Wilde said: Once people have love, they will begin to deceive themselves, but they always end up deceiving others.
Talking about why people now do not want to fall in love more and more, I remember a friend who said: I am afraid of the way I am when I am in love, I can't let go of myself, and I can't spare others.
It seems that most people have such moments, once they fall into a relationship, as if they have some kind of illness, when they fall in love with someone, all the suspicion, fear, suspiciousness, stinginess, jealousy, will frantically pounce on the person they love. There is no way to convince yourself, there is no way to comfort the lover, in the final analysis, it is not that you don't want to fall in love, but you are afraid of the stubborn self.
So there are always people who say, I don't believe in love, I don't believe in fate, I'm just afraid of losing myself because I love others.
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Recently, when chasing "We Who Won't Fall in Love", there is really a heroine played by Jin Chen, and although Zhao Jiangyue is incompetent in love, she has everything independently and soberly except for love.
Outside the play, talking about the topic of love and marriage, Jin Chen also said: I am very envious of Zhao Jiangyue, I keep my inner choice in everything, always believe in love and have the courage to pursue love, for Zhao Jiangyue, do not pay attention to the world's evaluation, girls no matter how old, should marry love.
It can be said that inside and outside the play, this view of love is very attitude, but I do not fully agree.
Although you can always see the anxiety about love marriage on the Internet, there are always people who continue to create panic for the leftover men and women, of course, more for the "leftover women", as if not to fall in love, not to marry and not to have children, life will be how miserable.
To put it bluntly, people can be long or short in this life, and no one knows what tomorrow will be like, so why not worry about the unknown future all day long, why not just do every day of the present? When you are single, you enjoy the freedom of being single, and after you get married, you will run the world of two people well, rather than not understanding your own life and pointing fingers at the choices of others.
I have always felt that how to live a day, how to live a lifetime, even people who have not lived well in front of them, may handle their future lives properly? Don't use the moment to regret the past, don't use the moment to fear the future, all we can do is live up to the present.
Somehow, every time I write about the topic of the concept of mate selection, but when the word "leftover" is mentioned, I can often receive a message or private message from black powder in the background, and I will fire at the leftover woman at every turn, what is old is a pile of bacon, picked when you are young, and then there will be a time when you cry. I think that most of the people who can say these words are big people who can't marry their daughters-in-law!
Whether a woman marries or not, or when she marries, or what kind of person she marries, probably has nothing to do with any troll, right? Those foot-cutting men who hate women don't just hope that most women can be blind and deaf in marriage issues, and it is best not to have any additional conditions, so that they can deceive their daughters-in-law!
However, dreaming to dreaming, people still have to be realistic, this life is not long, short is not short, living comfortably is the most important, do not live in the rules and regulations set by others, or that sentence: excellent women do not need to worry about feelings, downward compatibility is unfortunate.
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Everyone's views on whether girls should marry love are different, and there is no absolute right or wrong. Although love has not always been the end of the relationship between men and women, marriage is. But with the progress of the times, with the change of people's three views, marriage and love have long been not everyone's life necessities.
I think that no matter how old a girl is, she will marry if she wants to, and if she does not want to marry, she will not marry; it is not noble to marry love, and it is not vanity to marry material and marry to the door; marrying herself and marrying her career can also be a good choice, and people should live according to their own wishes instead of being forced by the obscure waves of society.
In short, in an era when feelings come and go quickly, the sober choice of marrying nothing is not as reliable as marrying yourself. After all, love can not be eaten as a meal, and marrying a marriage that you think is right is likely to be longer, after all, no one is married to run for divorce!
Although true love is beautiful, but not everyone is fortunate to be able to meet, in this materialistic society, how many people are dedicated to sacrificing for love, but in the end they find that the so-called love is just their own bravery and efforts. Therefore, the phrase marrying love is quite harmful chicken soup for most people.
I think the proper understanding of this sentence should be: at all times, we must believe that we have the right and qualifications to marry love, but we may not only marry love.
There are more people and things in life full of variables, especially those related to emotions, once the cost of making choices is very high, prudence is the most important.
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In this era, love is a particularly luxurious existence, I have seen too many women who have fallen badly because of love, and I have to say that the premise of the so-called marriage to love is that the love is reliable enough and long enough.
But is it possible? Imagination is always beautiful, but reality is always cruel!
For those who wish to enter into marriage, all the choices are from the heart. You must not get married with a hot brain, even if it is because of love, you must understand that love has a shelf life.
Too many facts have proved that after marriage, the freshness dissipates, the filter fades, the shortcomings of both sides will be exposed, coupled with the need to run for chai rice oil and salt, quarrels, complaints, accusations will follow, there will be high expectations for marriage disappointed, feel that they are married to the wrong person, and the end of married life is a mess.
There are many people who think that a woman marrying love is to find someone who loves herself and you love, but this is a very abstract concept in itself. I think that the so-called marriage to love is that no matter how long after you get married, you can have a "love mode of getting along", that is, your communication with your other half is to not destroy the emotional experience.
But this point is difficult in the face of reality, because the biggest contradiction of most couples with broken feelings is poor communication, and the most gentle way to deal with problems is cold violence, so how can it be possible to manage a good marriage.
In the drama "We Won't Fall in Love", the heroine played by Jin Chen is an elite woman with an annual salary of one million, a successful career, and superior conditions, of course, they have the confidence, conditions will not be, can choose to marry love, what about ordinary people?
Choosing love is romantic, but romance can't be eaten as a meal for a lifetime, can't it? I think that whether it is early marriage or late marriage, the important thing is not time, but choosing the right partner. And this "right" may be based on love, may be based on material, may also be based on character.
People's personalities are different, the pursuit is different, love is very important for some people, but for some people bread is more important, I hope that all girls, no matter how old, consider clearly what you want to get back when they dedicate themselves to marriage! Regardless of men and women, whether you love or not, please absolutely pay attention to each other's character!
In today's society, personal feelings are particularly important, even if you will be called selfish, please make yourself happy, get married if you want to get married, and always fall in love or be beautiful alone if you don't want to get married. Everyone chooses differently, so do what you think is right.
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Late recommendation: The style is changeable, the preference is single, and I know that you will come, so I am waiting