According to the traditional algorithm, I am 40 years old this year, I have always considered myself a middle-aged person, and I never thought that when this day finally came, I would be so scared in my heart, because I felt that I was not ready.
What is not ready, facing forty years old, what is called being ready, the reason why it is not ready, it is completely dependent on an ancient person who had burped more than two thousand years ago, his name was Confucius.
You may not know Confucius, you may not even know the Analects, but you must know that a sentence is called, thirty and forty is not confused, what is called some people are dead, he is still alive, Confucius is a typical, his words are like a spell, tightly wrapped on the head of every Chinese.
Countless thirty-year-olds, facing the thirty-like sentence of thirty, are afraid to live forever, and the reality is that most thirty-year-olds have not been able to stand up.
If you don't stand up at the age of thirty, maybe the problem is not big, after all, look around, and then give yourself a self-comfort, maybe things will pass, after all, whether you can stand up, sometimes also depends on luck, not one hundred percent up to your own decision.
But wait until the next ten years, it will be more terrible, forty is not confused, this is the hurdle that many people can not pass, said good forty is not confused, but why forty years old me, the doubts in my heart are still a lot.
The first question is, why set a standard, must be thirty years old to stand up, forty years old must not be confused, but this is obviously Confucius's standard, why put him on everyone's head?
Confucius's status in China is very high, the ancient imperial examination, the examination is also the content of Confucianism, Confucius was revered as a saint, so many of the words he said were used as aphorisms, even life creeds, a few years ago, the Analects were very hot, hard to put a lot of words in it, as if Confucius casually said a sentence, can become the goal we want to pursue in life.
But thirty and forty is really a very common sentence, he is obviously a summary that Confucius used to make for his own life stage, why should he be expanded to the standard of every Chinese, and he must be forced to accept.
Many times, others are hell, and when we get into a state where we have to compare others, the probability that you will gain will be endless disappointment and anxiety.
How to become a better self, not a better person in the eyes of others, or a major problem that people have to face in middle age, after all, the years never look back.
A better self, of course, compared with the past self, become better than the past self, and trying to dispel the doubts in your heart and find your future life goals is a very important thing this year.
Before the age of forty, there may be a lot of doubts in his heart, and when he waits for this year, these doubts are still there, he will not disappear on his own, unless he thinks clearly, it can only be a sudden increase in age, and the rest is still standing still.
Today is a cloudy day, this year's winter is particularly cold, cloudy days are particularly many, just like the economy of these two years, always give people a gloomy feeling, everyone is waiting for spring, we all know that spring will come, but the long winter is still difficult to survive.
Forget Confucius's standards, there is no standard in this world, this sentence looks beautiful, but in fact it is impossible to forget, when a sentence becomes deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, whether you are for it or against it, in fact, it has fallen into his trap.
Then this is not a solution, remember, that is to take other people's standards to demand themselves, forget it, can not forget at all, even if it is forgotten, it is forced to forget, in fact, the heart will still remember, then when can not not be confused?
This may be an unsolvable problem, many problems in life, there is no answer, or the answer itself is contradictory, contradictory but coexisting with each other, this may be the real life.
Monday, February 14, 2022 Cloudy
Diary of a Middle-Aged Man (1)