At 5:20 a.m. on October 25, 2018, Harvin's heart was broken.
This moment is the time when Ha Wen's lover Li Yong died.
Li Yong is an excellent host, and his departure has also made countless audiences who love him sigh.
And Li Yong's parents couldn't stand it, and they couldn't even believe that their beloved son had left him like this, and he was still so young.
Harvin saw the sad in-laws, quickly helped them, and said to them: "Dad, Mom, don't be too sad, I will always be with you, we will always be a family." ”
Now that Li Yong has been gone for 4 years, Ha Wen has also kept her promise to her in-laws, she resolutely does not remarry, not only regularly gives money to her in-laws, but also really treats her in-laws as her parents forever with practical actions.
Today, I will talk about the story of Li Yong's wife, Ha Wen.
01
Ha wen is a Hui ethnic group who was born in Ningxia in 1969.
Because his parents were cadres with considerable local official positions, as the children of high-ranking cadres and only children, Hawen received a good education from an early age.
Parents are also very strict about Ha wen's education, from a young age, Ha Wen was admitted to the Communication University of China, the parents clearly stipulated: "No love during college."
Harvin, who has always been well-behaved and sensible, remembers the teachings of his parents and focuses on learning on the university campus.
But she didn't know at all that there was a "bold" young man who had long been in love with her at first sight and had been constantly drawing her beautiful side face.
This guy is Li Yong, he is a classmate of Ha Wen, from Xinjiang, he has a straight nose, which can also be regarded as a "school grass".
After a long time, Li Yong, who had a crush on Hawen, couldn't help but start to think of ways to signal to the girl she liked.
One Christmas, the students suddenly decided to make dumplings together, worried that Ha Wen was a Hui people who could not eat, Li Yong deliberately ran out to find a long time, bought lamb stuffing.
This obvious move triggered the booing of the students on the spot, but Harvin did not say anything.
In order to catch up with Ha wen, Li Yong painted a picture for each of the girls in Ha Wen's dormitory.
But Harvin still didn't nod, but she knew in her heart that this handsome young man had already touched her heart.
Finally, at a campus dance, Harvin agreed to Li Yong's invitation, and the two danced together.
This dance instantly brought Ha Wen and Li Yong closer, and the two lovers finally walked together.
After being together, it was Harvin's birthday.
Li Yong had a sudden idea, and the man dressed as a woman sneaked into Ha Wen's dormitory, which became Li Yong's joke and was laughed at by his classmates for a long time.
In 1989, Haven, who could not withstand Li Yong's soft and hard bubbles, finally brought Li Yong home.
Afraid of not getting the approval of his girlfriend's parents, Li Yong worked hard and diligently to cover all the housework at home.
Ha Wen's grandmother saw that this young man was really diligent and fast, and he was really the best candidate for his granddaughter-in-law, and immediately stood by Li Yong's side.
However, Ha Wen's father did not agree, he felt that Li Yong's genus and Ha Wen's xiang ke were very bad.
How could Harvin, who had been immersed in the book, believe her father's abstract reason, and she made up her mind not to break up.
The daughter is bent on marrying, the mother is particularly optimistic, and the "weak" Ha father finally nodded and agreed to the two people's interaction.
Happy Li Yong immediately took his girlfriend to Xinjiang to meet her parents.
Unexpectedly, it was strongly opposed by Li Yong's parents.
02
Li Yong's parents are an ordinary family in Urumqi, Xinjiang, and the conditions are not particularly good.
As soon as they saw Harvin, they knew that this girl was born in a rich family, and such a girl, her son must have a hard time with her.
So they were worried and didn't dare to nod.
Ha Wen, who saw their concerns, immediately expressed his attitude to Li Yong's parents, no matter how difficult it is, he will not regret it, and must live well with Li Yong.
After a period of getting along, Li Yong's parents found that this girl really did not have those pampered habits, not only that, the usual Ha Wen was always generous and easy-going, so they also recognized Ha Wen, the future daughter-in-law.
Although both parents agreed, at this time the two also graduated, and a new problem appeared in front of them.
After graduation, Li Yong was assigned to work in Tibet, while Ha wen was left in Beijing.
The two can only start a long-distance relationship.
But for Li Yong, there was no impact at all, and he expressed his thoughts to Ha Wen with his letters.
Every time he received Li Yong's letters, Ha Wen carefully laid them out, and then carefully put them away after reading them, and these letters have been preserved to this day.
The distance did not keep the two people full of love away, but made his heart closer!
A year later, Li Yong was transferred back to Beijing, and when he returned to Beijing, he immediately took Ha wen to a jewelry store.
Ha Wen followed Li Yong behind him, but Li Yong suddenly turned around, knelt down on one knee with a diamond ring, and proposed to Ha Wen, who was immediately moved and agreed to the marriage proposal.
There was no wedding, no bride price, not even a decent wedding room, the only bed in the room was still spliced, Li Yong felt that ha wen was particularly indebted, but ha wen did not care, she felt that as long as she could marry the person she loved, it was the happiest thing.
After marriage, the two people lived a life of honey oil.
It is said that it is difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, and it is always intolerable, but between Ha wen and her mother-in-law, it is very rare to be very harmonious.
Ha Wen knows that the winter in Xinjiang is very cold, and every year before winter, she will purchase the clothes she needs for her mother-in-law and let her mother-in-law have a comfortable winter.
The in-laws often said happily: "Since having this daughter-in-law, we are not afraid of the cold in winter." ”
Not only that, Ha Wen found that the mother-in-law always had no right to speak in the father-in-law, and she had to discuss everything with the father-in-law, so she cleverly secretly gave the mother-in-law money to make the mother-in-law feel very intimate.
Not only for the in-laws, Harvin is very easy-going to everyone in the in-laws' family and is deeply loved by the in-laws, but even so, the marriage of the two people has also had a "crisis".
03
Although the days after marriage are sweet, Li Yong and Ha Wen are standard "workaholics", they are all focused on work, and they have made many excellent achievements in work, but they have not had children.
The two even felt that the "Dink family" was fine.
Hearing that her son and daughter-in-law might not intend to have children, Harvin's in-laws were anxious.
One day, When Ha Wen came home from work, he found his mother-in-law sitting at home with tears on her face, and as soon as he saw her, he took her hand and said, "Wen Wen, my mother knows that you like to work, but work and having children are not in conflict, if you have a child, you don't have time, I can help you bring it." ”
"It's still not okay not to have children, and when I think of you two having no children, my and your father's psychology is empty, and it's very uncomfortable." The mother-in-law cried.
Harvin looked at her mother-in-law's tearful eyes, and her heart was very guilty, she felt that she was too selfish, only concerned about developing her own career, but did not consider her mother-in-law's mood.
In fact, Harvin does not want children, nor does he want to be a real dink, but he just does not want to have children too early, seeing his mother-in-law like this, Harvin immediately made up his mind to have a child as soon as possible.
When the mother-in-law heard Ha Wen say this, she turned around happily, and quickly took out the delicious food brought by her hometown like a treasure offering, and put it in front of Ha Wen with a brain, letting her eat it quickly.
Li Yong came home after work and was a little surprised to hear Harvin's decision, but he quickly agreed, and at the same time was grateful that Harvin was so considerate of his parents.
It didn't take long for Harvin to become pregnant, and her in-laws were so happy that they couldn't keep their mouths shut.
In 2001, Ha Wen gave birth to a daughter, and Li Yong was so excited that he didn't know what to say when he saw her daughter, and he left tears, and he vowed to take good care of the two women in his life.
In order to express his love for Hawen, Li Yong followed the customs of the Hawen Hui and named his daughter Fatoumai Li.
Hawen's in-laws loved this granddaughter so much that they traveled thousands of miles to Beijing and took good care of her granddaughter.
Although living under one roof, the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more obvious, but Harvin feels that it is already very hard for her in-laws to help her with her children, so she always tolerates everything.
Seeing that the daughter-in-law is so sensible and generous, Harvin's mother-in-law is not embarrassed to worry about some things, two people, you let me, I let you, the family get along very well.
Ha Wen left work, found the family in a mess, suddenly panicked, also thought that the family had been robbed, after contacting Li Yong, only to learn that some relatives from the hometown came.
The mother-in-law not only entertained the guests at home, but also let Li Yong take them outside and eat a big meal, because Ha Wen could not be contacted overtime, so he did not tell her.
In exchange for other daughters-in-law, seeing all this has long been angry, but Harvin did not say anything, silently cleaned up the house, the mother-in-law quickly brought back the food to Harvin hot, let Harvin to eat, clean up by himself, a thing that would have caused everyone to clash, was thus resolved.
After the daughter went to elementary school, the in-laws had a lot more free time, they felt that it was not interesting to stay, and they remembered that the old house at home was not cleaned, so they returned to their hometown.
Although the mother-in-law has returned to her hometown, Hawen still cares about them very much and will visit them every New Year's Festival.
One year, when they went to see their in-laws during the New Year, the in-laws inadvertently mentioned that they always returned to their mother-in-law's house first, and came to Xinjiang for a few days, and the year was almost over.
Ha Wen thought that this was indeed the case, and the next year, when she insisted on going to her in-laws' house first, Li Yong and her in-laws were very grateful to her.
For the in-laws and mother-in-law, Ha Wen knows how to tolerate and can be considerate of them, while Li Yong has always been very fond of Ha Wen.
In his eyes, his daughter and wife are all he has.
Every time there was a quarrel, it was Li Yong who bowed his head and confessed his mistake first.
In this regard, he has his own set of theories: "To be able to tolerate for a while is to have a good temper, and to endure all the time is real love." ”
If a family wants to be harmonious, it must have a "lubricant", know how to show weakness, know how to measure, and in their home, everyone knows respect and understanding of each other, and the family is always warm and harmonious, which is enviable.
However, the family that originally thought they could be happy suddenly encountered bad luck and terminated this happiness.
04
Harvin always remembered that what broke this happiness was an ordinary day that could no longer be ordinary.
That day, she returned home after working overtime, but soon found out that something was wrong with Li Yong.
His eyes were always red, he was always silent, and persistently told Ha Wen that Li Yong must have something to hide from him.
So when he went to bed at night, Ha Wen patiently asked Li Yong for a long time, but he did not expect that Li Yong actually cried.
He handed Harvin a checklist, who barely saw it clearly, only that the diagnosis on it read: Advanced cancer.
These four words made Haven suddenly feel like he was in an ice cave, from head to toe, all cold.
After a long time, Ha Wen, who reacted, seemed to wake up, holding Li Yong and crying.
After that, Ha Wen accompanied Li Yong to run all the well-known hospitals in China, and all he got was a negative answer.
One day, a frowning Harvin was thinking about what to do, and her daughter who was studying abroad reminded her with a sentence: "Mom, why don't you come to the United States to try it, maybe there is a way to cure dad here." ”
At this time, Ha Wen would not think so much at all, as long as there was a way to treat Li Yong, she was willing to try, so she immediately went through the formalities and took Li Yong to the United States.
Before going to the United States, Ha Wen accompanied Li Yong to see her in-laws, and under Li Yong's advice, Ha Wen did not mention anything about Li Yong's illness, and her in-laws did not suspect it, but simply thought that her son had a holiday and wanted to go home to see.
After arriving in the United States, Li Yong's mood relaxed, and when he was in good energy, he always did his best to accompany his wife and daughter, leaving them with many happy memories.
It would be nice if time could stay in that moment, but unfortunately time doesn't stop for anyone.
On October 29, 2018, Li Yong passed away, and Ha Wen summed up all his pain in a short four-word "never lose my love" on Weibo.
At this time, the in-laws learned the news, they couldn't believe it, and the mother-in-law even fainted.
What makes her in-laws even more uncomfortable is that Li Yong does not want her parents to be seen by the appearance of being tortured by the disease, and hopes that her body will remain abroad forever, and they will not even have the opportunity to see Li Yong.
After Li Yong's funeral, Ha Wen accompanied his in-laws back to Xinjiang, and looking at the sad in-laws, Ha Wenqiang endured the pain in his heart and advised his in-laws over and over again.
When he left his in-laws' house, looking at his haggard in-laws, Ha Wen said to them: "Parents, Li Yong is gone, but there is me, you will always be my parents, we will always be a family, will not change." ”
When the mother-in-law heard Harvin say this, the tears were already unbearable, and she hugged Haven and cried.
Originally thought that Ha Wen said this sentence is just to comfort the in-laws, but unexpectedly, she really did this, every New Year's Holiday, she will be as usual to care for the in-laws, not only call to greet them, but also give them money, send them all kinds of food, use.
As soon as she has time, she will take her daughter to visit her in-laws, still known as "parents".
The two old men saw that Ha Wen was so filial, and they felt a lot of comfort in their hearts, and under Ha Wen's care, their mood gradually improved, and they gradually walked out of the pain of losing their son.
Now, Li Yong has been dead for 4 years, but Ha Wen is still alone, has not remarried, she does not intend to remarry, and Li Yong's marriage makes it impossible for her to accept others.
As long as she can accompany her daughter, take care of her in-laws, and complete the second half of her life for Li Yong, she will feel satisfied.
Every year on Li Yong's death day, ha wen's sacrifice text will be seen, which shows that her thoughts about Li Yong have never decreased.
Perhaps, Harvin is happy, for her, the lover has not gone away, still by her side.
Some people say that the marriage between Ha Wen and Li Yong is not called marriage, it is called a fairy tale,
In fact, as long as you know how to cherish the people in front of you, life can be turned into a happy fairy tale.