#影视杂谈 #
Li Yong is the host of popular programs such as "Lucky 52", "Very 6+1", "Dream China", etc., and his hosting skills are very solid, I especially appreciate him, he is the memory of many people, and every time he is mentioned, he is always a little regretful.
As CCTV's "most valuable male host of variety shows", Li Yong's iconic laughter and humorous style are deeply rooted in people's hearts.
Today, although Li Yong has been dead for 4 years, the audience has not forgotten him.
And his wife, Ha Wen, still regards her in-laws as her own biological parents and regards herself as the eternal daughter-in-law of the Li family...
01
Li Yong was born in 1968 in Urumqi, Xinjiang, with his ancestral home in Sanyuan, Shaanxi.
When he was a child, Li Yong's father was called Li Bao, who worked in the Urumqi Railway Bureau and was a famous workaholic.
Inheriting her father's fine qualities, Li Yong has been a good student in the eyes of teachers since she was a child, a role model for her classmates to learn from, and a child in the mouth of her parents.
In 1987, at the age of 19, he was admitted to the Beijing Broadcasting Institute with excellent results, majoring in broadcast hosting.
Bai Yansong, Sun Xiaomei, etc. are his classmates,
There is also a Ningxia girl Ha Wen, who is a year younger than Li Yong.
When Li Yong was young, she was not only tall and handsome, but also had outstanding talent in school.
Because of this, he is the "Prince Charming" in the eyes of girls and the "nail in the eyes" of boys.
Compared with the people around her, Li Yong and Ha Wen developed feelings.
At that time, Li Yong's vision was still quite high, but since seeing Ha Wen, she felt that this girl's side face was very good-looking, so she drew for her every day in class.
Mr. and Mrs. Li Yong starred in the show
After the incident was "exposed", Ha Wen found Li Yong and his theory, and the two actually became good friends after chatting.
From acquaintance to acquaintance, the two have a lot of common topics, which can be said to be like-minded and too fateful.
In the budding days of youth, Li Yong and Ha Wen soon established a romantic relationship.
Ha wen's father, Ha Jinjie, was the secretary of the Longde County Party Committee and deputy secretary general of the General Office of the Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region Government.
Compared with Ha Wen's prominent family lineage, Li Yong came from an ordinary working family, and the combination of the two can be described as "inappropriate".
When Li Yong graduated, she told her parents about the identity of her girlfriend, which was opposed by the two elders.
Because in their view, they want to find a person who is right at the door, otherwise the son will definitely be angry in the future married life.
His father's personality is very stubborn, Li Yong can only temporarily put his sweetheart in his heart, and even the courage to take Ha Wen home is gone, because he does not dare.
02
Returning to Beijing from his hometown, Ha Wen learned of Li Yong's difficulties and comforted him: "We are true love, let time prove everything, don't worry."
In 1992, Li Yong decided to put a wedding ring on her beloved, but she was still worried that her parents would not agree.
With a nervous mood, a couple traveled a long way back to Xinjiang.
At the family gathering that day, Li Yong's two sisters were also there, and they also wanted to see what the future sister-in-law would look like.
Through a short chat, Ha Wen regarded Li Yong's house as his home, busy doing housework, without a little "big miss" shelf, very grounded.
Her generous appearance without shelves won the approval of her two sisters.
But even so, Li Yong's old father still disagreed and chatted with Ha Wen for a while.
In order to reassure the future father completely, Harvin said firmly: "There is still a long way to go, and it is useless for me to say anything now." To be sure, he and I are truly in love. "And with the same pursuit, you will be happy in the future, you can rest assured."
After listening to Harvin's words, Fort Lee smiled satisfactorily, and two more daughters and his wife came forward to "be a lobbyist", and the marriage was finally settled.
On September 26, Li Yong and Ha Wen received their marriage licenses in Beijing, and there was no marriage room at that time.
Although life was difficult, their happy marriage was blessed by everyone.
After marriage, the two began to be busy with their respective work, and the love in the busy was never brisk.
During this period, Li Yong worked as a journalist for a while and also worked as a host in Tibet.
Three years, most of the time outside.
In order to dream, Ha Wen began to study double majors in the Department of Television Program Production of the Communication University of China, immersed in books every day.
In the "long-distance relationship", no matter how busy the young couple is, they will make time to talk on the phone.
In addition to mutual encouragement, sweetness and happiness will not be absent.
In 1995, Harvin successfully obtained a double degree and was transferred to the Economic Department of CCTV.
At this time, Li Yong returned to Beijing and began to be appreciated and valued by the leaders, allowing him to try to do some directing work.
The diligence and hard work of the couple are obvious to all, and the achievements are also by leaps and bounds, which is very good.
After 3 years of marriage, the young couple decided to take the "Dink route" after consultation, so they have not had children.
But at this moment, the mother-in-law was anxious to hold the grandson and wanted to be a grandparent, and the grandmother and grandfather thought of taking the grandson, and the parents began to force them to have children.
For the sake of their careers, Li Yong and Ha Wen had to use the method of "dragging".
In life, Li Yong's personality is relatively tough. When you encounter troubles, it is inevitable that you will have some quarrels with Harvin when you get home.
Every time he saw his husband's angry look, Harvin would pick up the madness at work, and then transform into a gentle little woman and issue all kinds of thoughtful words.
Because of Harvin's gentleness and virtuousness, the couple never had a real family war.
In addition to being a good wife, Harvin also constantly proves that he is a good daughter-in-law with practical actions.
Every New Year, Li Yong's father would strongly ask his son to go home for the New Year, and his attitude was very resolute.
For this reason, Li Yong felt very guilty and felt sorry for his wife.
At this time, Harvin said to her husband: "Both sides are home, you go everywhere first, it is not the same as not going to my parents." ”
03
Under the persuasion of Ha Wen, the couple ended their work every Spring Festival and rushed to Xinjiang as soon as possible to celebrate the festival with their in-laws and mother-in-law.
Seeing that her daughter-in-law was so sensible, Li Yong's parents were also distressed and advised: "Go to your house next year." ”
Every time I come home, Harvin never forgets to bring gifts to my in-laws, buy clothes or buy food, very thoughtful.
As a daughter-in-law, he knew that the old man's requirements were not high, and he had worked hard for most of his life. Now that the child is not around, the small gift is just a kind of "spiritual comfort".
Sometimes work is too busy, so Harvin will send it back.
As we all know, Li Yong is the only child in the family, and the two sisters have long been married, so the number of times they go home is relatively small.
In the days without a daughter, Li Yong's mother will inevitably feel lonely.
Thinking of this, Harvin often took time to chat with his mother-in-law, and secretly gave his mother-in-law some money.
Every time the mother-in-law would refuse to give money, saying that she had enough money.
Harvin insisted: "We are all women, you are old now, the years of earning money have passed, you have more money in your hands, what to buy, you don't have to discuss with my father." ”
Hearing the daughter-in-law's warm words, the mother-in-law was so moved that she could not speak.
He is also very considerate of his father-in-law.
Harvin knew that the old man had suffered from rheumatism because of too much work when he was young, so he bought him the warmest clothes and shoes.
In the millennium, Li Yong and Harvin were married for 8 years.
And the "dragging trick" they used no longer worked at this time.
In order to hold their grandchildren as soon as possible, Li Yong's parents not only frantically called them to give birth, but also went to Beijing many times to urge them.
Although Li Yong can understand his parents' feelings, he always insists on "Dink" and fights wits with his parents.
Li Yong saw that this method was useless, and simply hid at his friend's house and threw the problem to Ha Wen.
To say that ginger is still old spicy, under the pressure of the in-laws, Harvin finally "compromised".
That day, when Li Yong heard his wife in turn persuade him to have a child, he couldn't believe his ears.
"We want one, in fact, I like children, how cute."
04
It was the in-laws who broke Ha wen's defenses; it was the uncompromising love for his wife that made Li Yong also give in.
On May 20, 2002, Harvin gave birth to a lovely daughter for her husband, named Fatoumai.
After that, Li Bao and his wife rushed to Beijing to take care of their daughter-in-law's confinement.
The moment they hugged their granddaughter, the old couple laughed happily.
Compared with their filial and sensible daughter-in-law, the two old men love their little granddaughter more, because this is their greatest wish.
For the next seven years, Mr. and Mrs. Lee took their granddaughter in Beijing, and the family of five was happy.
It is not easy to be someone else's daughter-in-law, and it is even more difficult to be a good daughter-in-law!
During the seven years he lived with his in-laws, Harvin never regarded himself as a daughter-in-law, but as his own daughter of his parents.
At the same time, she gives her in-laws a sum of money every month to cover the family's daily expenses.
As an old man, the mother-in-law is more economical, every time there is a cost, she will take out a small book to write down, at the end of the month to show the daughter-in-law.
Strictly speaking, the mother-in-law's approach is not wrong. After all, the old saying has clouds, brothers, clear accounting", let alone between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
But in the first reconciliation, Harvin's words made her mother-in-law throw away the small ledger.
"Mom, we are a family, and I will be unhappy if I see this practice again."
At that time, Mr. and Mrs. Li Bao also had many relatives and friends in Beijing, and they often came to visit, and the family must have made a mess.
Harvin came home from work, and the two men looked at her with shame, not knowing what to say for a moment, afraid that Harvin would be unhappy.
Guessing the thoughts of his in-laws and mother-in-law, Harvin smiled and said, "The house has no fireworks, how can it be called home?" I am busy at work, I rarely have time to accompany you two and I am bored, how good it is to walk around with relatives and friends."
These words came from the heart, which made the two old people breathe a sigh of relief and were proud that the Li family had such a daughter-in-law.
The family is harmonious and happy, the parents are healthy, Li Yong and Ha Wen are thriving, and the daughter is thriving.
05
In 2009, 7-year-old Fatoumai went to elementary school. Mr. and Mrs. Li Bao wanted to go home and had no choice but to return to Urumqi to live.
Time flies so fast, 2017.
The happiness of Harvin and her daughter was shattered the moment they learned that Li Yong had throat cancer.
Fatuma was 15 years old and attending school in the United States.
In order to be able to spend more time with her daughter before her husband died, Harvin took Li Yong to the United States for treatment.
At the same time, Ha Wen did not tell her in-laws that Li Yong had cancer, lest they could not bear the blow and collapse.
Every time she called the second elder, she endured the heartache, and the hand holding the phone could not help but tremble.
After a year of treatment, 50-year-old Li Yong finally died in New York on October 25, 2018 due to a failed fight against cancer.
This day is forever remembered by Ha Wen, because from today on, she "lost her love forever".
After her husband's death, Harvin calmed down and called her in-laws.
On the other end of the phone, the two old men fainted several times;
On the other end of the phone, Harvin was sobbing.
Before his death, Li Yong gave a speech on the stage "The Last Day of Life", in which he said:
"I will find a quiet place to stay quietly, I will not apologize, I will not leave, I will not complain, I will only be grateful... Friends from the audience in front of all the TV sets, thank you for making me a wonderful memory. ”
In fact, at that time, he was terminally ill, but he smiled and faced life, saying goodbye to the audience and friends in the way he was good at.
Yes, Li Yong did not say goodbye, did not apologize, and did not complain.
But he left the most painful parting to Harvin and his daughter, as well as to his parents.
After Li Yong died in the United States, her parents were old and had to endure the pain of losing their son. Therefore, under the strong persuasion of Harvin, they did not go to send their son off.
While dealing with Li Yong's aftermath, Ha Wen comforted her in-laws and was busy with various things. Physically and mentally exhausted, weight loss a lot.
Fortunately, with the assistance of Li Yong's two brothers-in-law, coupled with the comfort of the "little cotton jacket" Fatoumai, Ha Wen finally resisted.
The death of their son, the two old men were so sad that they could not describe their grief, they did not eat or drink for several days, and the white-haired people sent the black-haired people.
Knowing his mother-in-law's physical condition, Ha Wenqiang picked up his spirits and gently comforted the two old men on the phone: "Although you have lost your son, you still have your daughter-in-law and granddaughter." ”
Compared with the pain of the in-laws losing their sons, Harvin "lost love forever", and her pain was no less than that of two old people.
During that time, whenever he saw a familiar scene, he would think of the bits and pieces of his husband's life, which would not disappear no matter what.
A year after Li Yong's death, Ha Wen returned to China and the first thing he did was to visit his in-laws.
That day, when she crossed the threshold and called out the familiar doctor "Mommy and Daddy", the Fort Lees burst into tears and hugged their daughter-in-law tightly.
In 2020, Fatoumai was admitted to Barnard College at Columbia University in the United States, making the whole family proud.
The happiest man is Harvin.
After Li Yong's death, she worked hard to raise her daughter, which was enough to comfort her late husband and was also a satisfactory answer to her in-laws.
Today, Harvin still regards his in-laws as his biological parents. Every time she talks about Li Yong, she will still say: I will always be the daughter-in-law of the Li family, and I will always honor my parents and mother
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