The two mouths "lifted the bar", and the bar lost three important things
Text/Li Cui
It is not uncommon for two mouths to "raise the bar", often lip service, "spitting out fragrant" and "wonderful" words, love and kill each other, comparable to a debate game.
When "lifting the bar", it is often two people who expose each other, attack each other, confront each other, and knock on the side, a "bar" is lifted down to change tactics, "sword and light sword shadow", so that the other party has "no skin".
After practicing "verbal kung fu" a little better, the defeated side of the war was finished with the flag, and those who did not do well were upgraded to "military exercises."
However, whether it is "playful" or "real", do not let your child be an audience.
"Lifting the bar" in front of the child will "bar" throw three important things.
Harmonious family environment lost. Home is a place of love, not a place of reason, and home is a haven for children, not a battlefield of "smoke and smoke". A harmonious family is of great significance to the growth of children, children can not only establish a sense of security, but also learn to love and be loved, learn to respect and self-esteem, and form a sound personality, develop a sunny character. A family environment that is noisy all day, chickens and dogs jumping, children are afraid all day, today they are worried about their parents quarreling, tomorrow they are worried about their parents' divorce, can the children grow up healthily? I'm afraid that the child doesn't even want to go home.
The prestige of the parents is lost. In the lifting bar, the two mouths use their mouths as weapons, use vicious language to do "firepower", frantically expose each other's black cauldron bottom, poke each other's wounds, hurt their livers, curse their hearts, and do not "die" endlessly! Completely disregarding the inner feelings of the "audience friend" next to me: it turned out that my parents were so unbearable! The "respect" and "respect" for parents in my heart are gone!
When my 16-year-old son yelled at his father in his forties, my husband broke down in tears. Who gave him the guts? Dare to call his father! I finally realized that it was the bane I had sown, a mouth that never spared anyone, destroying my husband's majesty as a father in front of my children. I get it, I was wrong!
The most terrible thing is that the "bar" has lost the child's beautiful imagination of family and marriage. What your current relationship looks like is your child's understanding of the future marriage and family. Some children do not marry when they are very old, because they are afraid of marriage, and the marital status of their parents has caused a shadow on their children; some children love domestic violence because they have heard about it from an early age; the inequality of their parents' family status will also affect their children's psychological expectations in marriage. Parents must be examples of happiness.
The "raising bar" of two mouths is not conducive to the healthy growth and happiness of children, do you dare to "bar"?
Pretty Mom Profile:
Li Cui, female, Han ethnicity, member of the Communist Party of China, born in August 1979 in Longhua Town, Yicheng County, is a first-level primary and secondary school teacher and a registered senior psychological counselor. After graduating from Linfen Normal School in 1999, he has been engaged in education, and is currently the director of Longhua Center Kindergarten, and has been awarded the honorary titles of "Excellent Party Member Teacher", "Excellent Class Teacher" of the City, and "Model Teacher" of the county for many years.