Nowadays, the pace of this society is particularly fast, and the feelings between people heat up relatively quickly, but the cooling is also relatively fast.
A few years ago, I heard that a friend had a flash marriage again, and this friend had talked about a boyfriend of 7 or 8 years before, but a few days ago, I didn't know why I broke up with my boyfriend.
After the breakup, the friend married an uncle, and the two had known each other for only 15 days before receiving a marriage license.
I was surprised to look at each other, I thought this day was like a dream, unbelievable, but the other party thought it was all normal.
The other party said that if it is not in line with my wishes, then divorce will be OK.
However, after experiencing the failure of marriage, I feel that this person's idea is more naïve, because the marriage has passed to the end, the more you will understand that there is only one kind of woman who is really not afraid of divorce:
This kind of woman who has confidence is not afraid of divorce, and will be very domineering when divorced.
01. Grow continuously to have confidence
At that time, after this friend got married, he was at home, living the life of a husband and a godson, so the distance between him and us became farther and farther away.
This friend thought exactly the same as I did back then, I thought this way when I married my ex-husband, at that time I was looking for this person, not only handsome and handsome, but also a person with a particularly strong work ability, after the two people got married, I stopped growing, because I felt that I could rely on each other for everything.
When I first got married, I was at home every day, and I felt that at home it was very comfortable, I didn't have to do anything, and the food and drink were bought by the nanny.
Gradually, I became a person who stayed at home and ate and ate.
I used to be proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and I often performed in school at that time, but I didn't think that I was unfamiliar with my hands later, and my skills were not as good as people.
I thought that every woman married is the same, she will no longer develop her own strengths, because the focus is at home, and then look at the circle of friends to find that many friends do not know anything before, but after getting married, they have learned a lot, and they have been in the circle of friends all day to dry some works.
When you don't grow, not only do you not grow in your strengths, your temperament will become less good.
Born from the heart, your appearance will also be decadent, you yourself will not have self-confidence, want to divorce and fear that after the divorce will be more miserable.
After a woman gets married, she must also grow, and she must know how to invest in herself and make herself better and better.
02. To have foresight is also confidence
If a woman does not have vision, then this woman cannot become a climate.
Women with vision have confidence, because women with vision have long been prepared for the long term, at this time to divorce this man, it seems that women are very sad, in fact, women have their own way, after divorce is not afraid.
Some women are wary when they get married, so they make themselves better in marriage, and everything gives themselves the upper hand.
Seeing a news in the past few days, I was deeply touched:
A woman posted a WeChat chat record, this WeChat chat record, the husband does not give her too much money, the husband said to her that there is only five hundred yuan a month of living expenses, and then she can't stand it and exposes this matter, and then the woman cries and cries, and many people sympathize with her.
Although this woman deserves sympathy, I have to say that when you and men care about it, why don't you hide a little private money for yourself, and you yourself have not gone to work to earn money and save money. That's why it's going to be that way now.
Women must not feel that this man is just starting to be nice to you, you forget everything, you especially trust this man, feel that as long as the other party is there, then everything is not a problem.
People must not put the fate of a lifetime on others, when a woman marries someone, she can sincerely marry the other party, but also know how to love herself and make plans for herself.
Some women always want to have a good relationship with their in-laws when they marry, and they do not put their parents in the first place. In fact, with the support of your mother's family, your relationship with your in-laws will not be too bad.
In the TV series "Ruyi Zhuan", Yingfei is a good example, although this concubine did not have children, the status is not very high, but no one dares to provoke, because behind her is the Mongolian forty-nine, everyone will give her three points, even the emperor does not dare to do anything excessive.
Therefore, women with vision will keep what they have later, and after marrying others, they will further need the forces that are beneficial to themselves.
Instead of abandoning everything you had before when you are about to get married, and then starting again with a man and desperately integrating into his family, this will make women insecure, and one day you will divorce and don't know where to go.
03. If you want a career, you have a hole card
When women marry, they always look at whether the man's work is good or not, and women feel that it is all right to marry a person who works well, in fact, the woman's own work is more important.
Women with careers are attractive women, have more say at home, and when they keep asking men for money, men will also feel annoyed. When you don't have a career, you want a man to accompany you, and the man will feel that you are idle and have nothing to do, so he pesters himself and says something that makes you chill.
Wait until one day your relationship is about to break down, at this time you want to divorce, but you have no salary, so you want to take the child away can not, so the court will also feel that men are more suitable for raising children, will feel that you are not suitable for raising children, this is the reality.
Women who have a career, even if the job does not make much money, but you will also contact a lot of people, you will not be eliminated by this society, after the divorce you can also support yourself, you also have your own friends.
Song Dandan said that after he divorced her ex-husband, she found that she did not have a friend, and she felt that people's hearts were complicated. Song Dandan was married to a director, and there were many people around him at that time, but then he divorced, and this person did not care about Song Dandan for work.
She found that these friends are not her own friends, but the friends of her ex-husband, at this time Song Dandan also experienced a psychological blow, and later she found that only if she is getting better and better, there will be more and more friends, and she can have her own friends.
Therefore, a woman with achievements in her career, even if she is divorced, has friends, and will not be lonely, otherwise if one day you want to divorce and you find that there is no one behind you, then you will also shrink back, and you will continue to tremble in this relationship, and continue to swallow.
Marriage can make a woman, but it can also ruin a woman. Someone said, "It's better to do well than to marry." ”
But if you don't do a good job yourself, then even if you marry well, you will not feel safe. Because these things are not yours, one day the other party will not help you when they are unhappy, and you will have nothing. Therefore, women must have their own confidence in order to have the ability to divorce.