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In other words, in recent years, I have often seen some remarks on the Internet such as "don't go near men" and "unmarried and infertile to ensure safety".
I think that love itself is not a flood beast!
In the face of feelings, we need to be rational, we need to weigh, and we need to protect ourselves.
But that doesn't mean socializing with a closed mindset and completely shutting out the opposite sex.
When we are alone, of course, we can arrange our own lives and enjoy the joy of being single; when we find the other half of our lives, we can also feel the beauty of love freely.
Today, I will share with you an ordinary but a little warm love story.
Image source: Stills from the movie "She in the Sun"
@Anonymous
At 30, I had a boyfriend, but he was tepid to me.
In the later period, he was coldly violent, never received a phone call, and sent a message to reply with "Oh" and "Yes" in half a day.
Even by looking at his circle of friends, I realized that he was traveling with his friends.
But it may be that the first impression is not bad, or it may be that I am worried that I will not find anything better than this, and I have not broken up.
Image source: Stills from the movie "33 Days of Lost Love"
One day, I came out with a few sisters and had one of them teach me a lesson.
My sisters, let's call them ABC.
A is the eldest eldest sister, who worked a few years earlier and just walked from campus love to marriage hall.
B, C and I are not married.
B is a year younger than I am and has just broken up with my ex. She said she didn't trust men anymore.
C is two years older than me, the mother-fetus solo, said that she was already watching "How Women Live Their Lives Gracefully Alone......
Image source: Stills from the movie "Say I Love You Through the Rain"
At that time, we both complained about our emotional experiences one by one.
I first began to complain about my boyfriend, saying that this love feeling is better than not talking about it.
B said, you are not as good as mine, what do you keep?
C said, are you having a problem with communication? Last time you also said that he was very busy at work, talk more.
The married eldest sister A just watched us without speaking.
Then B also began to complain, saying that her ex-boyfriend was stabbed by a thousand knives, only half a year away, and rushed to find a colleague little sister to offer hospitality, disgusting, and never wanted to mention him again.
We comforted B that there would be better. A still doesn't speak.
C, quiet personality, belongs to the typical engineering women, during the university someone chased, but felt that it was out of town, did not agree.
Who knows that after work, the one who is blind dated is not as good as one, the typical like her she does not look up to, the people she looks up to do not like, and has always remained single.
That day she said, she kind of wanted to give up.
At this time, A tilted his head and smiled slightly, and finally spoke:
"If you want to say it, don't worry.
There are billions of people in the world, why can the four of us become friends and sit here and chat together? That's fate.
The so-called hundred years of repair can be crossed by the same boat, and the millennium is repaired to sleep together. Being able to become a husband and wife is a great fate.
Tell me, a few of you, now is the fate has not yet arrived, don't worry, it is useless to be anxious.
When the real fate arrives, the water will come to fruition, and it may be solved within a year from realizing marriage to holding a baby! ”
We have said, how is it possible?
Whoever flashes a marriage we will never flash marry!
Then, punched in the face...
In the year after that, first B quickly found his true destiny.
Image source: Stills from the movie "Chunjiao Saves Zhiming"
A colleague had introduced her to a boy before, but because she was seven years older than the other party, she didn't meet after only a few words.
I was struggling with regrets, and as a result, another friend introduced a boy of the same age, and this time I met quickly, and I didn't expect to see it at first sight!
Although I didn't say it directly, after the first May Day holiday after meeting, B sent a photo of two people traveling together, the boy gently put his arm around her, and the two people smiled happily.
Then there was C, her friend got married, she was a bridesmaid, she met the groomsmen, and when we talked, we found that there were many common hobbies!
On their first solo date, the two of them talked about closing at the restaurant after dinner, and then switched to the barbecue restaurant, talking until one o'clock in the morning.
Image source: Stills from the movie "Your Wedding"
Then insert the situation of me at that time.
At that time, I had broken up with my ex-boyfriend, and several sisters were sprinkled with dog food, happy for them, but also worried about my future events.
I am in an eighteenth-tier city, and we still have more women and fewer men here.
I'm almost 31 years old, and boys of the right age, either tall and good looking, or personality, or family, are always obvious shortcomings.
Or it is a boy who is very balanced and excellent in all aspects, but people are also very picky.
For example, the girl is required to be tall, beautiful, and do all kinds of housework, but also to be able to deal with things and be good to him, but it is really impossible to deal with him.
Every time the company comes to a new young boy, everyone first asks if they are single, and if they are single, there will definitely be many people who will introduce them soon.
And I, getting older, every time a colleague promised to introduce me to a partner, after asking me about my age, there was no news.
Speaking back to the BC two sisters.
The first to receive the license was B, who had known each other for less than a hundred days.
One day, after eating dog food again, I asked her when are you going to get married?
She said it was recent, but there have been no good days on the yellow calendar recently.
I said when the fastest better day would be, and she said it would be two months later.
I said, that's okay too!
Who knows B said, oops, I think it's too late, I want to get the license early!
Then B became a thorough materialist, no longer caring about the feudal superstition, and went directly to the marriage registry on the 100th day of acquaintance...
At this time, I was still a single dog, and my heart was secretly anxious.
Until once, my company group organized several branch colleagues to have weekend activities and go to the ancient town dozens of kilometers away.
I've been in the company for so long that I don't know much with my colleagues in other branches.
When I got to my destination, I got out of the car, thirteen or four girls, only five boys, but immediately let me catch a glimpse of one of them!
Image source: Stills from the movie "Love Letters"
At first glance, I thought, Ah, this person looks good! I don't know if there is an object.
Then when everyone was chatting casually, I secretly observed and found that he did not have a female companion.
I asked him what year he was born, and he was three years younger than me! The heart was half cold, and there was definitely no drama.
After that, we had a chat like this, and I secretly took a picture of him, and I couldn't help but look at him a few times.
When he saw that he was very active in helping everyone take the dishes and chopsticks during the meal, he was secretly admired.
In the afternoon sun was very good, in the small pavilion by the lake, everyone sat in a circle and played UNO. A lot of people don't, learn and play, and have fun.
I remember the sunshine, sprinkling on the ends of his hair and on his shoulders.
He smiled so much, and when he smiled, his teeth were neatly revealed, and his eyes became a crooked moon, which was really beautiful.
Later, I made one last effort – we didn't go back in one car, and when I got in the car, I sent him a message and asked him if he was leaving?
I thought to myself, if he doesn't return, or if he doesn't return perfunctory, then forget it.
Unexpectedly, an hour later, I received a message from him that he had arrived home and asked me what I was doing.
Ha ha! I was overjoyed, maybe he was interested in me!
Later, we developed like a rocket.
Every day we got tired of being together, after dinner, after shopping, I was sent home at nine o'clock, and when I came downstairs to my house, I said that we should go to a barbecue.
On the sixth day of our acquaintance, he told me that he hoped it wouldn't bother me because he really liked me and had no other idea of staying with me a little longer.
This sentence really touched me, because I also wanted to stay with him a little longer!
For the first time in my life, I learned what love is.
The sky was full of him, just wanting to be together.
It's fun to do whatever you want, everything else doesn't matter, he's the whole world!
Image source: Stills from the movie "That Summer, The Sea of Tranquility"
Very smoothly, after eight months of knowing each other, we registered for marriage.
I don't think we're married, and although we haven't known each other for a long time, we've been together almost day and night in the past few months, and we've learned a lot about everything.
I also experienced the feeling that B said before that I didn't want to delay any longer and wanted to get a license quickly, snapping my face, haha.
Knowing each other and loving each other is not the end of the story.
Marriage is the starting point of another journey, it takes more wisdom, patience and love, to live with heart, to run a good business, and to live up to the sunshine of that day!
Bing Summary:
Before a reader fat friend left a message, she 31-year-old mother fetus solo, sometimes confused about feelings and life:
Did you live like this in your life? It's comfortable to be single, and I don't want to fall in love.
In fact, she is only 31, still very young, will it be too early to draw conclusions about life now?
There are still many warm and beautiful love stories in this world, and I hope that fat friends will not despair of love.
If you can really meet people who you like and like you, get along comfortably, respect each other, love each other, and even accompany you for a lifetime, of course, it is also a happy experience.
And the fate of this thing is really wonderful, maybe one day it will come, you can't stop it.
But fate is also affected by the acquired environment, and even by our own mentality.
The only thing we need to do is to open ourselves, bravely go out, Meimeida takes every day seriously, does not give up on ourselves, and does not face life with a closed and resistant mentality.
Toxic feelings and people are thrown away as soon as possible to wait until the right person appears. As long as we are not blind, then I believe that you will be able to feel what true love is (but do not advocate flash marriage!). ）。
There are still a few days to valentine's day, I hope this article can bring you good luck, I wish everyone can finally become a family with a lover.