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Two days ago, I was reminded by a friend and looked at the calendar to find that Monday was Valentine's Day. I don't usually pay much attention to this, I am busy at work, and I have nothing to do with it. So I responded faintly with a "hmm", and there was no more following.
My friend was a little curious and asked me how to celebrate the holiday?
I???
A single dog, what festival, isn't that masochistic? I don't have that hobby.
Valentine's Day is now a very ordinary and busy Monday for me. If you don't do it well, you still have to work overtime, and if you have any heart to think about this. Besides, a person celebrating Valentine's Day sounds a little sad just by it. Forget it, I can't make up for this hilarity, just have an ordinary Monday.
So my friends began to complain and criticize me, saying that I should actively and diligently find a partner, and I can't be single all the time?
I......
How do you know I'm not looking for it? I was desperately looking for it, but I still couldn't find it, what can I do?
Shouldn't life be easy-going? It's all going its own way, isn't it? Moreover, the ancients all said that sometimes there must be something in fate, and there is no time to demand it in fate.
Besides, if you find a partner, you will get married? Doesn't getting divorced when you get married? Can you keep your head white until you're old?
I don't reject it, I will do my best to find it, but I will not force it.
Two days ago, I just saw a comment on the Internet, which is very interesting, about finding a partner.
"Boys are looking for objects, girls are also looking for objects, and the two groups of people are looking for each other's, and they don't bother each other."
I was going to be laughed to death, and sure enough, the eyes of the majority of netizens were shiny. The object of this creature is really unattainable. However, it is still necessary to find it, and as for whether it can be found or not, it is another story.
It is very difficult to find a partner, and it is naturally more difficult to get married.
According to the National Bureau of Statistics, the marriage rate has decreased year by year in recent years, and the newborn rate has also been falling. When I was a child, the government's call was still to "only give birth to a good one." What now? Not only is the second child fully open, but even the third child is advocated and encouraged.
It's just that policy is a policy, and if young people don't tie the knot or not have a birth, who can manage it?
Of course, it should be in addition to the parents.
But parents are not 100% able to control, at most they have been advising and urging. But this has also led to another phenomenon: the rise in divorce rates.
Parents use filial piety to put pressure on their children, and some radical parents even threaten their children with their lives. After all, it is a parental affection, and almost few children can completely ignore it. So what to do? Knots. Whoever you want, your parents are satisfied.
The marriage is married, but the two have not gone through the run-in period before marriage, and various problems have been exposed after marriage. The two themselves do not have a deep emotional foundation, and divorce becomes a natural thing. This has also led to the emergence of a wave of people who are short-married and childless.
Everyone is an adult, and everyone has their own choices, their own reasons for choosing. We are not each other, nor can we truly appreciate each other's true feelings, so we are not qualified to evaluate.
We can only say that when we get married, we still have to be cautious. If you choose to get married, you have to be responsible for the marriage, for yourself, for the person you are married to.
Although it is difficult to find a partner now, and it is difficult to get married, I will not give up, I will still believe in love, believe that there is always someone who has been waiting for me.
When the heart of the king is like the water of the West River, it flows east day and night without rest.
[Author: Nian Xiaowu (WeChat public account: Nian Xiaowu), a writer who wanders to Shanghai and does not play cards according to the routine. 】