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When people reach a certain age, they will have some gains, and it is inevitable that they will be complacent.
What should be done about merit and achievement? There is a way that it is easy to get rich, but it is difficult to keep rich; it is easy to go uphill and it is difficult to go downhill.
Writer Feng Jicai once said: "Low-key is not forgotten by the edge, let alone incompetence." On the contrary, only self-confidence can be low-key and content to be low-key. ”
Admittedly, if you want to continue to go far, you must keep a low profile, which comes from the confidence of the heart and the wisdom of the world.
For the rest of your life, be low-key, and don't let the blessing slip away from your life.
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Being a high-profile person is easy to cause trouble.
High-profile, representing strong, arrogant, showing off themselves. In a way, it can make a person look particularly outstanding, and there is a kind of prestige that echoes.
Life is like a drama, and everyone wants to be the protagonist. From this point of view, singing a high note is an instinct.
Xiang Yu, the king of Western Chu, was evaluated by posterity as "the god of feathers is brave and unique throughout the ages". When he rushed into Xianyang City, he snatched it all the way and set fire to the palace. Han Sheng, the minister next to him, persuaded him to pay attention to restraining himself. He doesn't listen.
Later, Xiang Yu did not become the overlord after all.
There is such a line in "Farewell to the Overlord": "If everyone is a folding play, only the most essential ones are sung carefully, how happy it should be." ”
Everyone wants to be the "essence", but we have to move forward and can't stay in the "essence" part. If not, it will fall into the dilemma of "the moon is full and the water is overflowing".
In ordinary interpersonal communication, people who like to show off themselves will inevitably be jealous and hated by others. There are always people who applaud you while hurting people with dark arrows.
In the workplace, you are always arbitrary, and your subordinates pretend to follow your advice while uniting against you, or teaming up with other superiors to marginalize you.
In the group of relatives, you are very high-profile, then the relatives will also alienate you. In their hearts, they will think like this: "You are using your own achievements to belittle others, and your heart is dark." "If you have relatives who ask you for help, but you can't help, there will be a lot of gossip, so that you don't know how to be a person."
In the "Theory of Fortune", it is written: "Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." ”
When a person causes trouble, do not blame others and blame society for the first time, but think about whether you have raised the tone and become the target of the public.
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Be low-key and gather blessings.
Someone said, "Being high-profile is addictive, just like smoking." If you want to change from high-profile to low-key, it's like quitting smoking. ”
We often admire those who are able to quit smoking. Therefore, it is logical to admire those who insist on taking the initiative to go downhill.
In "SayOn. There is a story in the "Rethinking": During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zhao Xiangzi of the Jin Dynasty was besieged in Jinyang, and the people around him helped each other to get out of the predicament.
Afterwards, Zhao Xiangzi rewarded the people around him, a person named Gao He, who did not have much merit and got the most prizes, and everyone was not convinced.
Zhao Xiangzi said: "When I was besieged, the person who could respect me was Gao He; after the siege was lifted, the person who could keep a low profile was also Gao He. Isn't that the reason? ”
By rewarding a low-key person, guiding more people, and joining the low-key team, this is the long-term strategy.
The ancients said: "The low water is the sea, and the low man is the king." ”
We often say that in society, people should accumulate virtue and happiness. If your posture is very high, then the blessing will flow rapidly like flowing water to the person below; conversely, only if you lower your posture and let the people around you be higher than you, the blessing will converge on you.
Around us, there are often such people.
He was rewarded, but he never posted in the circle of friends, nor did he use it as a talking point. When his deeds are exposed, you will be in awe of him.
He is your boss, but when things happen, he often asks you for advice, and most of your suggestions will be adopted. Let you have a sense of ownership in your work of "doing things for yourself".
He is your elder, but he never reprimands you, but pulls you along. Even if you make a mistake, you will talk to you in a pleasant way, rather than forcing you to change.
When you are truly mature and influential, those who respect you will get your love; the people you admire will become the benchmark for you to continue to move forward, so that the blessing will be doubled and a circle will be formed.
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Adhere to the low-key, in and out of the calm.
How do you keep a low profile? One sentence should be remembered: low is the starting point of the high, and it is the high staircase.
First, respect others, including your opponents, people who are embarrassed by you, etc.
After Liu Bang won the world, he rewarded a large number of meritorious people. But some people who have been waiting for the reward are very worried, thinking that they have been left out in the cold, or have become the target of repression.
At the suggestion of the chancellor Zhang Liang, Liu Bang set up a banquet, made Yongya a guest of honor, and gave him many rewards. Once, Yongya openly resisted and felt sorry for Liu Bang.
When the ministers saw that Liu Bang could tolerate an "enemy", they were relieved in their hearts. All the unpleasantness, swept away.
A big belly can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world. Such a temperament is enough to reflect the respect between people. When your opponent becomes friends with you, there is no one who will make you angry.
Second, integrate into the group and don't take yourself too seriously.
More and more people think that "chickens and ducks will fit together, tigers and lions will not fit together". Logically, we are all going to be tigers and lions.
As everyone knows, the tiger fell in Pingyang and was bullied by dogs. It is difficult to succeed as a person without knowing how to use the power of the group. No matter how strong you are, you will eventually be defeated by the group. Thus, lose the blessing.
During the Song Dynasty, Yue Fei personally healed the wounds and boiled medicine for the soldiers. Send his wife to comfort the soldier's family. Distribute all the rewards to the soldiers. His approach is worth learning.
The higher the position, the more you should care about your subordinates, rather than taking the position as a skill.
Third, keep quiet and observe the people and things around you silently.
At all times, talk less and learn to listen. Only when you are a good bystander, others will regard you as a confidant.
Look into everything around you, and then make accurate judgments, and you can do more with less.
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Master Hui Said, "Happiness cannot be attained, but happiness can only be attained by living happily to bring blessings." ”
Be human, don't add to your own blockage.
When you sing a high note, you actually set a threshold for yourself that is difficult to cross. Keeping a low profile is to lower the threshold and make it easy to get in and out.
Low-key, not to endure all the time, but to hide happiness in life. When there is wisdom, great wisdom is foolish; when there is wealth, wealth is not revealed; when there is merit, the past is not read.
Low-key, like autumn rice, harvesting rice is harvesting happiness.
May you and I, low-key people, wonderful.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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