In the past, the divorce rate in rural areas was low, but the suicide rate and mortality rate of women were particularly high... I was born in the 1980s in a small rural village in the north that is mainly agricultural production. In my memory, most families

In the past, the divorce rate in rural areas was low, but the suicide rate and mortality rate of women were particularly high...

I was born in the 1980s in a small rural village in the north that is mainly agricultural production. In my memory, most of the family models are "male and female", men work odd jobs to support the family in their spare time, and women work at home to take care of the land and take care of the elderly and children.

Before 2,000, I rarely heard the word "divorce," and there were no divorced families in the whole village. Every family seems to be "solid". But were women really happy back then?

On the contrary, women in marriages were very unhappy at that time.

When I was a child, I often heard that whose wife drank pesticides, whose daughter-in-law was beaten into the hospital again, who ran out and has not yet returned...

At that time, women were in a dilemma in marriage: enter? Can't bring down the husband's family, take the child away and it is difficult for another person to support the child, can only hide the bullying of the in-laws' family; retreat? The mother's family has brothers and brothers, and the daughter is "spilled water", where is there room?

divorce? At that time, divorce was basically equivalent to a great rebellion and shame, and even the children were looked down upon, so most women could only choose to break their teeth and swallow in their stomachs for the sake of having a "complete family" for their children; they really couldn't stand it, and the woman with a strong personality grabbed the pesticide bottle and grunted and drank it to death, or she would go away alone and never come back...

Therefore, at that time, there were more victims of domestic violence than now, and there were not a few people who caused madness...

Perhaps just as the so-called "where there is oppression, there is resistance", the high divorce rate now is women's struggle against fate...