After getting married, I found that my husband's family was so powerful, and when there was a crisis in his mother's family and needed help, he tried his best to clear himself and was indifferent. If you had encountered such a situation, what would you do? If a couple encounters difficulties but cannot face and solve them together, and all the difficulties are borne by one of the parties, then the marriage is easy to break. Husband and wife as one, should have worked together to get through the difficulties, if one party left the other party alone, then the relationship will also be rifted.
As the saying goes:
"Only in times of affliction can we see the truth."
This ordeal, for Mo Xianxian and Liu Ke in the article, is actually not a big problem of life and death, nor is it difficult to step over, but Liu Ke can do nothing in the face of his wife's close relatives, and even draw a clear line with his wife's family, which is nothing more than not wanting to cause trouble, nor does he want to share the difficulties faced by his wife. It was his selfish behavior that led to the crisis of marriage.
01. Not long after I got married, my brother failed to start a business and faced bankruptcy, at this time my husband actually proposed the AA system;
Not long after Mo Xianxian and Liu Ke got married, Mo Xianxian's brother came with bad news, her brother's company had a big project problem, and now the company's capital turnover is not good, facing bankruptcy.
Mo Xianxian was very anxious because of this matter, and he directly remitted a part of his savings to his brother, wanting to help him get through the difficulties, and found some of his good friends to borrow money. Originally, Mu Xianxian also wanted to ask her husband Liu Ke for help, but after thinking about her husband's family situation, and not long after the two were married, Liu Ke had already spent a lot of money, so Mo Xianxian had already dismissed the plan to go to her husband's family for help.
Mo Xianxian's brother's company was so moving, Liu Ke's family naturally knew about these things, Liu Ke's mother immediately called her son and said: "I tell you, you must not lend money to your brother-in-law, his company is about to go bankrupt, it is a bottomless pit, how much money is not enough." Even if your daughter-in-law begs you, you can't say yes. Liu Ke felt a little unhappy about his mother's tough tone: "Mom, Xian Xian, she didn't ask me to borrow money, she paid her own money, she found a friend to borrow, and people are relatives after all..." Liu Ke immediately interrupted: "The relatives who have just married are not related by blood, and your daughter-in-law is still looking for someone else to borrow money?" No, the debts they owe the Mo family, they pay back themselves, but they can't involve our Liu family, from now on you and her AA system, our two families have their own flowers. Liu Ke wanted to refute it, but he felt that his mother's words made sense, so he hung up the phone without saying anything more.
When Mo Xianxian returned home, Liu Ke hesitated for a moment, but still said his plan. After Mo Xianxian listened, her heart was angry and disappointed, she understood that it was not all her husband's idea, it was her own mean mother-in-law's decision, but if her husband didn't have that kind of mind, how could he tell himself about it? Mo Xianxian was already angry and laughed, and said, "Well, I have no problem, since I want the AA system, then I will strictly implement it from now on, each earns its own money, each spends its own money, and does not interfere with each other!" ”
02. I strictly abide by the rules of the AA system, but I have caused my husband to complain, and my husband is so double-standard;
Since that day, Mo Xianxian and Liu Ke have really lived a life of AA system, but this life has made Liu Ke very uncomfortable.
Because usually the housework at home is done by Mo Xianxian, but since the AA system, Mo Xianxian said that the housework at home should be shared in turn, and Liu Ke could not find a reason to refute it. Worse, no one had to cook for themselves, they had to buy their own food and cook.
Within two days, Liu Ke couldn't stand it, he said: "You only cook for yourself, completely ignore me, don't you think it's a bit excessive?" Mo Xianxian replied: "As a man, the amount of food is naturally larger than mine, even if you take turns cooking, but the cost of ingredients spent on each meal is difficult to calculate, so in the future, you will still cook your own meal." So Liu Ke was very sad to find that since the implementation of the AA system, his quality of life has dropped a lot, and only half of the housework spread to him has made him breathless. He suddenly realized that housework was such a heavy burden, but these things had always been done by his wife Mo Xianxian. Liu Ke already regretted his original decision, but because he couldn't pull down his face, he didn't say anything remorseful, and he planned to mess it up.
During this time, Mo Xianxian was trying to assist his brother's company to resume operations, and there was no time to take care of Liu Ke. In the end, with the concerted efforts of the brothers and sisters, the company finally survived this difficult time and resumed normal operations, and after a period of time, the brothers and sisters had gathered enough money to pay off all the debts. In order to thank his sister for his help, Mo Xianxian's brother gave another share of the company to Mo Xianxian.
03. My mother-in-law came to my house for the New Year, ate all the supplements my brother bought for me, and I followed the AA rules to charge her.
After Mo Xianxian's brother's company resumed operation, he made a lot of money, and with gratitude to his sister, Mo Xianxian's brother bought a lot of expensive ingredients for her with a wave of his hand, and also sent her a big red envelope.
Since the implementation of the AA system, the relationship between Mo Xianxian and Liu Ke has become worse and worse, this year's New Year, Mo Xianxian does not even want to share a room with her husband, and her mother-in-law also wants to come to live at home, so she ran back to her mother's house, but Mo Xianxian put the dried scallops, fish lips, flower glue and other ingredients that her brother gave to her at home and did not bring them back.
When Mo Xianxian returned from her mother's house, she found that her mother-in-law was eating her flower glue, and when she looked at the gift box sent by her brother, the contents had all been eaten. Liu Ke was on the sidelines at this time, very embarrassed. Looking at his husband's cowering appearance, Mo Xianxian did not intend to give him face, and directly asked: "Why don't you tell me in advance when you eat my things, without my consent?" Liu Ke's mother rushed to the side at this time: "What is your stuff, put it in this family, who knows it is yours?" Besides, if you eat it all, do you still want me to spit it out? Mo Xianxian saw Liu Ke and said, "You don't know, but your son knows." Liu Ke couldn't help it at this time: "Can't stop making trouble, the big New Year's Day, with his mother-in-law so preoccupied, is not too ashamed?" ”
Mo Xianxian saw her husband's attitude and thought to himself: I used to be how blind my eyes were, and I would only look at such a useless mother treasure man. Disappointed, he said, "The AA system was proposed by your mother and son, and now you don't recognize it?" "Isn't that just a few stinky dollars?" You won't get it. Liu Ke said angrily. Mo Xianxian began to calculate the account: "Well, I will calculate it later, I went back to my mother's house for a few days, the rent and water and electricity that my mother-in-law came to live in, and my brother sent me supplements, he bought these things but there are bills, a total of ..." After listening to Mo Xianxian's offer, Liu Mother was angry: "It's too outrageous, how is it more expensive than staying in a five-star hotel?" ”
Mo Xianxian did not speak, looking at Liu Ke, and finally Liu Ke gritted his teeth to transfer money to Mo Xianxian. If you make such a scene, you can't get along, and Mo Xianxian doesn't want this useless husband anymore, so he chooses to divorce.
It can be said that Liu Ke is a very irresponsible husband, he ignores the contribution of his wife Mo Xianxian in the family, only when the responsibilities of these families are shared with him, he knows how uncomfortable it is, but the pain he suffers is from himself, he has never considered her from the perspective of his wife.
One emotion blogger once wrote:
"The breakdown of a marriage sometimes doesn't require external forces, it's enough to just need the indifference of one party."
Liu Ke's indifferent behavior is the reason for the breakdown of his marriage. He did not dare to contradict his mother, and also showed his cowardice. For such a cowardly person, how could Mo Xianxian, who has a successful career and does not lack money to spend, look up to it? It is not surprising that she will eventually choose to leave when she wakes up. Perhaps only after some hardships can the two parties in the marriage find out whether the other party is their own lover and whether they can spend their lives with themselves.