Author | Erhe
At 2 a.m., a young mother broke down and cried because of a conflict with her in-laws.
She cried and said, "My baby, how do you call your mother?" ”
@Zhengzhou Economic Life Radio
A month old baby only knows to wave his small hand and look at his mother in confusion...
However, tens of seconds of video, but watched a lot of crying.
How desperate should this mother be to tell her grievances to her child, who is only a few months old?
Some people say that when couples quarrel, the most pitiful person is not actually a child, but a mother.
After the quarrel, the father can turn his head and leave, and he can go out to drink and relieve the boredom; but the mother, they can only silently cry, while making food for the child, playing with the child, and coaxing the child to sleep.
Because she is a mother, the child is her biggest weakness. She couldn't go anywhere but stay with her child.
After becoming a mother, even tears became a luxury
A mother, after arguing with her husband, locked herself in the room, but just after cleaning for a while, the cries of the children came from outside the door.
Hearing the child crying, the mother immediately softened her heart and quickly opened the door to coax the child.
Anger and grievances did not dissipate at all, the mother was also sad, but also wanted to lose her temper, but when the child cried, she still did not hesitate to ignore the emotions and rushed to take care of the child.
Some people lament that after becoming a mother, even the right to be sad has been deprived. If you want to cry, you also need to find a suitable time and space.
Whoever loves more, has the softest heart.
In Mom's place, love is armor, but also a weakness.
The mother is not without temper, but reluctant to let the child be wronged
Not long ago, a truck driver in Jinhua, Zhejiang Province, after arguing with his wife, suddenly got angry, threw his several months old child and wife in the high-speed service area, and drove his own car to "go away".
In the video, the wife held the child, found the police against the traffic flow on the highway, explained the situation, and after several twists and turns, the police finally recovered her husband.
In the face of the police's cross-examination, the husband cried bitterly: "I am too stressed." ”
But what about Mom? With the child just thrown away like that, what kind of despair should it be?
But no matter how aggrieved and bitter she was, she still did not abandon the child, but rationally asked for help from the traffic police and wanted to find her husband.
A friend said that after becoming a mother, she learned why her mother often reminded herself to have another child a few years later.
Really tired.
There is a bunch of work at work, children are waiting to accompany after work, and most of the people who stand up for leave when the in-laws have something to do is she.
Every day when you wake up, it is a family's daily chores, there is always an endless meal in the kitchen, the sink is always full of bowls, the laundry room always has smelly socks that can't be washed, and more difficultly, there is a day that children who are eager to call "mother" eight hundred times.
Buy vegetables and cook, wash and wash, coax the baby to sleep, it is difficult to survive the day, but after the sun rises, the tidy home changes to the battlefield in seconds and returns to the original.
If you put on a partner who doesn't know the warmth and cold, from time to time to dismantle the table: "Why is the family so chaotic?" How do you manage your children? "What will happen to the mothers?
Don't mothers have tempers?
Of course not.
It's just that my mother's temper has long been consumed in the housework and trivialities that can't see the head at a glance. Even if you quarrel and get angry, these things are often your own in the end.
After the quarrel, it was the mother who could not get into the knife and gun, and it was also the mother who was scaly and injured.
After the quarrel, it is the mother who is sad and sad, and it is the mother who forgives as quickly as possible, and it is still the mother who makes the family life run as it is.
Everyone tacitly agrees that the best temper and the strongest is the mother. But they forgot that the mothers were not like this originally, her tolerance and strength, that is how many tears and grievances were exchanged.
Just because she had children, she never thought about winning again.
The best couples are not to quarrel, but to love each other well after a quarrel
Zhang Cailing, a stand-up comedian, once said this when asked about how she quarreled with her foreign husband:
When expressing love, the other half cares about your language, but when arguing, it is not at all about whether the other party can understand it, as long as you are happy and the spirit is in place.
Everyone wants to live freely and sleep freely, but what mothers yearn for most in their hearts is emotional freedom.
Who gave moms the confidence to be emotionally free? It is the cherishing, giving and tolerance of the other half.
When Zhang Cailing was busy participating in the competition, her husband was responsible for taking care of her daughter, buying vegetables and cooking, so that she had no worries.
This kind of sharing and support can resolve the grievances of the mother to the greatest extent, and it is also the reason why a marriage can last a long time.
As Zhang Cailing said in a recent letter to her daughter:
Many people say that mothers are strong women who have to earn money and support their families, but this is not the case. If there is no father's support, the mother has no home to support, this family is supported by two people.
So when you're older and married, Mom wants you to realize that equality.
If you're the one who makes money, I hope you don't think you're raising people;
If you're the one who takes care of your family, I don't want you to feel inferior.
It's easy to get along well with the people around you when you're having a good time. But when mom is a little short, small eyes and big ugly girl who no one knows, only Dad stands up and says, no one is allowed to say that she is ugly, I think she is the best looking, better looking than anyone!
The confidence after your mother is all given by your father.
The only person who gave his mother a bitter quarrel and gave his mother confidence could only be his father.
The best couples are not never quarrelsome, but they can still love each other well after quarrelling.
Quarrel and rejoice. Those quarrels and forgiveness, willfulness and tolerance, tears and hugs, are the most common appearances in marriage.
Compared with more money and less money, the size of the house, the one who dares to lose his temper and can first receive a call from the other party after a quarrel is the real winner in life.
Compared with the icing on the cake when she is happy, the warmth and tolerance after the quarrel will also warm her.
So, don't forget to give her a hug at the first time after the fight, and always remember, don't let her always be the one who bows her head.
She is not inseparable, but does not leave.
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Author: Erhe, journalist, pastry chef, likes fresh and interesting text, prefers sweet and rich cream. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.