What are the reasons for unhappy marriages that start to become unhappy? Perhaps such an answer will be closer to the truth: love does not have eternal mutual pleasure, and one person must fall into the wilderness.
Because one of the people's feelings and intentions have changed, the love for the other party will disappear or shift from his or her heart, and what remains is the entanglement and pain caused by the two people's feelings that are not synchronized.
Often, this entanglement and pain breeds with the other emotional choices of the party who has changed his heart.
So, how long can a man's love for his lover last? Can it last longer and longer than treating your own wife?
On this issue, the following man who took the initiative to find true love outside of marriage because he disliked the blandness and boredom of marriage has something to say.
01
Seriously, I never thought I'd fall to this point.
I thought that my choice would bring me happiness, but I didn't expect that now I would become a great irony.
Now I really think that my marriage, from the beginning to the end, was like a joke, but I was the key reason for the joke.
At that time, I reached the marriageable age, and only under the premise of not finding a woman I particularly liked did I accept a wife who had been known by blind dates and felt that all the conditions were more suitable.
The feeling of being together after two people get married is plain, never feel how much love there is between each other, at the beginning it is a kind of makeshift relationship, the days can only be said, how much fun and warmth, it is completely impossible to say.
Got married, got married, had a wife, and later the children came into the world. There is nothing in me that can be talked about or talked about by others, but the dissatisfaction and emptiness in my heart are more and more obvious than when I was older and still single.
Because I feel that I have lived to such an old age, I have never really tasted what it is like to be in love, and life is really a failure!
02
Before I was 30 years old, I didn't start much in my career, and then I gradually made a little achievement, whether it was position, power or wealth, compared with before, it was not the same level.
At that time, I looked around and found that many married men with similar conditions and conditions as me had extramarital affairs and young and beautiful lovers. For me, this is also a silent encouragement and stimulation.
Originally dissatisfied with the marriage, I began to stir in my heart, and my eyes no longer stared at the tedious points within the marriage, but began to pay attention to the fate that may develop and form outside the marriage.
I think that as long as a married man has his mind active, he can always meet the opposite sex that he is interested in in the vast sea of people.
Because today is different from the past; because I am not using the mentality of finding an object to measure whether a woman is suitable for marriage, just looking for the opposite sex that can bring her love feelings, opportunities are everywhere, and the difficulty is not too big.
After searching and waiting for almost a year, three months ago, I met a woman who could make me feel like a million years old.
At that time, he could not suppress the joy and excitement in his heart, and began to faint for the first time in his life, and he could not start pursuing anything.
03
To my satisfaction, it didn't take long for her to surrender to my flowers, sweet words, and the romance stacked with money, and our relationship went on and on, and the speed of light went on, and it was immediately hot.
Since being with her, life has been colorful, and I have lived a special life of fulfillment and happiness.
The excitement outside of marriage and the boredom inside marriage form a strong contrast, and I am doomed to choose only one end. In fact, there is no need to ask, everyone knows which end I will choose? After all, marriage and wife have always been just a temporary measure for me, a kind of casual with no emotional color.
Under the impact of love, it has faded the last trace of color that carries its own positive meaning because of its sense of responsibility, and has become gray and inconspicuous, making people completely uninterested.
A man's heart chooses its own preferred direction, and since I have had a lover, I have scorned my wife and paid no attention to marriage and family.
It's just that the happy time is always too short, three months of love, under the situation that the lover constantly asks me for money and lets me spend money generously for her, I finally see that she is the "fishing girl" who makes a living from it.
Feeling uninteresting, when I decided to let go, I found that I had no way out: I couldn't even go back to the marriage that I thought was worth getting together.
My wife proposed divorce to me, and because of my insecurity and dissatisfaction, she eventually ruined the marriage and ended up alone.
epilogue:
Greedy and realistic people always live one life and delusional about another; they always make decisions for their lives with a calculating mentality to achieve short-term goals as their main needs.
In the process of moving forward, he will always change his choices according to his actual situation. In the end, I'm afraid I can't count how many of my dreams and plans have changed.
There is nothing wrong with keeping pace with the times, adjusting the goals of moving forward at any time, and making new plans, but including feelings and marriage in this kind of thing is a manifestation of extreme irresponsibility for one's own life. Marriage is not a child's play.
If you dare to play with feelings, do not attach importance to marriage, and think that these are just a less important part of your life, you can freely choose and treat according to your own situation, then I am afraid that you will eventually become an outcast of fate.
Happiness is bland, you can choose the love you want under the premise of the right age and qualification, but once you make a decision and hold hands with the other party into marriage, you must stick to this choice, and the efforts you make for it will not be in vain.
Whenever and wherever you are, please remember that a moment's pleasure cannot resist the feeling of bitterness and co-existence, which is especially crucial!
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