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Q: Blind date met two girls, one with high education and high income and average appearance, and the other with low education and low income and beautiful appearance, who should be chosen?
Different people will have different choices, mainly depending on how much we attach to these conditions and what we have.
If you pay more attention to academic qualifications, it is natural to prefer girls with high education and average appearance; of course, if you value appearance, the answer is also very clear.
However, marriage is not something we only need to make choices, even if we have a perfect and satisfactory object, the subsequent marriage still needs to be managed.
What is business? Business is the two people's own conditions, including personality, three views, consumer cognition, etc. can be consistent or complementary, so that the marriage can be long-lasting.
In the past, I always felt that the ancients were ridiculous when they talked about the door, but when I grew up, I found that the original ridiculousness has always been ourselves.
The most intuitive manifestation of the door-to-door is the matching of the door, wealth, etc., but we always ignore the deeper meaning of the door-to-door household, such as the matching of personality, cognition, consumption concept, etc.
In most cases, children raised by well-off families may be more confident and more quality-oriented, or more assertive and live more freely.
Children raised by poor families may be cautious, thrifty, and these characteristics will accompany them throughout their lives, even if they are very rich when they grow up, it is difficult to change.
In fact, the deep meaning of the door-to-door pair has always been fed back into all aspects of life, but we usually look too superficial and ignore it.
The management of marriage is a science, even if it is a family with the right door, it also needs to be managed with care.
Choosing a marriage partner on a blind date seems to be a simple problem on the surface, just choose according to your own wishes, but in fact, the relationship behind it and the factors to be considered are more complicated, because marriage is not just a matter for two people, but a matter for two families.
Let's talk about what is the most important thing to choose a marriage partner?
The answer must be family.
Family refers to family education, family atmosphere, family environment.
(Author: Nian Xiaowu (WeChat public account: Nian Xiaowu), a writer who wanders shanghai and does not play cards according to the routine.) ）
Some people say that when looking for a partner to marry, you must go to each other's home to see, because the other parent's lifestyle and way of getting along are most likely to be your future life mode. After all, the other party has heard about the parents' mode of getting along since childhood, and the life after becoming a family is almost the same as the life of the parents.
Think about it, what kind of family can raise what kind of children.
A warm, harmonious family will hardly develop grumpy, unreasonable children, most of them have good qualities and cognition, and these will not disappear over time, but will only become more tenacious, and even influence and pass on to the next generation.
It can be seen how important the family factor is.
When choosing who to marry, you must be careful, because if you choose well, then life is a happy ending; and if you choose well, it may really be a disaster.