Once you reach a certain age, especially after twenty-seven or eight years old, you have not yet entered the marriage, many people often face a lot of questions, and they will be constantly urged to marry by the people around them.
Women become "older leftover women", and what needs to be cautious about why we have become like this and how we should go in the future.
When our girls really value their marriage, it may be too late, because at this time, they are already very old, and naturally they cannot be in the active position in marriage.
Such a situation will also make us afraid of future marital problems, so we simply do not go to marriage, which may be the current state of most older and beautiful leftover women.
Many older beautiful leftover women are not only unable to freely choose their future partners, but even in many cases will be minded by the opposite sex.
In such a situation, this group of people will certainly become less happy, and even usher in their own tragedies.
I once received a visitor like this:
35-year-old, female, happy every day, but lately has been sprinkled with dog food.
I feel that there were many people chasing themselves before, but as they get older, there are fewer and fewer people around who are suitable for themselves.
When I came home for the New Year, I was still arranged by my family to queue up for a blind date at home.
She herself said that I still like to live alone, I can do whatever I want, I can do whatever I want, I am really unhappy, and I am very happy every day, but I am at the age of marriage.
I can't arrange my own life, I feel that I am being dragged by my family, so I come here for consultation and dispel my doubts.
1, do not want to make it up
Many people when we talk about this problem, we ourselves do not know how to deal with the problem, how to choose people, how to choose a spouse.
Because, after we reach the age of talking about marriage, our parents are very anxious.
But these older women are not in a hurry, most of them really don't want to make it up, and the criterion for choosing a mate is to prefer lack to abuse.
In fact, such a situation will produce a lot of problems, such as: high is not low, which will make us enter a dilemma.
When we don't want to make it up, we continue to search, and in the process of continuing to search, we do something difficult.
But in the end, when I feel that I have encountered any difficult things, I will solve it by myself, and at this time, I feel that I really don't need my other half.
2. Find the direction
At this stage, we are actually very confused, because sometimes we don't know what we want.
This shapes ourselves in this world, unable to seek the love we want.
Because, at this time, we have no way to assume the responsibility and trust of what we want.
Sometimes we may also choose to escape, and at this stage, we have no way to solve the problems we are currently experiencing.
So from the very beginning we need to solve our current state, adjust our direction, and achieve the happy life we want in the future.
3. Stabilize your mindset
Some people delay their marriages for the sake of their careers, and when they can get out of their bodies and want to get married, they are too old to find the right one and we are satisfied.
So, let's not miss the time and do whatever it takes.
Marriage, in particular, is often the pressure we ourselves put on ourselves.
After a lifetime of not even paying attention to their own happiness, what is the use of talking about so many noble empty words? So we have to adjust our own emotions and emotional state.
Conclusion: Each of us has a different view of marriage problems, and some people will think that a happy marriage can bring a lot of happiness to themselves.
So this type of person has faith in marriage, and some people have some fear of marriage, so they are very unactive when facing marriage.
No matter how much pressure the family puts on us when we choose, marriage is our destination after all.
So no matter what kind of thoughts and opinions we have about marriage, each of us should pay attention to our age, find the right person at the most appropriate time, and walk into happiness.
In this way, we can make ourselves have a very good home emotionally, and at the same time, we can make the second half of our lives happier.
I'm Chongyang, we'll see you next time!
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