Children are stubborn, repulsive, crying, and parents like to say "anti-talk"

In the face of crying children, many parents are prone to getting angry, triggering various emotions, and even doing things that hurt their children because they can't maintain a rational mind.

First of all, we must believe that the child's stubbornness, repression, and crying are not only as seen on the surface, but also the child is playing with laissez-faire and unreasonableness, and behind every emotion of the child, there must be a reason, and this reason is mostly related to the parents.

Parents who like to say "back words".

In life, I often meet some parents who like to say "opposite". When parents communicate with their children, they do not give their children a positive response, and as a result, when the child's cognitive level and receptivity do not meet the standards that parents want, the child will work against the parents, which is reasonable.

When parents educate their children, they like to say the opposite, and the initial purpose may be to hope that the child can quickly wake up and give up their "unreasonable" requirements, but most of the time, the results are counterproductive, the child does not sell the account at all, and becomes more and more stubborn.

Child: Mom, I want to eat lollipops.

Mom: Do you want to have tooth decay? Aren't you afraid of rotten teeth? If you look at your teeth, it's because you ate too much sugar when you were a kid that you became so ugly. You say that you don't eat well when you eat, and you think about snacking all day long...

The child was instantly bombarded by a series of accusations, complaints, and denials from his mother, and began to stop talking. But after a few minutes, if it is a younger child, it will start to find various reasons, endless crying, so that the mother will also faint.

And older children, began to fight back: it doesn't matter if you have long tooth decay, I am not afraid of ugliness. Everyone else can eat it, so why can't I? Does every child who eats sugar have tooth decay? There is no rule in the school that sugar cannot be eaten, and the teacher will reward sugar. The mother began to be dizzy by the child's stubbornness and resistance.

This is the mother's use of "anti-talk" to educate the child, causing a series of consequences, which has not achieved the effect of persuading the child at all.

If the mother responds to the child with one sentence without "regurgitation", the effect will be completely different.

Mom: Eating sugar is easy to grow tooth decay, for the health of the teeth, we must try to eat as little as possible, it is best not to eat sugar.

When parents and children communicate, why do they like to say "anti-words", which is related to the misunderstanding of parents to their children, in the hearts of most parents, they always feel that the children are still young, do not understand things, the children's requirements are problematic, and always like to have a teaching tone and communicate with the children.

And some parents also have a wrong cognition, feel that when talking to their children, the more serious and bad they are, the more memorable the children are, and the more they can achieve the effect of stimulating their children.

Parents don't realize that no matter how old the child is, they all have their own feelings, and as they get older, the cognition increases. Parents usually give their children different responses, which may create a different life for their children.

If you want to let the child develop healthily, positively, when communicating and communicating with the child, parents should also give a positive response, using the simplest and clearest expression, so that the child can quickly understand the true intention of the parents, and the child can also quickly make a judgment, so that it is possible to cooperate and respond to the parents.

Respond more positively to the child, and the child is more willing to obey.

The meaning is clear, face the theme directly, and do not turn over the old account.

When communicating with the child because of a certain thing, the content of the exchange revolves around this one thing, rather than always involving other things, and even turning over the old accounts of not knowing how long ago to calculate with the child, which will only cause the child's disgust.

What do parents think about this one? How do you want your child to do it? What are the results of different approaches? Parents just need to calmly state it, without accusation or complaint. At the same time, children should also be allowed to express their own ideas and meanings, do not easily deny the child, and listen carefully to the child's ideas.

When children feel the understanding and attention of their parents, all communication will become smooth.

Talk counts and wins your child's trust.

Trust is the foundation when communicating with people, and the same is true when dealing with children.

Although children have a natural trust in their parents, if their parents are always rebellious and their words do not count, this trust will disappear.

To be truly good for the child is not to scare the child, but to gently and positively explain to the child. Use language and information that your child can accept, and express it simply and clearly.

The communication style between parents and children should change with the child's age, and communicate with the child with cognition and language that meet the child's age group, calmly laying out the facts, and being gentle and reasonable.

When they understand the reasons behind the child's crying, stubbornness, and resistance, parents can also understand their children more and blame less. When children feel the love and tolerance of their parents, they can also have more obedience and less stubbornness.

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