife, in the eyes of her husband Ding Hao, she is now an idle person.
Because Ding Hao's business is becoming more and more stable, the net income can reach tens of thousands of yuan per month.
Although he completely raised his wife and children, he became more and more arrogant in his bones, and gradually looked down on Shi Xiaoli, who ate idle meals.
In the final analysis, he still holds the financial power of the family in his hands, and he is naturally full of confidence.
His changes have made the distance between the couple more and more distant, and the number of quarrels has increased.
The mother-in-law, who has been living at home, can only constantly play the role of a peacemaker to ease the atmosphere in the family.
After the child brings the mother-in-law to the age of five, it is time to start school.
Unfortunately, at this time, my mother-in-law was unwell and underwent a small operation. After being discharged from the hospital, Shi Xiaoli naturally took his mother to the family for careful care.
However, more than half a year had passed, and the old lady's health had long been well, but Ding Hao did not see her mother-in-law leave.
Originally, he was not very comfortable with this matter, and it just so happened that his mother from his hometown called several times and asked to come to him to enjoy the happiness of the elderly.
For a while, Ding Hao's dissatisfaction piled up to the peak, and he took an opportunity to say to his wife: "Your mother has lived in the house for many years, your father does not need someone to take care of it, let her go back quickly." ”
Hearing this, Shi Xiaoli's face was very ugly, and he said directly: "After my mother takes the child, you will let her go, and your trick of unloading and killing the donkey is also too cruel." ”
Ding Hao didn't expect his wife to resist like this, and instantly burst into anger and said, "My mother is your mother-in-law!" How do you talk, I'm exhausted for this home can't let my mom live in yet? I tell you, let your mother move away, or you roll with your mother! ”
I thought that Shi Xiaoli did not dare to fall out with him, but she did not expect that after hearing this, she took her mother and child back to her mother's house the next day.
In less than a week, a lawyer was entrusted with the divorce process.
Because buying a house and starting a business are both money from Shi Xiaoli's family and both have evidence, Ding Hao is formally required to return the above money.
This can make Ding Hao dumbfounded, because since falling out with his parents-in-law's family, the company's business volume has dropped sharply, where is the money to pay back.
Only then did he realize how ridiculous his self-confidence was, that everything he had depended on his in-laws' family was.
Once the divorce is completed, Ding Hao, who is in his thirties, will have a hard time gaining a foothold in the city.
He didn't expect that once he didn't say anything, he would let him destroy his years of hard work and fight back to the farm again.
Although Shi Xiaoli is divorced, her whole state is actually not good.
As everyone knows, she and her family have given everything for Ding Hao, and finally found out that they had raised a white-eyed wolf...
The heroine in the case finally could not stand her husband's thin feelings and chose divorce.
This tells us not only to tolerate each other in the family, but also to remember the following two principles.
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One: Some hard work can only be exchanged for enemies.
Giving in marriage, in fact, is the same as doing business, it is about return and output.
To know that there is no free lunch in the world, even if it is the interests of husband and wife, it is best to calculate clearly.
Shi Xiaoli in the case, as a woman, not only paid a down payment in the marriage room when she got married, but also let her parents take out a large amount of savings to help her husband start a business after marriage.
All of the above behaviors are indulging the husband and putting themselves in a passive position.
There is an old saying that goes: Sheng Mien, Dou Mi Vengeance.
Once you pay a person far beyond the normal understanding range, then the other party can easily turn into hatred and do not know what to do.
Sometimes the more you give, the higher the other person's expectations of you.
If one day you can no longer fulfill his wishes, the other party will be disgusted and quarrel endlessly.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, remember not to think about others indiscriminately, and do not give with affection, and save the last thanklessness.
Otherwise, your efforts will only be exchanged for hatred and regret.
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Second: In the marriage relationship, it is necessary to refuse unilateral payment.
Marriage is made up of two people, and it is necessary for both parties to operate together.
So we often say that there must be some feelings in marriage.
The feelings of husband and wife are the driving force for two people to pay for the family together.
If only one party is silently working hard for the family forever, then one day there will be a lack of motivation and a chilled retreat.
Therefore, between husband and wife, we must refuse to pay unilaterally.
When encountering an inappropriate partner, it is necessary to stop the loss in time to avoid causing greater losses in the future.
It is even more necessary to guide each other to pay equally in time, often communicate and cultivate feelings, and jointly make the husband and wife more united.
If several communications do not improve, then it is best for a partner who demands personality to stay away in time.
If the other party does not change, turn to seek better sunshine yourself.
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Two people form a family, in addition to fate also need to work together.
No one should do more, much less take it for granted.
Changing sincerity for sincerity is always the best way to get along.
In fact, it is really not easy to meet someone who wants to be good to you in the first place.
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