In the process of children's growth, parents pay more attention to their physical health and the cultivation of some talents, and the civilization and politeness that are often hung up on the lips are the cultivation of children's good character, in fact, children with good character are also equivalent to having high emotional intelligence. The cultivation of emotional intelligence is also a very important one in the child's growth process, he allows the child to do better in the future in the treatment of people and things, and can also increase the goodwill of others. In fact, from some things in daily life, children's emotional intelligence can be reflected, and in this regard, parents have a direct impact on children.
Chenyang, who lives in Shandong, lives in a big family, relatives come and go frequently on weekdays, the relationship is very good, this is not today's uncle's birthday, since last night the old two have been busy, said that usually have been going to the hotel, this time let everyone taste his craft.
At noon, everyone arrived one after another, and uncle also made two tables of dishes, the family sat down separately and then ate, and from time to time some people praised uncle for his good craftsmanship. Suddenly, Chenyang's daughter whispered with a piece of green vegetables, "Mother, is this a bug here?" It's disgusting". Chenyang hurriedly stopped her daughter and said, "Grandpa is too old to see clearly, and it is very hard for him and Grandma to prepare such a large table of dishes, you eat other dishes, don't eat this." The daughter nodded and put the worm leaf aside and picked up the other dishes.
As soon as the voice of the morning sun fell here, the cousin's son shouted loudly, "Mom, you see there are bugs in the dish!" The crowd looked up, and my cousin said loudly, "There are really bugs!" Uncle, didn't you wash this dish? There are still bugs so disgusting that I can't eat. Only to see the uncle's face a moment of embarrassment, hurriedly said, "Washed, maybe not washed!" The cousin still had something to say, and the uncle on the side quickly took over and said, "Oh, isn't it common to have bugs in the dish?" Who guarantees that it will be washed so clean! Eat more bugs to supplement protein. ”
After the uncle said it, everyone laughed, and the cousin continued to eat with his lips skimmed, but the uncle's expression was always embarrassed and not so natural.
It can be seen that in the face of two children who find bugs in the same dish, they get different answers from their respective mothers, and these two answers reflect the educational habits in daily life. We can clearly distinguish that the emotional intelligence of chenyang mother and son is higher, while the cousin mother and son are worse, some people say that the cousin educates the child's personality in this way, and the child will not suffer losses in the future, but this time it is used in the wrong place, and it is not possible for the family to get off the stage. But think about it in another position, is it not a manifestation of not losing money to let outsiders get off the stage? Your family can tolerate you, if you encounter something similar outside, will others tolerate it again and again? Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's emotional intelligence, which can make them better enter the society in the future and be accepted by everyone.
The first step in cultivating children's emotional intelligence is that parents should lead by example, whether at home or outside the above situation, we must remember not to be unreasonable, such a treatment method will make children consciously learn to go, and later develop a brutal look. If you encounter a similar situation outside with a similar treatment method, it is easy to provoke the other party, and in the end, even if you are reasonable, others will feel that you are not polite, and you must save enough face for the other party.
The second step in cultivating children's emotional intelligence is to start from the basics, maybe the child does not understand what emotional intelligence is, but he must know what politeness is, tell him to respect the elders, respect every industry personnel, when encountering the situation, first whisper to the mother instead of shouting and whirring, respect is the premise of politeness, and the cultivation of politeness is a necessary quality for the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence.
Finally, create a situation for the child, if he accidentally did a bad thing, someone shouted at him, asked him what kind of mood he was in at this time, if the child said that it would make him feel very unhappy and very faceless, then tell him that when you meet someone outside who accidentally did something wrong, and you shouted and accused others, others will be as unhappy as you. Let children really understand how important it is to save face for others, which is very helpful for children to improve their emotional intelligence.
Nowadays, parents have a lot more coddling for their children in addition to rational education, so they will indulge their children to develop a cruel and willful solipsistic personality, and even parents take pleasure in it, saying that such children are good, and they will not be bullied when they go out in the future. It is true that most of such children's personalities are the ones that do not suffer losses, but they are also the most unpopular ones, and he is indeed a more "powerful" party in the process of getting along with people, but after a long time, he will also become the party that everyone rejects. It is precisely because his emotional intelligence is not high, so everything will not be considered for others, only pure self-centered, will lead to such results.
Children will come into contact with many people in their lives, encounter many things, often sometimes because of low emotional intelligence leads to a lot of misunderstandings and conflicts, so parents must pay attention to this aspect, so that children become a high emotional intelligence person.