Or ask a question: If before getting married, you know that your boyfriend's mother is too strong and arbitrary, will you break up with your boyfriend?
For most girls now: two people marry, and what she marries is not only married to that one person, but to the whole family. Marriage is actually a reproduction of the interaction pattern with parents.
Marriage and love can not be equated, no kind of love, can resist the day after day of life, even if you usually do well, or can not stop others from picking bones in the egg. Speaking of this, Zhou Qiong has deep feelings!
Zhou Qiong was born into an ordinary family, but she worked so hard during her schooling that she was admitted to college. When she was in college, Zhou Qiong met her college classmate Zhao Yong, who was the school grass at that time, and when Zhou Qiong first saw Zhao Yong, she felt that Zhao Yong was very in line with his criteria for finding a boyfriend. So Zhou Qiong took Zhao Yong step by step, and later successfully developed a lover relationship with Zhao Yong.
After graduating from college, Zhao Yong successfully entered a state-run unit under the arrangement of his parents. In order to be able to be with Zhao Yong, Zhou Qiong found a small company to work in the same city as Zhao Yong.
Although Zhou Qiong's work is not very good, she can also feel the warmth when she can be in the same city as Zhao Yong.
Zhou Qiong's holding on to Zhao Yong, the parents are in the eyes, but the parents did not explicitly oppose, just called her and said: "Child, your own business, parents do not ask, as long as you live well, but the mother still has to say, marriage is not a child's play, the man must have a house, and after marriage, do not go with the in-laws, the conditions proposed by the mother, as long as Zhao Yong can do it, your father and I will agree." ”
Zhou Qiong was very happy that her mother did not put forward other harsh conditions, when she said her mother's words to Zhao Yong: "Rest assured, my parents are also ready to buy a new house, and in the future, the two of us will live in the new house." ”
With Zhao Yong's assurance, Zhou Qiong went home with Zhao Yong to see his parents. The first time I met Zhao Yong's parents, Zhao Yong's mother gave Zhou Qiong's feelings:
Very strong, shrewd, all the things in the family are Zhao Yong's mother's decision.
Zhao Yong said to his mother in front of Zhou Qiong: "Mom, I have discussed with Xiao Qiong, she does not want the bride price money, and the wedding should not be too public, but our wedding room must be separate." Her mother readily agreed.
Zhao Yong's mother really did not lose her word, bought a three-bedroom and two-hall house in the city, and when handling the house procedure, the whole process was done by Zhao Yong alone. Because the money was all from Zhao Yong's family, and it was a full-fledged house, Zhao Yong did not take the initiative to propose whether the real estate certificate added Zhou Qiong's name, and Zhou Qiong was not embarrassed to say it.
After the house procedures were completed, the decoration was completed, the furniture was almost bought, and the wedding date of the two of them was almost here, Zhou Yong said with a twinkle in his eye: "Xiao Qiong, after we get married, my parents want to live with us, our family bought this house, and the family's money was spent not enough, my mother also sold the house they lived in, and only then did she make up enough money to buy this house, you won't want my parents, right?" ”
Zhou Qiong was very unhappy: "I said well, after marriage, we lived alone, but you got your parents over, this marriage, I don't want to get married." ”
"Honey, this is only temporary, now my parents have no place to live, I can't let them sleep on the street, let's work hard after the two of us, three years later, we will buy a new house, the property deed, only write your name, okay?"
"Then if something unpleasant happens to your parents, you have to turn to me."
"No problem, in the future, I will listen to you for everything, okay?"
Zhou Qiong smiled happily. He followed Zhao Yong into the new house and wanted to see what kind of furniture he had bought. Pushing open the door, he found that Zhao Yong's parents were also in the new room, and his mother was watching from the master bedroom.
"Zhao Yong, you have come just in time, this master bedroom is good, with a bathroom, we elderly people live just right, after that, I and your father will live here, the bed I have chosen, you choose your own room."
Zhou Qiong took a look at Zhao Yong and found that Zhao Yong did not make a sound, so she said to herself: "We are married, the master bedroom must be ours, right?" ”
"The house was bought by our family, the money is from us, who pays the money, who is the owner of this house, which room I want to live in, live in which room, do you think you can count it?"
What Zhao Yong's mother said deeply hurt Zhou Qiong's heart, she looked helplessly at Zhao Yong, very much hoped that Zhao Yong could help her say a word at this time, but she waited for half a day, until Zhao Yong said: "Xiao Qiong, my parents are old, they can take the money out to buy a house, it is already very good, they want to live in the master bedroom, let them live, let's pick one." ”
Zhou Qiong really did not expect that Zhao Yong would change his mind so quickly: "Just outside, what did you tell me?" You said that you will listen to me in the future, and now you have changed your mind, are you still not a man? ”
"On the contrary, on the contrary, this has to be done, and dare to yell at my son in front of me, this has not yet passed the door, just think of pressing our family under you, do not look in the mirror to see, which onion do you count?" Do you also deserve to see our family's new house? ”
Zhao Yong's mother said this, Zhou Qiong took a look at Zhao Yong, found Zhao Yong standing there, motionless, eyes looking out the window, silent, Zhou Qiong's heart was cold, mentioned his bag: "This marriage, I am not married, where your mother wants to live, live wherever you want, it has nothing to do with me, goodbye." ”
Then, Zhou Qiong turned her head again and said to Zhao Yong's mother: "From now on, your son is yours, the house, and yours, and it has nothing to do with me as a countryman, are you happy?" Zhou Qiong opened the door and prepared to leave.
Zhao Yong chased out the door, and while chasing, he said, "Isn't it just a matter of living together?" As for that? Can you please stop playing tricks? ”
Zhou Qiong's footsteps did not stop, stopped the taxi, and went directly. This marriage has not yet been married, Zhao Yong and Zhao Yong's mother began to bully her, can she still forgive Zhao Yong? Can you go back to the past with Zhao Yong? She thought she would have to think hard about the relationship.
Yes, love is two people, but marriage is really living a life, this kind of life, not to say that only the two of you can live alone.
In fact, the real marriage is that a woman marries a family, especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and men need to grow up through marriage.
Marriage is something that is usually trivial, "happy families are similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." Marrying the right person is happy for a lifetime, while marrying the wrong person is a sad life.
The mother-in-law is too strong, if at this time, the husband does not stand on his side, the woman will never have a good life.
Therefore, girls, before they get married, their eyes must be wide open...