I see a phenomenon, a phenomenon that is very common in our place
There are two girls in the family, and after the girls get married, whether they are local or foreign, they have children, and they let their mothers take them
My cousin's two daughters, when they were not married, my cousin and brother were working in Zhengzhou for more than ten years! After the eldest girl had a child, she left the child to my sister-in-law; I thought that my cousin would be angry and would simply refuse, but I did not expect that my cousin would put down six or seven thousand yuan in wages and did not do it, and accepted it happily! No complaints at all! In the past, the sister-in-law did not say this, often nagging her two daughters: "In the future, you have children, don't think about letting me help you see, my nephew is my uncle's dog, and you will leave when you are full!" Grow up, or kiss his grandmother and his grandfather," and accused her mother-in-law and my aunt in front of the girlfriend: Look at your grandmother, every day is to serve her niece and nephew, I am reluctant to eat and wear, the money I saved, and what we gave her, are posted to her daughter, now they are grown up, work, how many times have you seen your grandmother?! Old and sick, don't you still come to care for you? The two girls only smiled: When the time comes, you will say that your mouth is falling! I wish I had!
What a bitch! The second daughter married to the son-in-law of the foreign child and brought it back together, even more than the eldest daughter! The cousin said that a group of white-eyed wolves, eating idle meals, but the action and mood are very honest, all day long spirited, busy and busy, like to close their mouths! In order for the children to go to school, the cousin bought a school district house in the city and served the two nephews wholeheartedly! Someone stabbed her with what she had said before, and she didn't care and said, "Look up to the girls, don't care who they will be filial to in the future!" I'll do my duty! ”
What a time and another!
Not only my cousin-in-law, but there are 4 girls in our yard, and the children are all brought by my grandmother and grandfather.
I said to my neighbor Tao Sister and sister-in-law, the eldest daughter's mother-in-law runs every day to believe in the Lord, rarely at home, even if she occasionally goes home, she goes to Sister Tao's house for a few days, and her mouth is wiped away; the second daughter's in-laws are doing business, and every day the two children are too busy to touch the ground, and there is no time to manage the children. Partial god has eyes, Tao sister two children are fine, two girls and children, waiting for the girlfriend to confinement, waiting for the niece to grow up and go to school, the two sons-in-law also stay in their family life, all year round than the family with sons is busier, they never bother to complain, as if it should be so!
My former neighbor Aunt Cui, two girls, the eldest girl teaches in the town, the son-in-law works in the postal savings bank in the town, all close to Aunt Cui's home, usually eating and drinking Lasa are in Aunt Cui's house, going home on Sunday; after they have children, they simply do not go back to the mother-in-law's house, Aunt Cui and her husband bear it with all their might, they are both retired cadres, so the money does not need to be a girlfriend; the daughter and son-in-law do not care about anything, do not ask about big or small things, and the oil bottle is poured without help! Aunt Cui was sometimes angry, scolding her girlfriend behind her back: "The daughter who marries out spills the water!" I have a family and a mother-in-law, my mother-in-law and father-in-law are young, put the children at home for them to see, can you drop a piece of meat? "How to scold how to say, the girl only when the wind in the ear, rely on Aunt Cui'er!" When the eldest girl gave birth to her second child, Aunt Cui flashed her waist, and the girl only stayed in the in-laws' house for twenty days, and moved to Aunt Cui's house less than a month later, saying that the in-laws' family was not as comfortable and convenient as Aunt Cui's house, and Aunt Cui was angry and there was no way. What flesh fell from his body!
Besides, Li Sister-in-law's two daughters-in-law are working outside the home, and the four children are all raised by Li Sister-in-law! The eldest daughter is distressed by her mother, and from time to time she sends some money and things back; the second daughter is not good, and she also stirs her mouth, always thinking that Li Sister-in-law is biased towards her eldest sister's two children and snubbing her children; every time she comes back, she is angry with Li Sister-in-law, and the words are particularly ugly! Sister-in-law Li was angry and threw them away: "I am eccentric, why do you still want to put the child here?" Why do mothers-in-law and father-in-law tire me? Your sister sent this and that to your home, what did you buy for your children?! I can't do anything inside and out! Let's go, hurry back to your house! "The two children didn't want to go, dragging Li Sister-in-law's clothes and crying lifelessly, and Li Sister-in-law's heart was crying soft and painful! At the end, the girlfriend still had no mercy: "Mom, you are going to die!" Sister-in-law Li was sometimes so upset that she couldn't do it, so she put it on with me: "Who said that the girlfriend is worry-free, it is the mother's little cotton jacket, but my girlfriend is a debt collector!" ”
The last one is even more surprising
Sister Ling and her husband bought a house in the town, selling meat while taking care of the eldest girl's children. The child went to preschool, one day the child and the classmates played and played, how did not take good care of it, another child knocked Ling Sister's nephew down, fell to the ground and bled his knees, and pulled his arm out of his body; the child cried in pain, called Ling Sister to go, Ling Sister saw the child's painful appearance, and the heartache also fell into tears! The teacher apologized while accompanying Sister Ling to the hospital to see a doctor, fortunately there was no big problem! My arms are back, and my knees are treated with iodine!
Sister Ling is relieved to take the child home!
Talking to the family on the phone about the child's touch, Sister Ling thought that it was just talking, and the child had no problem! Who knows the family is not willing! I had to go to school and say, ask the teacher how to manage the child, the parent of another child must apologize, take medical expenses, nursing fees, etc.; still complain that Sister Ling will not take care of the child, do not give the child the master, let her grandson be wronged! And so on and so forth. Sister Ling is a word of suffering, hard work to manage the grandson of the family, everything is fine, there is a little problem, the family is so hidden, as if she did not kiss deliberately let the grandson hurt!
Sister Ling was not happy in her heart, and said to the girlfriend, who replied to her with a few words: "You don't care what my mother-in-law says!" Who wants you to talk to them? You're not asking for it! I'm just not going to say anything! Later you elaborate a little! I can't take care of my busy meals every day, and I still bother me with these little things?! ”
Sister Ling sat on the sofa, was silent for half a day, and sighed: Now the girl and the child, everything has to be endured!
As the saying goes: kiss nephews do not leave six worms in the buckwheat field, kiss nieces, do not sit at home for a while (squinting eyes), before, parents look at grandchildren, girls are people's people, children free in-laws look, it seems to be righteous! Look at the current trend, girls, sons, are the heart of parents, parents have to worry about, but the burden in the heart is not the same!
I still can't figure out why many girls now have to let their parents take care of their children
![In the past, the divorce rate in rural areas was low, but the suicide rate and mortality rate of women were particularly high... I was born in the 1980s in a small rural village in the north that is mainly agricultural production. In my memory, most families[fig]](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAP///wAAACwAAAAAAQABAAACAkQBADs=)