Taking care of my seriously ill in-laws for many years She said she just did her part Mother-in-law: Thanks to the meticulous care of my daughter-in-law, I have lived for more than 20 years

"I just did what a daughter-in-law should do." Yao Lan, a good daughter-in-law who was praised by everyone, insisted that she had only done her part.

"People are the same when they are old, they have to understand"

Yao Lan, who lives with her mother-in-law in the Huaqi Dongjun Community of Hujiamiao in Xi'an City, has been taking care of her in-laws who are seriously ill since she married her husband Zhang Hua in 1999. Asked if she had ever worried about these difficulties, she said: "When I was in my early 20s, my father was good to me, and I didn't think about it so much. ”

Yao Lan told reporters that when she got married, her father-in-law was basically unable to take care of himself due to organ aging and Senile dementia, "My father-in-law was a village chief when he was young, and he was also a deputy to the municipal people's congress, he never forgot to go to the meeting when he was old, he shouted all day to go to the meeting, the old let me push him to the side of the road, and when he came to a car, he reached out to stop one, saying that he was afraid of pulling him to the meeting by mistake." I had to compensate the driver for not saying 'the brain is old and confused'. Yao Lan said, "At first I was a little embarrassed, but then I got used to it." People are the same when they are old, and they have to understand. ”

Yao Lan's mother-in-law was numb on the left side of her body after the cerebral hemorrhage in 1997 and has been unable to take care of herself. When she was pregnant with her daughter in 2001, Yao Lan insisted on taking care of the elderly until the third trimester of pregnancy, when she was bulky, she sought help from her eldest sister.

Because my grandparents have to take some medicine, it is a normal reaction to eating and making a stomach, for more than 20 years, my mother got up early every day to pour, urinate pots, including getting up in the early morning to clean up the dirt for my grandparents. Yao Lan's daughter said. "My mom has ear turin, and any time my grandpa and my grandma scream, my mom is definitely 'seconds back', and she probably sleeps with her heart. I didn't understand it when I was a child, and now I always want to help her. ”

In 2003, after the death of her father-in-law, Yao Lan concentrated on serving her mother-in-law. Or get up early to pour, urinate on the basin, brush the teeth of the elderly, and wash it at any time when you encounter diarrhea. Yao Lan said, "When the weather is good, I push the wheelchair to take the old man around, and then come back to prepare lunch." The old man's meal is simple, my mother likes to eat steamed bread, I will change the pattern to do, people are old to go along, don't always want to change her with a 'healthy' diet. ”

Yao Lan said that the cloud was light and breezy, but after a little empathy, she had to admire her who practiced such a mentality in triviality.

Yao Lan also insisted on an unwritten rule: every week relatives had to come to sit at home and come when they could, mainly to make the old man feel family affection and be happy. "In the past two years, due to the epidemic, this rule has not been adhered to."

Yao Lan said that the reason for this is that the old man used to live in the village, like to be lively, and there are many relatives in the family. Later, when she lived in the unit building, especially when she was sick, she always felt lonely, and she thought of inviting relatives to get together from time to time.

The eldest sister said: "Every Monday, the old man is happy, but he can add a lot of things to her (Yao Lan): prepare meals before the party, and clean up after the meeting." Once or twice is nothing, but she has insisted on it for so many years, it is really not easy. ”。

The 82-year-old mother-in-law also couldn't help but boast: "My daughter-in-law here is very kind to me." When I first fell ill, I thought that I might not be a few days away, but my daughter-in-law took good care of me and lived for more than 20 years! It's good, blessed. ”

As soon as the mother-in-law spoke, Yao Lan quickly said: "Mom, you don't have to say anything, it's all mutual, and my mother is also very good to me." ”

But Yao Lan felt a little guilty about her parents, she said: "My parents are still in good health, these years I have been busy taking care of my mother-in-law, I can only occasionally go back to visit, thank them for their understanding." Huashang Daily reporter Fu Qimeng text/photo