Although "Little Min's House" has been broadcast, there is a clip of a mother-daughter conflict, and I think many mothers have watched it very touched.
The following is an excerpt from the dialogue between Xiao Min's mother and daughter Xiao Min:
Xiao Min's mother: Jin Bo (Xiao Min's ex-husband) is like this, strange and pitiful...
Min: Do you want me to take care of him? What does his pity have to do with me, you don't know I hate him and I don't want to mention him?
Xiao Min Ma: I want to mention it. That's your ex-husband.
Xiao Min: If you hadn't made sure you wanted me to marry him and try to match us, he wouldn't be my ex-husband today.
Xiao Min Ma: I... You've always blamed me in your heart, haven't you? It's all my fault, it's all my sins, isn't it? You are not wrong, you divorced, you came to Beijing, I brought you children in my hometown, now you all complain about me, good things are not mine, bad things are all done by me, don't I just say a word, Jin Bo is pitiful?
Xiao Min: He pitied you for taking care of him.
Xiao Min Ma: I...
Is this scene familiar to some mothers? After working hard for most of her life, raising her daughter, hoping that her daughter will marry well, her daughter divorcing herself and worrying for her, and her daughter's son still has to be raised by herself... But in the end, all the bad, the daughter blames herself, you say angry? Wronged or not?
The cause of this incident is that Xiaomin's ex-husband Jin Bo, because of evasion of debts, rushed to his ex-wife by taking care of his son who re-studied the college entrance examination at his ex-wife's house, saw that Xiaomin is now living well, and wanted to remarry Xiaomin.
At this time, Xiao Min, who has been divorced for more than ten years, has long been indifferent to her ex-husband Jin Bo, and some are only disappointed in her ex-husband and resentful of what her ex-husband did.
When Jin Bo came to Xiao Min's house, out of concern for his son's mood, Xiao Min arranged for her ex-husband's residence.
It is said that this can also be done, after all, it was very unpleasant that year, Xiao Min did not drive him away, it is already considered to be the end of benevolence, not to mention that Xiao Min has new feelings, arrange a place for Jin Bo to live, and not letting him sleep on the street is her bottom line.
At this time, Xiao Min's mother should have respected her daughter's decision, and she did not ask about anything. However, as a former mother-in-law, who can watch Jin Bo so depressed and do not ask, after all, the former son-in-law was also rich and handsome in the local area, and the family entrusted Jin Bo to her before she died, so she moved her heart of compassion and wanted her daughter to take more care of Jin Bo.
This poked Xiao Min hidden for many years of pain, Xiao Min disregarded her mother's sadness, and poured out all the grievances of many years in one go, which made Xiao Min's mother very shocked, it turned out that she had worked hard for her daughter in this life, but her daughter's heart was resentful, which made her unable to accept it, and she closed the door in a huff.
Xiao Min's mother did not expect that she wanted to talk to her daughter privately, but she was intimidated by her daughter and had nothing to say, her daughter's words were like knives cut in her heart, so many years, once her daughter left, she had to deal with the things that were left behind, especially her grandson was also brought up by her, but her daughter denied everything she had, how could she not be wronged.
In Xiao Min's heart, the misfortune of her marriage was caused by her mother's hand, at that time, it was her mother who forced herself to marry Jin Bo, and her mother thought that Jin Bo was the best condition in Jiujiang, and she was also a factory manager of a table of talents, and the more she looked at it, the more she liked it.
But after marriage, Xiao Min found that Jin Bo always drank a lot of wine, played drunk, and also engaged in affairs, did not do the right thing, and could not bear it, Xiao Min wanted to divorce Jin Bo, it was her mother who hid the household registration book and ID card, and did not let her leave, because her mother divorced herself, and life was very sad, so she felt that if her daughter was also divorced, she would be very sad, and she did not want her daughter to be sad, which caused Xiao Min to leave Jiujiang.
Xiao Min's mother felt that "everything I do is for your own good", "I want to know that Jin Bo has become like this now, can I take my own daughter and push it into the fire pit?" "How in the end the daughter put all the bad things on her head, this is what Xiao Min's mother can't figure out."
In fact, there are two sides to everything, Xiao Min's mother is really worried and tired for her daughter and grandson, but she also does use her own standards to interfere with her daughter's choice and manipulate her daughter's life in the name of "I am all for your own good", she did not figure it out, everyone is an independent individual, they have the right to make decisions for their own lives, and their children also need respect.
Karen says: The inability to be who we are is the root of all despair.
Don't move is "I'm all for your own good", as parents, we should not use our love to kidnap the child's life and ask the child to live for himself.
Parents often control their children in the name of love, in fact, depriving the children of choosing the path they want to take, and the path that parents think is perfect, that is only the life that parents think, not the road that children themselves want to take.
Many times, parents often think that they are the people who have come over, use the experience of the people who have come to manipulate the child's life, and constantly ask the child to live in the way they want, which is the love for the child.
However, this way is only what the parents themselves want to give, and the child does not necessarily want and may not be able to accept, which is emotional dislocation.
Just like the following case, in the subway, a child sweats heavily and wants to undress, but the child's mother resolutely prevents it, because she is worried that the child is cold, no matter how the child asks, the mother thinks that she is not hot when she wears a lot, so the child will not be hot, and others have not undressed, and the child cannot take off his clothes.
You see, what a domineering mother, she just meets her own needs, regardless of the needs of the child, her own children who are not hot should not be hot, if the child is allowed to undress, what if the cold is? She expresses her love for her children strongly in her own way, making the children and herself unhappy.
In fact, in the name of love, she made love into harm.
Xiao Min's mother's labor for Xiao Min is not a kind of love hurt?
What do you think about that?