I was playing chess in the neighborhood, and the next door neighbor made a phone call: "Uncle, can you come back quickly, your daughter is back, and she is smashing the door of your house", I heard the neighbor's words, I was too late

I was playing chess in the neighborhood, the next door neighbor made a phone call: "Uncle, can you come back quickly, your daughter is back, and she is smashing the door of your house", hearing the neighbor's words, I did not have time to think much, immediately rushed back with crutches, I know how terrible my daughter who does not learn no skills is, I am afraid that I really pushed my door open when I was not there.

I am 76 years old, my wife has been dead for more than 10 years, and I have only one only child. I retired from the bank, and now my retirement salary is more than 7,000, and I still have 1 million savings, all of which have been defeated by the loser's daughter.

When my daughter graduated from college in her 20s, my wife and I arranged a door-to-door marriage for her, thinking that she would like it, but I did not expect her to die and not marry.

Later, without our consent, my daughter quietly went outside to work, and when she came back, the children were 3 years old. The man is from the countryside, and the conditions at home are really poor. I was angry with my son-in-law who could not meet this condition, so I scolded my daughter a few times.

The daughter said back: "Who I marry myself has nothing to do with you, I like to marry whomever I want, why do I want you to arrange marriage for me, now that I have children with him, are you going to break us up", hearing her rebellious words, I couldn't help but teach her a lesson, so she held a grudge against me and my wife. Fortunately, my wife and I have a strong ability to bear it in our hearts, otherwise we must be angry with her.

Later, my wife took the initiative to apologize and admit my mistake, and we admitted this son-in-law. I took the money to buy a house for their husband and wife in the provincial city, and also found a decent job for their son-in-law, so that they could rest assured that they would develop in the provincial city and stop working. Either way, she was my only daughter after all, and I couldn't have watched her family suffer.

When his wife died, his daughter and son-in-law came to the funeral. Seeing that they were filial piety, I gave them all the property in my wife's name.

But within a few years, my daughter and son-in-law became lazy and lazy, often came to me to ask for money, and I tried to give every time, who let me be such an only daughter!

And I often receive calls from the leaders of the son-in-law's unit: "Uncle, it's not that I don't help, your son-in-law really doesn't do anything, he acts in your name all day, eats and is lazy and doesn't say, but adds to the chaos of other colleagues, if you hadn't helped me, I really wanted to fire him."

Every time I receive such a call, I am really helpless, only to blame myself for not educating my daughter well, making her useless, and marrying such a man. Sometimes in the middle of the night, I will always cry, what evil have I done, and I have to let my daughter who is not a tool torture me.

Fortunately, my grandson is more sensible, and he knows to come and accompany me every time he takes a vacation. If it weren't for the face of the grandson, the daughter and son-in-law I am really too lazy to manage, let them go to toss it, the big deal I will return to heaven after the property, whatever they do, anyway, I can't see it.

Last year, my grandson was admitted to a key university, which gave me hope, at least my bloodline was continued in his body. As soon as I was happy, I transferred one of my suites to his name.

Maybe the daughter and son-in-law saw that I was generous again, and after several times I came to the house to set up a set with me, I opened my mouth and asked me for 500,000 yuan to buy a car, and I scolded them again in a huff: "Don't learn no skills, eat, drink and have fun, show off and cheat"...

In fact, I really don't understand what they are in a hurry, and now I don't have many years to live, even if my body is still healthy, but I am also a strong outsider, and I have already been dead. Isn't the money I can't use up also theirs, as for the unreasonable demand every day? Sometimes my daughter would even smash the door of my house to express her dissatisfaction with me and want to grab that feeling directly.

And yesterday, I was playing chess with a few old guys in the community, and the next door neighbor made a phone call to me: "Uncle, come back, your daughter is here again, and she is smashing your door again", hearing the neighbor's words, I didn't have time to think about it, and I could only rush back on crutches.

When I got to the door, my daughter grabbed me and cried and said, Dad, please help me, he fought with people, entered the bureau, other people's families want us to pay for medical expenses, don't lose money, don't let people go, I thought you didn't open the door at home, so I knocked the door...

I feel that this scene is a bit strange, although the son-in-law is useless, but where does he have the courage to fight, if he is bold, he would have done a career a long time ago. I guess it must be a new trick for daughter and son-in-law.

I pretended to be angry, asked what was going on, my daughter did not say anything, I called my son-in-law, shut down, I was ready to pretend to go to the bureau to ask about the situation, my daughter stopped me, she said: "In fact, we lost more than 100,000 gambling, he was detained, but I can only find you, otherwise where do we get money to pay back"...

Listening to my daughter's truth, I was really helpless, they used me as a cash cow, since the death of my wife, I have successively given them at least 1 million, but I can't stand them to lose like this. If they used it on the right path, I would give it no matter what, but it was used to engage in crooked ways, and I was speechless.

This time I directly rejected my daughter, my idea is not to let them suffer a little, they do not know how to cherish, will not grow. Not to mention that people who are almost 50 years old, how can they still be like children, they know how to play and play all day long...

I saw my daughter's expression of despair, but I couldn't bear it, after all, it was my fault, I lacked discipline for her since I was a child, so that she does not learn any techniques now. But my reason overcame my impulse, and I still didn't give her the money.

Am I a qualified father?

@Moving Emotions I would like to say:

First of all, you are not a qualified father, after all, you and your wife pay attention to the door to the door, arrange the daughter's marriage events, let her have a rebellious psychology, so that she went out to work, the personality deteriorated, and married a man who was not a tool, resulting in the daughter's change.

But then you also did what a father should do, did not look down on the son-in-law, but helped them countless times, only blame themselves for being a dou they could not afford, you did enough.

In the future, you can no longer help them excessively, otherwise you will form a habit, and if you don't give it once, it will cause unnecessary family conflicts. #情感 #