Most mothers-in-law will be very concerned about the woman's family situation when marrying their sons and daughters-in-law, and they do not want their sons and daughters-in-law to marry, and the sons have to bear the burden of taking care of their daughters-in-law's families, which is understandable, but a girl with a bad family is not worthy of marriage? Even if the daughter-in-law's family is very well-off, does the son not need to be filial to his father-in-law and mother-in-law?
Mothers-in-law will be very concerned that when the daughter-in-law returns to her mother's house, she carries a large bag of things and buys this and that for her parents, but why can't the daughter-in-law buy things for her parents? Is it just because your daughter-in-law married into your family that you should ignore your parents?
If the daughter-in-law buys a lot of things when she returns to her mother-in-law's house, and the mother-in-law throws a bowl at her daughter-in-law because of this small matter, and also throws her son to teach her daughter-in-law a lesson together, it is inevitable that the daughter-in-law will restrain herself in the future, it is inevitable that it is too much, if the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family can bring you a lot of benefits, will you still do this? It is estimated that it will only be on the rush to stutter it!
Today's story comes from the sharing of netizen Li Yao.
After marriage, she supplemented her mother's family, causing dissatisfaction among her husbands and mother-in-law
Li Yao and her husband have been divorced for 3 years, when the two people got married, everyone around them felt that Li Yao had climbed her husband, and indeed, Li Yao's family conditions were not very good.
Li Yao has an older brother, but the older brother had a car accident in his 20s and became a vegetative person, his father was greatly hit by this incident, paralyzed in bed for many years, and his elderly mother got up early every day to take care of his father and brother.
Because of the special situation in Li Yao's family, almost no one was willing to give her a matchmaker at the beginning, and later Li Yao's distant cousin told her a family affair, and the two people also had a fate, and they got married not long after they interacted.
After Li Yao married her husband, not only had to take care of the affairs of the in-laws, but also had to take time from time to time to go back to her mother's house to help her mother take care of her father and brother, at first, Li Yao did not feel tired, but after running continuously for half a year, she was also a little powerless, and then Li Yao thought of going to her mother's house for half a month to live in her own home, staying in her own home for half a month, and not using it to run back, but her husband and mother-in-law did not agree.
"You have to care about the mess in your mother's house, your father and your brother are like that, what is the use of you running to help every day, you say that you yourself are affected, and you still take our family's money to supplement your mother's family, what is this?"
Indeed, after Li Yao married her husband, she had to take the money of her in-laws from time to time to supplement her mother's family, but she would not subsidize too much, after all, her family also needed money to live, Li Yao also understood that her husband and mother-in-law were definitely not satisfied with her behavior like this, but she also had no way, her father and brother had no labor, and her mother was old, so she could not leave the family's affairs alone, go out to work and earn money.
After marriage, she gave birth to a daughter, and the mother-in-law was very unhappy about it
After a year of marriage, Li Yao was pregnant, and after the mother-in-law learned the news of her pregnancy, she did not let her run to her mother's house to help, saying that she was afraid that the child in her stomach would have something to lose, but Li Yao did not go to her mother's house for half a month, and one day she suddenly received a call from her mother, and it turned out that her mother sprained her waist when she turned over to her father, and it hurt when she moved, and the family was completely chaotic, and even the food could not be eaten.
Li Yao thought that he would not be able to go, so he ignored the objections of her husband and mother-in-law, ran to her mother's house to cook for the three people in the family, fortunately, after two months, her mother's waist injury was much better, and Li Yao ran every day, the mother was distressed about her daughter, so she did not let her come, at that time Li Yao's stomach was not small, and it would not be long before she was born, so she did not go to her mother's house to help.
One day in the middle of the night, Li Yao felt that her stomach was very painful, she thought that she was probably going to give birth, so she woke up her husband who was sleeping next to her, and the husband did not expect li Yao to give birth in the middle of the night, so he hurriedly got up to pack up his things, and then called the mother-in-law next door and sent Li Yao to the hospital together, Li Yao gave birth all night before giving birth to the child.
The mother-in-law learned that Li Yao gave birth to a girl, she went home directly, and did not stay in the hospital to accompany her, stayed in the hospital for a week, Li Yao was discharged from the hospital, she wanted to breastfeed her daughter, but the daughter could not eat at all, she could only buy milk powder, a can of milk powder needs a lot of money, and two cans a month, the mother-in-law is both distressed about money, and li Yao has some dissatisfaction, so she let Li Yao go back to her mother's house to confinement in one breath.
Li Yao of course is not willing to go back to her mother's house to confinement, her father and brother need to be taken care of, the mother is also older, she takes the child back to her mother's house to sit confinement, the mother is more tired, but did not expect that the husband also agreed with the mother-in-law's approach, the mother-in-law gave Li Yao two choices, either take the child back to the mother's house to sit in confinement, or divorce the husband, what is this choice? Li Yao agreed to divorce her husband in a fit of anger.
The daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family was demolished, and the mother-in-law wanted her son and daughter-in-law to remarry
After the divorce, Li Yao took her daughter back to her mother's house, the life of her mother's family was difficult enough, after the mother and daughter returned, there were five people to eat, and the daughter still had to eat milk powder every month, and the life was tight, but the husband was unwilling to give any maintenance.
Li Yao was forced to go out to work to earn money, used to supplement the family, lost her daughter to her mother, although the life was difficult, but still have to live, fortunately, there is no invincible road, Li Yao's mother's family is to be demolished, her mother's family has five rooms, and she can also get a lot of demolition money.
Her mother's family wants to be demolished, Li Yao began to look for a house, she thought of the family to rent a house first, and then buy a house after getting the demolition money, she quickly found a suitable house, the family moved out, and it didn't take long to get the demolition money.
One day, Li Yao was cooking at home, the mother-in-law suddenly came to the door, so Li Yao was a little surprised, so many years of mother-in-law has not come to see her daughter, this time I don't know what noble work is.
The mother-in-law grabbed her daughter's hand, "Granddaughter, I heard that your grandmother's house was demolished and did not have land to live, and your grandmother took you home." ”
"I'm not going back, I'm going to be with my mother."
"You can go back to your grandmother's house with your mother."
Li Yao did not understand what the mother-in-law meant, the mother-in-law said that she wanted to take Li Yao and her daughter back together this time, she wanted Li Yao and her husband to remarry, Li Yao thought that the mother-in-law did not come early and did not come late, the mother-in-law was allocated the demolition money, she suddenly came to the door to take herself and her daughter back, this is not a weasel to the chicken to worship the New Year, is not at ease? It must have come for the demolition money of the mother's family.
"This is impossible, since the marriage has been divorced, it is impossible to resume, the daughter is your child, you want to come to see her, I have no opinion, I want to take her back to live for a few days, as long as she is willing, I will not interfere, but I can not go back, even if my mother's life is poor and bitter, I will not go back." 」
The mother-in-law saw that Li Yao was not willing to be anxious, Li Yao directly exposed the true intentions of the mother-in-law, she told the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law did not get much demolition money, the money was only enough to buy a house, the mother-in-law listened to what Li Yao said and left directly, and did not say that she wanted to take her daughter back to live for a few days.
Girls after marriage without scruples to buy things for the mother's family, it will indeed cause dissatisfaction between the mother-in-law and the husband, properly buy things for the mother-in-law, buy gifts should be, the mother-in-law should not interfere with this, the husband should not be dissatisfied with this, the affection between the children and the parents is precious and deep, after the daughter gets married and becomes a family, she will still remember her parents, and after the son gets married and becomes a family, she will still be filial to her parents, if the mother-in-law can understand this, she will not mind the daughter-in-law buying things for her parents.
Li Yao's mother-in-law was dissatisfied with her behavior of supplementing her mother's family, and later directly forced her to divorce her husband, and after learning that her mother's family had received the demolition money, she took the initiative to come to the door and wanted Li Yao and her husband to remarry, such a mother-in-law is really snobbish.
As a mother-in-law, you should be more tolerant of your daughter-in-law, don't mind too much the daughter-in-law patching up the mother's family, buying things for the mother-in-law's family, the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law has encountered difficulties, you as a relative, you should also reach out to help in time, rather than blocking the daughter-in-law, not letting the daughter-in-law to help, this is a bit excessive, who does not have a difficulty?
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