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In the past, marriage was very simple, the fate of parents, the words of a matchmaker.
It is not as complicated as it is now, all aspects of the problem must be considered, and there are many, many examples of simple talk about the collapse of the marriage itself.
Most of my generation, like my mother, are arranged marriages by their parents. Of course, there are also so-called blind dates and whatnot, but it is only a process, very formal. The most bizarre thing is that the two sides only met on the wedding day, which is simply unimaginable.
This matter is definitely not feasible to put aside now, not to mention children, parents must jump to their feet.
Before marriage, I didn't know each other, I didn't know each other's living habits, I didn't know each other's temperament, even so, my mother's generation still lived a life in a down-to-earth manner, without divorce.
Maybe the divorce at that time was a shame for women. Just like the repudiation of wives in ancient times, they were laughed at and could not lift their heads. Therefore, most of them come day by day in constant quarrels and tolerance, and a sentence of "for the sake of children" will live a lifetime.
As a result, their generation has high expectations for the next generation. In any case, we must read to change our destiny, and we must find someone who can respect and love each other and support each other for a lifetime, instead of succumbing to ourselves like them.
In our generation, we have read more books and have a wide range of insights. As a result, marriage, like to get married, do not like not love, then leave, it is not a big deal, which also leads to the current divorce rate is a year of high.
Women are constantly being recognized by society, and at the same time occupy a place in society, and even many women are independent beyond many men. Women no longer have to live according to men as they once did, and have autonomy, so they have more choices.
Women are becoming more and more independent, but it is becoming more and more difficult for men to marry their daughters-in-law, especially in rural or remote areas. The number of single sticks is not fake, it is real. Of course, this also involves a series of problems such as the bride price, anyway, it is already difficult for men to marry a daughter-in-law.
Women's independence brings many benefits to women, but it also brings more responsibility and pressure.
There was a time last year when there was a copywriter on the Internet that was particularly popular, and the reason for the fire was that it spoke the voices of many women.
"The state advocates the second child, the hospital advocates breast milk, experts do not advocate the generation of the baby, and the society requires women to be economically independent." The baby longs for the mother's company at all times, the in-laws hope that the daughter-in-law works to earn money, and the husband hopes that the daughter-in-law is beautiful and can take care of people. ”
This is simply the Almighty Superman! Men may not be able to do it!
After the woman got married, she changed from a daughter to a multi-tasking superman, going to the hall, going down to the kitchen, earning money, and raising a baby. However, most of the women who attach too much importance to the family eventually become yellow-faced women and are disliked by their husbands.
Men can never understand women's contributions to the family, they are like wearing filter glasses, only to see their own hard work, think that women at home is a blessing. When I got home, I shouted to the heavens and the earth, didn't do anything, and just lay down waiting for someone to serve me, like a great uncle.
In the past, women still endured this situation, but now, it is estimated that fewer and fewer people are putting up with it.
On the one hand, because women's insight and cognition are stronger, on the other hand, because from the perspective of the entire family role, men are no longer useful, after all, women have been forced to become multi-tasking superwomen. Not only are they useless, but they also bring women more family responsibilities and burdens.
Nowadays, women's confidence is getting more and more sufficient, but men's sense of crisis is as stable as Taishan.
In general, couples have just divorced, and most men have a kind of "Lao Tzu is finally liberated!" No one will ever nag again! "Feelings, while women are sad and sad, for the love of the past, and those good memories."
But over time, men will regret divorce more and more, while women will appreciate divorce more and more because they have met a new self, a better self.
People, there is an inexplicable "self-confidence" psychology, firmly believe that they will never regret it, unless they have experienced it themselves. But when I really experienced it, I had no regrets and nothing I could do.
Instead of waiting for regret later, it is better to start now and cherish your family and lover. Especially men, after all, it is really not easy to marry a wife. I heard that it costs hundreds of thousands to get married now, look at the money in your pockets, if you lose this, can you still afford to marry the next one?
Old people often say, "If a man wants a smooth life and a comfortable life, he must love his wife", which is not unreasonable.
The more men love their wives, the warmer and more harmonious the atmosphere at home, and the better your wife is, the better she will naturally be for you. At that time, you will find that your work career will also be smooth. This in itself is a virtuous circle, and for both sides, it is beneficial and not harmful.
Those who are married love their wives well, and those who are not married love their girlfriends. Don't feel that it is unfair to give more in this relationship, you have to believe that the love you give will be rewarded to your life and career bit by bit, and these are far more beneficial than the "returns" you can see in front of you.
People who love their daughters-in-law have a better chance of success, which has been verified by many people. If you don't believe me, you can also give it a try and see if it's true or not.
Goddess Day, may all people be happy, loved, and good luck always be there.
[Author: Nian Xiaowu (WeChat public account: Nian Xiaowu), a writer who wanders to Shanghai and does not play cards according to the routine. 】