Yesterday went to a relative's house to visit the New Year, there was a little girl in the relative's house who was as old as the little niece, the little girl wanted to eat the sugar orange on the coffee table, she took a sugar orange in her hand, the little girl's mother saw this scene, directly snatched the sugar orange, and shouted loudly to the child: You ate a few sugar oranges a day.
Watching her mother murder herself, the little girl did not say a word and put the sugar orange back on the table, she sat on a small stool ready to watch TV, did not expect that her mother directly turned off the TV, I can feel the child's grievances.
However, unexpectedly, the little girl actually did not resist her mouth at all, and the sister sitting next to her also said: The child is well-behaved, but she does not resist her mouth, and does not want our daughter, you say a word, she can resist 8 sentences.
I recognize my sister's words, the little niece is really "the king of the mouth", Chinese New Year's Eve night, the little niece sits in the living room eating snacks, the sister does not let her eat, calls her to sleep, the little niece does not listen at all, the sister directly yelled at her: mango, you still eat, you can't sleep, you don't sleep I will sleep.
I didn't expect this sentence to have no deterrent effect on the little niece, she directly confronted her sister: I don't sleep, you have to sleep you sleep, go to bed early next year will become a lazy pig, grandparents said, I can sleep late, our family heard this sentence, laughing forward and backward.
When the sister yelled at the little niece, she often resisted, the sister often suspected that this was not her daughter, she and her brother-in-law were not fond of talking type, did not expect the little niece to be able to say so.
From whether the child will resist after being enough of the parents, you can see the child's personality
First, children who do not resist after being yelled at by their parents
After being yelled at by the parents, the child is actually not confident that he lacks a sense of security, this kind of child is easy to suffer from a flattering personality, our colleague Kobayashi is a flattering personality, I have a good relationship with her, she told me why she will suffer from a flattering personality, Kobayashi's parents are civil servants, and they have high requirements for Kobayashi.
Kobayashi is not a smart child, when she went to school, her grades were not particularly good, her parents often taught her: I don't want you, you are too stupid, you are not our child, parents have taught more, Kobayashi began to doubt herself, is it too bad, at first her parents yelled at her, she would resist, and later, she did not resist her mouth, she silently endured, she felt that she was too bad and she was afraid that her parents did not want her.
She began to become flattering to her parents, doing housework, learning to two or three o'clock every day, for a long time, she suffered from a flattering personality, she would unconsciously please everyone, after she worked, she would still please others, and therefore often bullied by others.
She had seen a psychiatrist, but it didn't do much, and her flattering personality wasn't much better.
When children are yelled at by their parents, they do not talk back is a manifestation of children's insecurity and lack of self-confidence, they feel that they are very bad, their parents are yelling right, and they are also afraid that their parents will not want themselves after the mouth is resisted.
If the child is yelled at by the parents and does not talk back, the parents should reflect on whether their usual behavior is not to make the child feel insecure.
Second, children who are yelled at by their parents and then talk back
Children who are yelled at by their parents are opinionated, positive, and confident children, why do you say this?
After being yelled at by their parents, they dare to say what they think in their hearts, they will not hold everything in their hearts, such children, when they encounter difficulties in the future, can also actively solve, they will not be afraid because the other party is strong, they can always stick to their own hearts.
In the process of parents educating their children, we can understand jackie chan, but parents try not to yell at their children, roar more, children will be insecure, no longer resist, hold all the emotions in their hearts, parents should talk to their children well, let the children say their thoughts, do not hold everything in their hearts.
Children's character training is very important, when children have emotions, parents do not roar, parents should guide children to understand emotions, manage emotions, let children face emotions with a good attitude.
Good character is half of success, parents should pay attention to, must help children cultivate a good character, for the child's future lay the foundation.