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For young children who have just arrived in the world, the future is uncertain, and the potential is still to be stimulated. Some of the children's outstanding performance is indeed their excellence, but if you want to really understand whether a child is smart and has a high IQ, according to the views of psychology professor Li Meijin, you need to see whether the child has three bad problems.
Flip things over
Some children always turn over the mess of the house, either the painted walls or the broken furniture. Such children are indeed naughty enough to be irritable, but a closer look can be found that this is also a manifestation of their strong hands-on ability.
They do not understand the damage of destruction to value, but they have a natural curiosity and desire to explore new things, and they like to understand the world in the way they dismantle and contact, which is actually a strong creative ability.
In educational psychology, Yale University's Sternberg proposed the theory of ternary intelligence in 1985, arguing that there are three interrelated aspects related to intelligence, that is, analytical ability, creative ability and practical ability.
Their hands-on ability to operate is constantly evolving, and their intelligence is constantly improving these three aspects of their ability as they grow. According to psychologist Erikson's On the stages of personality development, the developmental crisis in children between the ages of 3 and 6 is the activism versus guilt.
At this time, the child shows a stronger curiosity about the things around them, so when the child's desire to destroy and the desire to turn things over and forth at this stage are getting stronger and stronger, we should give the right guidance, do not blindly accuse them of being naughty, but should explore the operation mechanism of some physical objects with them in an appropriate way.
For example, provide some detachable model toys to encourage them to explore, let children visit their parents in a safe environment to repair a little ornament, or provide some science and education films to let them understand the mysteries of the world's operation. At this stage, if the personality development is not smooth, the child is prone to withdrawing behavior towards the unknown.
Too egotistical, love to talk back
Many children are very selfish when they are young, self-centered in everything, coupled with the love from their elders, many children have developed a bad disease of loving to talk back.
In fact, it is normal for children to have egocentric tendencies when they speak or do things, and the Swiss psychologist Pigett divides the cognitive development of individuals from birth to maturity into four stages, and the second stage is the pre-computing stage.
The Pre operation stage has one-dimensional logic, that is, the irreversibility of mental rigidity. Piaget believes that children at this stage are very egotistical, which is not a pejorative term, but they will only understand the world according to their own point of view, even in a group of people are more inclined to talk about things they are familiar with, and rarely think from the perspective of others or think differently.
This is all a sign that the brain is constantly developing. The definition of self-consciousness refers to the individual's awareness of his or her relationship with the people around him, which is actually a process of continuous development of self-consciousness.
Some children like to talk back to their parents is not necessarily a natural rebellion, they are just too self- and do not realize that their parents have their own perspective, and if their parents do not agree with their own concepts, they have to express their dissatisfaction by using the way of talking back.
Love to resist is not necessarily bad, language and thinking have a close relationship, some children think logically, although quarrels do not stir up nonsense, they constantly output their own views, if children can stand in their own perspective to put forward different expressions, which proves that their language expression ability and critical thinking ability are developing rapidly, which is the performance of children's intelligence.
Love to be funny
Some children are always particularly naughty in front of parents and teachers, and they look disobedient every day.
They are always funny, foreign, disrespectful, undaunted by authority, and even like to play pranks, and sometimes like to imitate friends around them or animals they see around them. This kind of child never seems to suppress his own nature, his thinking does not become dependent on the people around him, he acts according to his own ideas, his thinking is active, his learning ability is strong, and his observation ability is also very strong.
Whether they're thinking about ghost ideas or whatever, their brains are actually very flexible. The specific operation stage of Piaget's theory of children's cognitive development generally refers to children aged 7 to 11 years old, and children at this stage gradually develop into complete and logical thinking, and the thinking of children at this stage is reversible.
It's just that some children, even if they have understood some of the rules and principles of the world, dare not break the rules in real life, and those children who are flexible and funny seem to have broken through this level in thinking. Of course, this also has a lot to do with personality.
There are pros and cons to the existence of children's bad diseases, and although some behaviors look very angry, they are indeed manifestations of the child's continuous intellectual development. Parents should not be overly accusatory of some performances, but they should also not forget right and wrong when releasing their nature.
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).