The three truths hidden in "The World": Parents do not love him, but they love less!

The recently popular TV series "The World of Man" finally came to an end.

The story of the three generations of the Zhou family still has a perfect ending.

The television is Liang Xiaosheng's eight-year realistic work, which won the 10th Mao Dun Literature Award.

I believe that 99% of people can resonate with this TV series.

The play hides these three heartfelt truths.

01 Do not suffer from widowhood but from unevenness

The old Zhou family has three children, the eldest son Zhou Bingyi, the second daughter Zhou Rong, and the younger son Zhou Bingkun.

Among the three children, the eldest is talented, can read, and has culture. The second eldest is also good-looking and intelligent, and studies well. Only the third oldest, mediocre qualifications, no superiority.

In the eyes of neighbors, Zhou Bingyi, who became a cadre of the Cultural Affairs Agency, and Zhou Rong, who became an associate professor at a university, are far better than Zhou Bingkun, who is not nothing, and has a good career.

Seeing the eldest and second eldest, the neighbors greeted each other with smiling faces and greeted each other politely.

When he saw the third elder, he would also say hello, but he turned around and muttered, "This is the old zhou family's most unproductive old knot."

Outsiders may look hilarious, but as a father, Zhou Zhigang himself also looks at these children.

He felt that his younger son was indeed not excellent, and compared with his brothers and sisters, he was much inferior.

Once he said the younger son, the father and son were anxious.

Zhou Bingkun was not happy, and his father said that this was the truth, and there was nothing unhappy about it.

In the play, Zhou Bingkun sat in the bed, out of control of his emotions, and shouted at his father: "Should the facts be told?" Should I just say it? ”

This scene is very much like the child in real life who is not recognized and praised by his parents.

If a parent has multiple children in a family, the weakest and most ordinary child will definitely "suffer from inequality without widowhood."

The love and attention of parents will be divided away by better children, and all that is left to him is counting and scorning.

Children's hearts are sensitive and fragile, and in the face of their parents' love, they are not afraid of the love given by their parents, but they are afraid that their parents will not be able to treat them equally.

In every family with siblings, parents must have the most favorite and favorite children, relatively speaking, there must also be such a child, who lives in the corner of parental negligence.

It's not that the parents don't love him, they just love him less than the other children.

"The palms of the hands are all meat", but sometimes, the palms of the hands are more favored than the backs of the hands.

For example, in the movie "Tangshan Earthquake", a pair of children are buried in the ground, time is limited, the situation is critical, and only one child can be rescued.

Desperate mother, faced with the difficult moment of choosing one or the other, finally chose her son.

That's human nature.

If you're a parent, remember, don't favor one over the other, be fair, and love each of your children, whether they're good or not.

If you are a child, please remember that if your parents have preferences, that is their choice, and you have to love yourself well.

02 Seemingly mediocre children are often the blessing stars of their parents

The three children of the old Zhou family, the eldest and the second, have achieved their own lives by reading and leaping the dragon gate.

They leave their hometowns, leave their parents, and open up the prospects of scenery.

Zhou Bingkun, who was not good at studying, was in his hometown, seeking an errand and living an ordinary life.

At first glance, parents must feel that children who are well mixed can bring more face to themselves, satisfy their vanity of educational success, and earn a good reputation in front of others.

But as parents get older, they will become more and more afraid of loneliness and need the company and care of their children, at this time, children who are well mixed have no time to take care of their parents.

He has a career to be busy, he has to socialize, he has all kinds of interpersonal relationships to take care of, in addition, his only remaining energy, but also want to keep to himself, quiet.

The only person who can safely accompany his parents and take care of his parents can be the "mediocre" child.

He didn't have a big career, nor did he have a particularly complex interpersonal circle, eight to five in the morning, and commuting to work on time.

Parents have headaches and brain fever to buy medicine, eat and wear, buy rice to buy vegetables, make a phone call to him, and he will do the work on the way to work.

Once the parents fall ill, send them to the hospital, run errands to register for examination, feed medicine with the bed at night, bring tea and water to serve, or this child.

This verifies the phrase that was widely circulated on the Internet before: That ordinary child is here to repay the favor.

If you are a parent, please understand one thing, the child is excellent, you earn face.

Children are not so good, stay by your side to know the cold and know the heat, considerate of the family, you get the benefits.

Of course, this is not to tell you not to raise a good, valuable child, but to tell you to adjust your expectations of your child and teach according to your aptitude.

The child is the material for reading, so he will struggle to lift it up and give him a good starting track.

If the child has other better qualities, then respect the child's choice and let him fight.

Adjust your expectations so that you can establish a truly intimate and harmonious parent-child relationship with your child.

03 Marriage really needs to be right and like-minded

The second daughter, Zhou Rong, is the most wayward of several children.

She can run to the mountains for love, not far away, to run to the mountains, to be with Feng Huacheng, a fallen poet, to share happiness and suffering.

Because she was young, she didn't understand what was behind love, and she didn't care how much it cost her after the impulse.

After entering the marriage, the days of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea made the two begin to have a gap.

Feng Hua became a material and a house, abandoning his ideals and only wanting to make money.

But Zhou Rong still lives without eating human fireworks, she blames her husband for being worldly, and her husband blames her for being high and selfish.

People who once loved to die and live eventually lost in real life and ended in divorce.

A similar story also happened to the boss Zhou Bingyi.

He married Hao Dongmei, the daughter of the provincial governor, and became a door-to-door son-in-law.

One is the daughter of a high-ranking official, the other is the son of the people, and the growth trajectory of the two is very different.

There was not much contact between the relatives, and the Hao family was even more bluntly disgusted and contemptuous of the Zhou family.

Old Zhou sent some tea to his relatives, and the secretary returned the gift as a gift, and sent it back untouched, which made Zhou Bingyi quarrel with Hao Dongmei.

Hao Dongmei said that it was a misunderstanding, but Zhou Bingyi said firmly: "There is no misunderstanding here, only a gap." The big things of the governors and the big things of ordinary people are not at the same level at all. ”

Different original families, raised children, it is difficult to run together.

Because their vision, cognition, and three views are all different.

Forcibly wronging yourself, or accommodating the other party, will only make people exhausted and tired of not loving.

Marriage is not only a combination of two people, it is also the collision of two original families.

Before starting a relationship, it is best to understand the other party's original family, the door is right, and like-minded people are the best choice.

Desperate for love, this courage deserves praise, but this kind of behavior is not worth advocating.

Marriage is not a child's play, and divorce is the most costly remedy.

Picking a person who matches every aspect of himself, and is evenly matched, is a good marriage.

04 Life, living is the mentality

There are many more stories in "The World".

Everyone can find their own empathy in the play, it may be human nature, it is love, it is family affection, or friendship.

It has tea rice oil and salt, humane sophistication, black and white, and ups and downs.

You can think of all kinds of life, there are all in the play.

Art comes from life, not to mention that this is still a documentary work.

No matter what kind of card life gives you, play the glory of the king, and you win.

To live this life well, it seems that you have to rely on reading to cross the class, make a fortune by making money, and open up contacts by the circle of relationships, these are all appearances.

If you want to live a solid and comfortable life, you ultimately rely on a good attitude.

Mixed to the high place is not proud, falling to the low point does not give up slack.

Let the wind and waves blow, and I will blossom from the red flowers.

Peace of mind, peace of mind.

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