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To a certain extent, both men and women interact with each other to meet with their parents. Whether it is a girl going to the man's house or a boy going to the woman's house, in the first time, it is a big test. Because, this time the meeting will directly affect the progress of the relationship between the two people in the future.
I wrote earlier that a girl was tragically divorced after going to the man's house. In fact, this is what happened in reality. Many readers summarize this as the poor upbringing of girls. And for good reason.
A person's cultivation will be reflected in his (her) demeanor and conversation, and in his or her treatment of people and things. Whether the girl was dissatisfied with the man's family or whether her own habits were, it was caused by a lack of upbringing.
So in the same way, if the boy goes to his girlfriend's house for the first time, if he does not behave well, he may also be "returned".
The "people who have had experience as a son-in-law" have summed up some experience for me. He said that as long as the following four points are done, basically can pass the pass. Let's take a look at what his secret is.
┃ Hands and feet should be diligent
The "person who came over" said that the first time he went to the house of his future parents-in-law, his heart must have been uneasy. But no matter how uneasy it is, the hurdle that should be crossed is still the same.
When you get to your girlfriend's house, you can't be a "grandpa", you have to help where you should help, and even, if you have nothing to help, you have to find opportunities.
For example, if your future mother-in-law leaves you to eat, generally speaking, you are a guest and will sit in the living room waiting for a meal to eat. It's not impossible to do so, but it will give you a discounted score for your impression.
At this time, even if you can't cook, you can also help your future mother-in-law, such as picking vegetables, cleaning up the garbage after picking vegetables, and accompanying your mother-in-law to nag. In fact, even if you don't do anything, standing by and talking to her can sometimes get unexpected results.
For example, if the work that the future father-in-law is doing, if he can help, he must also be diligent and quick to help. The kind of father-in-law who is staged on TV likes to plant flowers and vegetables, and the details of the male protagonist to help get the soil actually come from life. Because, people with diligent hands and feet, no one does not like.
┃Talk appropriately
In the future parent-in-law's house, speaking is going to have art and technology, especially for the first time. Some men think that as long as the mouth is sweet, it is not.
Boys with too sweet mouths will not please their elders too much, because they will think that you are slippery and unreliable. But for the older generation, it is okay to have a sweet mouth, such as the girl's grandparents. They prefer the "sweet mouth" of their granddaughter-in-law.
In front of future parents-in-law, just keep talking properly. Say what should be said, and try not to open your mouth as much as possible. In this way, they will feel that you are a person with a "degree" and know how to advance and retreat. In this way, your impression score also increases.
Talking properly is also a manifestation of the right heart. A person's eyes and mouth are the windows of the mind. Outsiders can see your heart from these windows of yours.
Therefore, proper conversation is also very important.
┃ Be sincere
When facing future parents-in-law, as a man, attitude is the first impression. In other words, whether you like their daughter from the heart and want to integrate into the family will be reflected in your attitude.
Some men like to make things up, or hold a shelf, which is very dangerous. Even if you have a high position, no matter how much money you have, in front of them, you are still a junior, the one who wants to marry their daughter, so you have nothing to be proud of.
Sincerity, humility, and respect for the elderly are the results they want most, and they are more in line with the requirements of their ideal son-in-law.
Of course, some parents are impressed by the powerful and rich son-in-law, but that is a minority after all. Most parents have the ability to give their daughters a generous environment and wholehearted love, especially those who are only children.
So, don't think that you have the ability to be great, the consequence of holding the shelf is that you will be swept out by them.
┃ The mind should be delicate
Why do you say that the mind is delicate? It's also a way for you to get recognized as quickly as possible. If the girl you fall in love with is an only child, then your delicate mind will add a lot of points to you.
Because, the only child is generally more favored by her parents, and she is not very concerned about the affairs of the family. If you can find out what else you need to do in this home, you need to add something more, and then silently do it and buy it. Your behavior will further impress the hearts of future parents-in-law.
For their own daughters, they may be less likely to demand anything, but for their son-in-law, they will ask more. If you don't need them to ask for it, you say, will they not be moved? As long as they are happy, isn't it only natural to recognize you?
Therefore, boys who are ready to go to the woman's house for the first time can refer to the experience of the "people who come over". Maybe it will help you.