People with a hard life actually find it difficult to enjoy fun in life, because to them, real life seems to be putting shackles on them all the time, and throwing their ideals and hopes into the mud again and again.
Marriage, for women, is the second reincarnation of life, people with good fate, with marriage to heal life, people with bad fate, then use life to heal marriage, so the choice is greater than the business, can get happiness in marriage, women are undoubtedly lucky.
Psychological research has shown that women are not "fateful", in fact, look at the kitchen to know, these 3 points can not deceive people.
Marriage is good or not, just look at the kitchen at home
There is a couple of post-90s couples who never enter the kitchen after marriage, because neither of them can cook, so usually two people either order takeout, or go back to their mother's house or in-laws' house to rub rice, in short, the kitchen has become a decoration for them.
It sounds convenient, but their marriage lasted only a year before falling apart.
The reason is that they feel that they do not feel the temperature in the marriage, and the marriage has no happiness for them.
What it was like when I was single, what I still looked like after marriage, there was no difference, so I simply broke it off.
Psychologist Adler described the law of husband and wife in "Inferiority and Transcendence" as follows: "Marriage is actually a job, it has its own rules and rules, we can not only choose one part of it, avoid the other parts, without compromising the eternal law of the earth - cooperation." ”
So what is cooperation, that is, two people working together to complete something, and then to understand the importance of two people working together, and the kitchen is the best "battlefield" for husband and wife cooperation.
In the small world of the kitchen, the husband and wife are busy, in the steaming and full of fireworks, they understand that the happiness of marriage requires the joint efforts of two people, and they also understand that marriage is never a matter of one person.
And those families who even have a deserted kitchen, how can their marriages have a temperature?
Women are not happy in marriage, just eat a meal
01), I know that someone once asked, "Why is it that the temperature of a meal can reflect the temperature of a relationship"?
In the comment area, a high praise replied: "In my family, every time it comes to dinner, there is the sound of chopsticks moving around, this is not greedy, but we give the dish clip to each other, let him eat more good things, this is my family's happiness to bring warm family." ”
I remember when I was a child, after my mother cooked a meal, my favorite scene was that several of our children were wolfing down, because our eating appearance was an affirmation of her cooking skills, which would make my mother feel a sense of accomplishment.
If a person has a sense of pleasure, then he or she will be more able to concentrate when dealing with problems, even if it is a difficult problem, he or she can be calm.
02), in real life, those couples who can sit at a table to eat, their feelings will not be worse, because this can reflect from the side that men are going home, and when they leave work, they do not go home to socialize but go home with their wives and children.
Like Song Siming in the TV series "Snail House", after having seaweed, the number of times she returned home was countless, and even her daughter complained that she had to make an appointment to eat at the table with her father.
It can be seen that if a couple is difficult to even eat a meal at a table, then it means that there is a problem with the feelings of two people.
Whether a woman's life is good or not, the kitchen will know
Case study: The reader breaks up with the boyfriend who has been together for three years, and the trigger is that the reader meets the boyfriend's parents, even after twenty years, the reader will not forget the scene at that time.
The family is sitting at the dinner table, and the boyfriend's mother is busy in the kitchen alone, the reader can't look down, just ready to get up to help, only to see the boyfriend's father said, "Don't worry, you can eat, it's a big deal to go hot after a while."
On that day, the father of the leisurely boyfriend was like a great uncle, and his wife was not his wife, but more like his servant.
The reader remembers that in his own home, no matter what time, it is the parents who are busy together, even if the father can't cook, he will also lay hands on the side, and the reader thinks that the way all couples get along should be like this.
It wasn't until she saw her boyfriend's parents, until she saw her boyfriend take it for granted that her mother took it for granted, that she realized that the man in front of her might not be able to give her the happiness she wanted.
The kitchen is not only a place to cook and eat, it more intuitively reflects the happiness of a family.
The temperature of a marriage, a happy marriage, the fireworks contained in the kitchen must not be lacking.
And men who accompany women to cook in the kitchen, or play and play, naturally understand that marriage is a matter of two people.
And with such a responsible man, how can a woman be "bitter"?