Emotions: 46-year-old woman and lover cheated for many years, one thing let me understand what is the husband and wife Ms. Lu, 46-year-old me and my husband are junior high school classmates, is a green plum bamboo horse. We are both first love. Until ten

Emotions: A 46-year-old woman has been cheating on her lover for many years, and one thing made me understand what a couple is

Ms. Lu, aged 46

My husband and I are junior high school classmates, and we are green plum bamboo horses. We are both first love. Until ten years ago, we both had a very good relationship, which made many people envy our husband and wife. Many people who know our love story sighed, and finally saw love again and could believe in love again. In fact, these are all superficial phenomena, and the real situation of our husband and wife has slowly changed from this look.

My husband's work pressure is getting more and more intense, my children's academic performance is in question, they have begun to rebel, and I seem to be in a state of early menopause. A family, like a powder keg, can ignite an entire space with a little ignition and then erupt into a heated argument. The relationship between husband and wife has become weaker, the relationship between father and son has become tense, the relationship between mother and child has become delicate, and the situation has become extremely tense. One day, on the way home, I was worried about my son's test scores. I accidentally almost hit a utility pole on the side of the road. At this time, a passing big brother reminded me to avoid my embarrassment and gaffe. I appreciated him, but he cared about me and asked me what was distracting me. I don't know why I entrusted the child's problems to him. Ye Qiao, who is of the same sex as her husband, both have the surname Zhang, and he happens to be in parenting education, and he has a lot of research on all aspects of children's education. He said he could help me. He suggested that it was possible to apply for youth training courses, which were not expensive. Before long, the child will change, and he and we are still in the same neighborhood. For the sake of the child, I have some feelings, because our husband and wife can no longer control him.

When I got home, I told my husband what I thought. Unexpectedly, my husband was not optimistic about this, saying that the school and the family were not good at teaching. If we train outside, can we teach well? In fact, I know that my husband is worried about being cheated on, and his work problems. His promotion to work was hindered, and his mood was already very depressed and disappointed. We only had one child. Isn't it a big deal that children don't get a good education? My position is firm. Even if I get cheated on, I try. For this reason, we had another quarrel and were silent for three days.

I took the initiative to take my children to the training class. When we went there, the teacher was explaining the pain that the mother suffered when she gave birth. I could clearly feel my son change, which strengthened my belief in sending him to training. But when my husband knew, he still looked at it disapprovingly, speaking in a very strange way, and there was a form of waiting to see my joke. In order to prove that I was right, I was very attentive to the training classes, and every time the children went, I would learn with them. Teacher Zhang really has a very good method. After a week, the children stopped talking back to us, stopped playing, and started to get conscious. I am very grateful to Ms. Zhang for making obvious changes in my children. He helped me out with this problem. Although he gave me money, fate brought us to know each other.

In this way, with gratitude, Mr. Zhang and I got closer and closer. In order to learn more about how to educate children, I often communicate with him and discuss. Slowly, we became friends and they told us everything. He's two years older than me and he also has a child. His wife is a stay-at-home wife, but she becomes somewhat deformed due to inattention to exercise. I once saw her from a great distance and said she was a bit of an exaggeration to say she was a moving hill, but with my thin figure, they couldn't catch up with her. In the process of communication, we will inevitably talk about the relationship between husband and wife. He said he was frustrated, but for the sake of his children and family, he didn't want a divorce. And I sometimes complain to him about my husband's shortcomings, don't understand women's suffering, don't work well, only know to come back and lose my temper with me, and so on. The more we talk, the more we feel like we're connected to each other. We've met once before, we've met once. In retrospect, this is often how extramarital affairs arise, with complaints at home, curiosity and sympathy outside.

Later, the son successfully survived the rebellious period, became filial and sensible, and his academic performance changed from a poor student to an excellent student. I am happy. Not only did my husband not believe that I had educated my children well, but he always felt embarrassed because of my bad job. We often had cold wars and ended up separated. He wouldn't budge, and I wouldn't give in, so they were deadlocked. Life is not satisfactory, I naturally think there is another teacher Zhang can talk to. So we made an appointment to have a drink together and have a chat. However, under the influence of alcohol, we became an underground couple. We all know that it is wrong to do this, especially Teacher Zhang, who is even a teacher who leads by example, but he just can't help but contact me. After cheating on Teacher Zhang, I felt very fresh and exciting, which I had never received from my husband. Although I know that this is not right, I also cherish this tenderness.

Since we all have families, it's natural to keep secrets when doing these things. Their relationship has been going on for almost a decade. In the last decade, no one has found anything unusual about us. Just last year, when we were dating, I suddenly felt some pain in my chest, and he sent me to the hospital for a check-up. My life is like a thunderbolt on a sunny day. The bad news came, my breasts were sick. If not removed, it may become cancerous. Hearing this news, Mr. Zhang Ran was so frightened that he did not dare to answer my call. When my husband found out, he immediately came to the hospital, went through all the hospitalization procedures for me, and comforted me vigorously. Don't worry, he'll be with me forever.

Time can witness everything, and time can destroy everything. And isn't it people who have changed all this? Your heart is positive and everything you see is pleasing to the eye. If your heart is negative, then everything you see is unsatisfactory. Between husband and wife, don't always complain, the other half is too demanding. No one is perfect. You see the guys out there are all good, just because he shows the good side, and when he shows flaws, you're gone. Moreover, after a person has an idea about you, he will deliberately show a good side in order to get your heart. Are you stupid enough to think that the men at home don't value you, and there are a lot of men out there waiting for you? If you really think so, you'll regret it for the rest of your life

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