Text: Si Qi said
In Zang Kejia's poem "Some People", there is such a classic quote:
"Some people are alive and he is dead; some people are dead, he is still alive."
Li Yong is a well-known host, who has hosted popular programs such as "Lucky 52", "Very 6+1", "Dream China", "Wing Lok Hui" and so on, and his hosting skills are quite solid.
As CCTV's "most valuable male host of variety shows", Li Yong's iconic laughter and humorous style are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Today, although Li Yong has been dead for 4 years, the audience has not forgotten him.
And his wife, Ha Wen, still regards her in-laws as her biological parents and regards herself as the eternal daughter-in-law of the Li family...
Li Yong and Ha Wen
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Li Yong was born in 1968 in Urumqi, Xinjiang, and his ancestral home is Sanyuan, Shaanxi.
As a child, Li Yong's father, Li Bao, who worked in the Urumqi Railway Bureau, was a well-known workaholic.
Li Yong inherited the excellent qualities of her father, and has been a good student in the eyes of teachers since she was a child, and an example for her classmates to learn.
Li Yong in his youth
In 1987, at the age of 19, he was admitted to the Beijing Broadcasting Institute with excellent results, majoring in broadcasting.
Those who became classmates with him, in addition to Bai Yansong, Sun Xiaomei and other big names in the host world,
There is also a Ningxia girl named Ha Wen, who is 1 year younger than Li Yong.
When she was young, Li Yong not only looked tall and handsome, but her talent was outstanding in school.
Because of this, he is the "Prince Charming" in the eyes of the girls and is regarded by the boys as a "nail in the eye".
Compared with the warblers and swallows around them, Li Yong and Ha Wen looked at each other.
At that time, Li Yong's vision was quite high, but since seeing Ha Wen, she felt that this girl's side was very good-looking, so she drew for her every day in class.
Mr. and Mrs. Li Yong are on the show
After the matter was "revealed", Ha Wen found Li Yong's theory, and as a result, he became a good friend of the heart.
From acquaintance to acquaintance, the two have a lot of common topics, which can be described as like-minded.
In the days of youth, Li Yong and Ha Wen quickly established a romantic relationship.
Ha Wen's father, Ha Jinjie, served as secretary of the Longde County Party Committee and deputy secretary general of the General Office of the Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region Government.
Compared with Ha Wen's prominent family lineage, Li Yong comes from an ordinary worker family, and the combination of the two can be described as "the door is not right".
To this end, when Li Yong graduated, he informed his parents of the identity of his girlfriend, which was opposed by the second elder.
Graduation certificates of Li Yong and Harvin
Because in their view, if you want to find a person with a reciprocal identity, otherwise you will definitely be angry in your married life in the future.
His father's personality is very stubborn, li Yong can only put his sweetheart in his heart temporarily, and even the courage to take Ha Wen home is gone.
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Returning to Beijing from his hometown, Ha Wen learned of Li Yong's suffering and comforted him: "We are truly in love with each other, let time prove everything." ”
In 1992, Li Yong decided to put on a wedding ring for her beloved, but still worried that her parents would not be able to pass.
The sweet days of Haven and Li Yong
With a nervous heart, a young couple traveled a long way back to Xinjiang.
At the family gathering that day, Li Yong's two sisters also came, and they also wanted to see what the future sister-in-law looked like.
Through a brief relationship, Ha Wen regarded Li Yong's home as his own home, and he rushed to do any housework, and there was no shelf of "official misses".
Harvin
Her ease and ease have been approved by her two sisters.
But even so, Li Yong's old father still looked embarrassed and talked to Ha Wen alone for a while.
In order to make the future father-in-law completely at ease, Ha Wen said firmly: "The road ahead is still very long, now I say nothing useless, it is certain that I and him really love each other, and the same pursuit, will be happy in the future, you can rest assured when you are old." ”
Listening to Harvin's words, Fort Lee smiled satisfactorily, and two daughters and his wife came forward to "be lobbyists", and the marriage was finally settled.
Old photo of Li Yong and Ha Wen
On September 26 of the same year, Li Yong and Ha Wen were licensed to marry in Beijing, and they did not even have a marriage room.
Although life was hard, their happy marriage was blessed by everyone.
After marriage, the two began to be busy with their own work, and love was never faint in busyness.
During this time, Li Yong worked as a journalist for a while and also went to Tibet as a host.
In 3 years, most of the time spent on the go.
Li Yong hosted the show when she was young
Ha Wen, on the other hand, began to pursue a double degree in the Department of Television Program Production at the Communication University of China in order to dream, immersing himself in books every day.
In the time of "long-distance love", no matter how busy the young couple is, they will also take time to cook telephone porridge.
In addition to encouraging each other to improve, sweet words are never absent.
In 1995, Harvin successfully obtained a double degree and was transferred to the Economic Department of CCTV.
At this time, Li Yong returned to Beijing and began to be appreciated and reused by the leaders, allowing him to try to do some choreography and directing work.
The couple's diligence and hard work are obvious to all, and the achievements achieved have also improved by leaps and bounds.
After 3 years of marriage, the young couple decided to take the "Dink route" after consultation, so they never had children.
The sweet days of Harvin and her husband
But at this moment, the grandparents were anxious to hold the grandchildren, the grandparents wanted to bring the grandchildren, and the parents of both sides began to force marriage.
For the sake of their careers, Li Yong and Ha Wen had to use the "dragging word trick".
In the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar of life, Li Yong's personality is relatively fierce, and when he encounters unpleasant things, it is inevitable to quarrel with Ha Wen after returning home.
Every time he saw her husband with an angry face, Harvin cleaned up the crazy state at work, and then transformed into a gentle little woman and sent a variety of intimate words.
Mr. and Mrs. Li Yong
Because of Harvin's general knowledge, the couple never had a real family war.
In addition to being a good wife, Harvin continues to prove himself to be a good daughter-in-law with practical actions.
Every spring festival, Li Yong's father will strongly ask his son to go home for the reunion year, and his attitude is very tough.
For this reason, Li Yong was very guilty and felt sorry for his wife.
At this time, Harvin said to her husband: "Both sides are home, and it is the same wherever I go first, and it is not that I am not going to my parents' side." ”
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Under Ha Wen's concessions, the couple finished their work every Spring Festival and rushed to Xinjiang for the first time to celebrate the festival with Li Yong's parents.
Li Yong in the show
Seeing that her daughter-in-law was so sensible, Li Yong's parents also felt too careless to go, and they advised Ha Wen one after another: "Go over there next year." ”
Every time he came home, Harvin never forgot to bring gifts to his in-laws, either to buy clothes or food.
As a daughter-in-law, he knows that the old man's requirements are actually not high, he has worked hard for most of his life, and now that his children are not around, the small gift is just a kind of "comfort to the heart".
Sometimes the work was so busy that Harvin mailed it to his in-laws.
As we all know, Li Yong is the only son in the family, and the two sisters have long been married, so they return home less often.
In the days when there was no daughter around, Li Yong's mother felt lonely.
Thinking of this, Harvin often took time to chat with his mother-in-law and secretly gave her some money.
Whenever this happens, the mother-in-law will refuse, saying that she has money and enough.
Ha Wen insisted: "We are all women, you are now older, you have passed the age of earning money, you have more money, and you don't have to discuss what to buy with your father." ”
Hearing the daughter-in-law's warm words, the mother-in-law was indescribably moved.
Treating his father-in-law, Harvin is also considerate.
Knowing that the old man was too tired of rheumatism at work when he was young, Harvin specially bought him the warmest clothes and shoes.
In the millennium, Li Yong and Ha Wen have been married for 8 years.
And the "dragging trick" they used is no longer useful at this time.
In order to hold their grandson as soon as possible, Li Yong's parents not only frantically called to promote it, but also ran to Beijing many times to force their lives.
Although Li Yong can understand his parents' feelings, he always insists on "Dink", which is simply miserable.
Seeing that there was no way to avoid it, Li Yong simply hid in his friend's house and threw the problem to Ha Wen.
To say that ginger is still old and spicy, under the pressure of the tears of the in-laws, Hawen finally "compromised".
That day, when Li Yong heard his wife in turn persuade him to have a child, she couldn't believe her ears.
"I want one, in fact, I like children."
04
It was the in-laws who broke through The Haven line; what made Li Yong submit was the undiminished love for his wife.
On May 20, 2002, Harvin gave birth to a lovely daughter for her husband, named Fatoumai Lee.
Old photos of Li Yong's family of three
After receiving the news, Li Bao and his old wife quickly rushed to Beijing to take care of their daughter-in-law's confinement.
The moment he held his granddaughter, the old two laughed and closed their mouths.
Compared with the filial and sensible daughter-in-law, the two old people love their little granddaughter more, because this is their greatest wish, and it is also the traditional Chinese concept of "no filial piety has three, no queen is greater".
For the next seven years, Li Bao and his wife have been taking their granddaughter in Beijing, and the family of five is happy.
Since ancient times, it is not easy to be a daughter-in-law, and it is even more difficult to be a good daughter-in-law!
During the seven years spent with his in-laws, Harvin never saw himself as a daughter-in-law, but as the biological daughter of the two old men.
Old photo of The Haven family of three
During this time, she would give her in-laws a sum of money every month to spend on the family's daily expenses.
As an old man, the mother-in-law's mind is more delicate, and every time she generates an expense, she will take out a small book to write it, and reconcile with her daughter-in-law at the end of the month.
Strictly speaking, the mother-in-law's approach is actually not wrong, after all, there is an old saying that "if you want to be brothers, you can often clear the account", let alone between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
But at the time of the first reconciliation, Harvin's words immediately made the old man throw away the small ledger.
"Mom, we're a family, if we see each other like this again, I'm going to be unhappy."
At that time, Mr. and Mrs. Lee also had a lot of relatives and friends in Beijing, and they would often come to visit the door, and the family would inevitably make a mess.
The sweet time of Mr. and Mrs. Li Yong
When Harvin came home from work, the two old men looked at her with shame on their faces, not knowing what to say for a while.
Guessing what the in-laws were thinking, Ha Wen smiled and said, "If a home doesn't have fireworks, how can it still be called home?" I am busy at work, I rarely have time to spend with my relatives, and the second elder will bother more. ”
This heartfelt word made the two old people very relieved, and they were also proud that the Li family could have such a daughter-in-law.
In the days of harmony and happiness of the family, the parents are in good health, Li Yong and Ha Wen's careers are thriving, and the daughter thrives.
Li Yong and her father, as well as her daughter
05
In 2009, 7-year-old Fatoumai Li entered primary school, and Li Bao and his wife reluctantly returned to Urumqi because they missed home.
It's time to go around in 2017.
The happiness of Ha Wen and her daughter was shattered at the moment they learned that Li Yong had been diagnosed with throat cancer.
This year, Fatoumai Lee was 15 years old and was studying in the United States.
In order to try to let her husband spend more time with her daughter when she died, Harvin took Li Yong to the United States for treatment.
At the same time, Ha Wen did not tell her in-laws about Li Yong's cancer, lest they could not withstand the blow.
Every time she called the second elder, she had to endure the heartache, and the hand holding the phone could not help but tremble.
After a year of suffering, 50-year-old Li Yong finally died in New York on October 25, 2018 due to a failed fight against cancer.
This day is forever burned in the heart of Harvin, because from today on, she will "never lose her beloved".
After her husband's death, Harvin calmed down and dialed his in-laws' phone.
On the other end of the phone, the two elderly people fainted several times;
On the other end of the phone, Harvin had long been unable to cry.
Before his death, Li Yong once gave a speech on the stage of "The Last Day of Life", he said:
"I will find a quiet place, stay quietly, I will not apologize, there will be no parting, there will be no complaints, I will only have thanks... All the audience friends in front of the TV, thank you for making me a wonderful memory. ”
In fact, at that time, he was already terminally ill, but he smiled at life and said goodbye to the audience and friends in the way he was good at.
Yes, Li Yong did not say goodbye, did not apologize, and did not complain.
It was only he who left the most painful parting of life and death to Harvin and his daughter, and to his parents.
After Li Yong died in the United States, his parents were too old and had to bear the pain of losing their son, so they did not go to see them off under the strong persuasion of Ha Wen.
During the period of dealing with Li Yong's affairs, While comforting his in-laws, Ha Wen was busy with various matters, and the whole person was tired physically and mentally exhausted, and the whole person lost a lot of weight.
Fortunately, with the assistance of Li Yong's two brothers-in-law and the warm comfort of "little cotton jacket" Fatumai Lee, Ha Wen finally survived.
When their son died, The Fort Lee couple was so distressed that they could not breathe, and they did not enter the water meter for several days, and even admitted to the hospital.
Knowing the physical condition of his mother-in-law, Ha Wenqiang beat his spirits and gently comforted the two old men on the phone: "Although you have lost your son, you still have a daughter-in-law and a granddaughter." ”
Compared with the pain of the loss of her mother-in-law,Harvin's "eternal loss of love" is no less than that of the two old men.
During that time, whenever he saw a familiar scene, he would think of the bits and pieces of his husband's life, and no matter what, he would linger.
A year after Li Yong's death, Harvin returned to China and the first thing he did was to visit his in-laws.
That day, when she stepped into the threshold and called out the familiar doctor "Mommy and Daddy", Fort Lee and his wife burst into tears and hugged their daughter-in-law tightly.
In 2020, Fatoumai Lee was admitted to Barnard College at Columbia University in the United States, making the whole family proud.
Fatumai Lee
The happiest is Harvin.
After Li Yong's death, she painstakingly raised her daughter to adulthood and became a talent, which was enough to comfort the spirit of the deceased husband in heaven, and it was also a satisfactory answer sheet for her in-laws.
Today, Ha Wen still regards her in-laws as her biological parents, and whenever she talks about Li Yong, she still says the same thing: I will always be the daughter-in-law of the Li family, and I will always honor the second elder...