When the child's rebellious period comes, parents will always have a headache, because the child at this time is very difficult to discipline, it can be said that he teaches a sentence to the other party, how to educate is impossible to start, but in fact, this is the bitter fruit buried by the parents themselves, for example, Ms. Zhang has a deep understanding, because the child is now so rebellious, it can be said that she is hard to blame.
Because of the relationship between husband and wife who are both working, the work of disciplining children on weekdays is responsible for Ms. Zhang, who has a relatively abundant time allocation, but educating children is indeed a "hard work", because children are not working, and they can get corresponding results by treating them honestly.
Especially Ms. Zhang, who has just become a parent, always panics because of some small things when educating her children, so she always disciplines her children with a strict attitude, even if sometimes it is indeed her own problem, Ms. Zhang always uses strong words to stifle the child's opportunity to refute in order to avoid shaking her position of saying one thing or the other.
However, it is this kind of education method that makes Ms. Zhang's children have been depressed, and this chest and pressure have also erupted when they have reached the rebellious period, and every time Ms. Zhang severely criticizes the children, the other party uses a more fierce attitude to scare the past, and at the beginning such an attitude also caught Ms. Zhang off guard.
Of course, because there is no place for reconciliation between the contradictions between the two sides, the two always end their quarrels in anger, but this also makes Ms. Zhang secretly cry, always feeling that there is a problem with her education methods, which causes the child to always talk back to herself.
However, although Ms. Zhang already knows that her education method is wrong, but because she herself has not realized which link is wrong, therefore, the child's rebellion problem has not been solved, but in this regard, teacher Li Meijin already has a set of plans, she said: If the child begins to resist, parents must learn to say these three sentences, and the baby will be more prominent in the future.
01 So, which of the three sentences that Teacher Li Meijin said is exactly?
If you feel unhappy, don't hold it in your heart, don't cover up your anger with me hating you
Everyone will be angry, whether it is an adult or a child can not avoid, but adults should teach children, if angry do not hold the words in their hearts, but through the way of hurting others to vent their emotions, because this is not conducive to the handling of the relationship, and even let the other party because of their own problems and be verbal violence and hurt.
If your child is playing tricks, you may wish to use questioning to divert your child's attention
Children are very wayward "animals", sometimes things are clearly said, but not necessarily abide by the rules to implement, after all, the age of children rarely touch these things, do not know how to keep the promise of the precious, so if you encounter such a situation, parents may wish to first use the way of inquiry to divert the child's attention, to avoid entanglement with the child to make the problem more rigid.
I know you're angry, but you're not right to say that
Parents should behave more rationally than the child, if the child hurts people because of anger and bad words, then parents should know that this is because of the temper, not their true thoughts, at this time remember not to show more anger than the child, but to tell the child that it is not right, first appease the child and then communicate rationally to explain the reason.
It can be seen that these three sentences do have a good effect, so what should parents pay attention to when educating their children?
02 Pay attention to these places:
1. Don't vent negative energy on your child
Children are very pure, if the parents are venting negative energy on the child, for a long time the child will imitate their own practices, and even become inferior and sensitive, temper and emotions will be uncertain, which is not conducive to the growth of mentality.
2. Don't control your child
Parents' desire to control is understandable, but the more they control their children, the only thing they can get is a child who depends on himself, cannot get a child who is independent and responsible, and may even be like Ms. Li, who rebels and likes to talk back, but he cannot discipline himself.
03 Conclusion:
Educating children is a homework, parents should not think that they are adults can "do whatever they want", must consider the problem from the perspective of children, so as to benefit the parents of children more and let children grow more "strong".
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