Sometimes when parents come to pick up their children, they will complain twice: "This child listens to the teacher's words so much in your custody, but when he is at home, he can talk back to me at every turn, I say a word, he can stand back ten sentences, I am also angry, I can only keep criticizing him, and finally the temper is really uncontrollable, sometimes I will beat him." There was really no way to send him to your custody again, and I didn't expect that this child was still very good in custody. ”
In fact, children begin to resist, most of the time because parents impose their ideas on their children in a commanding tone or criticism, and children are unwilling to accept them. Of course, the back talk also shows that the child is growing up healthily, and the child at this time just wants to tell the parents: I have grown up, please respect me; if you want to ask me like this, then you must also lead by example; I don't like you to talk to me like this.
Some parents are always uneasy about their children growing up alone, so they invest too much attention on their children, and excessive protection of their children becomes excessive coddling or excessive control. Both of these situations can cause children to lose their freedom and the opportunity to express themselves. The child's recourse at this time is just like the parents to send a signal of resistance, so that the parents know that your education method is wrong, and it is you who should change.
Sometimes, it is just that the opinions of children and adults are not in agreement, and they can communicate in a friendly way, but because the tone of the two sides is not used properly, the contradiction is more intense, and the child's protest expression becomes a counter-talk. For example, if a child wants to buy a toy, but the mother thinks that there is already a toy of the same type at home, so she does not agree, then the parents usually say: "No, don't you already have a similar toy?" There is no need to buy again. "But the child thinks that this toy is different from the one at home, he wants this very much, and the way the parents speak makes the child very angry, so he begins to resist."
The best solution at this time is to let the child talk about his own ideas, and then analyze them with the child to see if the idea is going to be realized immediately. I believe that after analysis, the child himself can also judge whether he must buy, rather than unreasonable mouth.
Parents use a commanding tone to talk to the child, the child rebels naturally to rebel against you, so if you want to communicate with the child well, you can use more question sentences to communicate with the child, for example, want the child to complete the homework can be said: "Are you willing to continue to write homework at home tomorrow, or do you want to quickly finish homework today, and then we go out to play tomorrow?" "With this selective question sentence to give the child the opportunity to choose, let the child express his opinion, he feels that he is respected, and naturally he will respect the parents."