Author | Erhe
A mother in Hunan received 10 books sent by her son, and when she looked at the title, the whole network was happy:
"No Yelling, No Screaming, One of Mom's Practices"
Nonviolent Communication
"Good Mom Has a Way"
"You're Just Pretending to Be With Your Kids"
……
Just looking at the titles, they are some "parent success learning" books, exposing the strict requirements and ardent expectations of children for their mothers.
When giving gifts, the boy did not forget to say to his mother: "I hope you study hard and improve every day." ”
Netizens laughed and sighed that compared to Wangzi Jackie Chan, Wangmu Chengfeng was obviously heavier.
For today's children, the chicken baby is not fresh for a long time, and the reverse chicken mother is interesting.
Chicken parents, every baby is a master
A pair of twin little sisters in Changde were found stealing small food before dinner, and my mother just criticized: "Can you be like Meng Meng when you eat?" ”
The sisters immediately retorted:
"Why should we be like her? Everyone is different. I want you to be as gentle as Teacher Jingjing, can you do it? ”
Mom was suddenly gagged and couldn't pick up a word.
Sometimes, children are the masters of logic. You have to admit that you can't refute their words.
Xiao Bao, a little boy in the variety show "After School", when he was practicing the piano, his father held a brush in his hand and pointed at the side:
"Stop, stop! Wrong location! ”
"Wrong again!"
"How did you get so dead!"
Xiao Bao also did not show weakness, and directly countered his father's attitude:
"Don't point this at me."
You come and go, and Dad's blood pressure soars straight to 162.
The first round was lost, and Mom and Dad were not willing to join forces to "criticize" XiaoBao. Who knew that as soon as he opened his mouth, he was stunned to death:
"Dad likes to find other people's problems, never looking for his own problems",
"Sometimes moms don't have a good emotional control."
First of all, it is clear about dad's problems, and then it accurately points out mom's shortcomings. At the end, do not forget to continue to repair the sword, confidently affirm the point of view:
"I didn't scare you, I think I was right."
The child's argument is really to the point, and the sentences are to the point.
Xiao Bao said the voices of countless children: "They used to point out me, now I want to point out his bad faults!" ”
Don't underestimate children, in fact, they are the greatest observers.
When parents hold up a magnifying glass and stare at the shortcomings of their babies, they do not know that children are also examining their parents in their own way.
Learn to accept your child's objections
Everyone knows that the significance of educating children is far-reaching, but whether from the perspective of family happiness or parent-child, the meaning of chicken parents has long been better than that of chicken babies.
● Establish an equal communication relationship
It is actually good to be educated by children.
During the winter vacation, colleagues nagged their sons every day: "I am as old as you, I get up at 5 o'clock to read in the morning!" ”
The son lay on the bed and turned over: "You do it first, then educate me!" ”
The colleague wanted to continue nagging, but suddenly felt that his son was right.
Since that day, she has gotten up early every day to read, and her son has seen the situation, and he is no longer sharp-mouthed, and he is more conscious of reading. After a month, colleagues have improved a lot of business, and the relationship with children has also become closer.
China Juvenile Daily did a survey, 75.4% of teenagers, think that their parents are too strong.
In this kind of parent-child relationship, any sound of the child cannot enter the ears of the parents.
Parents who are willing to let their children educate, invisibly establish an equal communication relationship for their children, and the family atmosphere is so good.
● Harmonious family relations
The child slipped away while writing homework, and the father became angry with his wife, thinking that she was not well educated.
The son on the side reminded his father, "You talk to your mother well, okay?" ”
Dad turned his back in anger: "I can't say anything well!" You have a problem with your learning attitude! ”
The son corrected his father: "Learning is my business, not her business." ”
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Dad was still a little unconvinced: "Learning is already in her hands!" ”
The son continued to retort: "She is in charge of learning, and the housework is also under her control, and she is not tired!" ”
This remark is clear in thought, reasonable and well-founded, and dad is poor in reason.
Children who know how to communicate with their parents also know how to feel sorry for their parents and make family relations more harmonious.
● Give parents strength
A while ago, Mr. Zhu, who was working in Zhejiang, was tired to the point of collapse.
There was no one to take the baby, so he had to take his 2-year-old daughter to the factory to work overtime.
At his most depressed, his 2-year-old daughter put her arms around his neck, kissed her dad, and then said something serious: "Don't be discouraged, we can't have nothing!" You are the best! ”
Dad laughed right away.
It is not only parents who lead our children to grow, but when we are vulnerable, children will also become our spiritual dependence and give us great strength.
Educator Jane Nelson said that a good parent-child relationship is to learn to accept all the objections of children.
The psychological logic behind this is that when parents bow their heads, bend down, and humbly accept their children's "education", they can give their children closer relationships, smoother communication, and more harmonious love.
Good parents are "educated" by their children
When the writer Yin Jianli was 4 years old, he insisted on holding a weekly meeting, and the content of the meeting was to guide each other's family members, where he did not do enough.
She was pleasantly surprised to find that the more advice her daughter gave herself and her husband, the more she and her husband gained.
After being educated, she understood that she and her husband were not perfect, and with this recognition, the couple was more tolerant of their daughters;
More communication, more relaxed family atmosphere, the whole family communication more free;
More importantly, I and my husband and daughter have also learned to express their opinions sincerely, and their feelings are better.
Good parents are really educated by children.
This may be the biggest surprise on the road of parent-child, while growing up with you, I have become a better version of myself.
In one video, the father angrily pointed to a 55-point essay and asked his son to read it out loud to him.
The little boy read aloud:
"My mother is a god, and she can do anything, eat and drink Lazarus.
But married to a king, the king never works, has a bad temper, his eyes are bigger than his mother's, and he is angry and slaps the table..."
After saying that, the boy still learned the appearance of his father, comparing the appearance of temper tantrums.
I thought I was educating my children, but I didn't expect that I was taught a lesson by my son. I saw that my father's expression turned from embarrassment to darkness, gradually turned to sunny, and finally laughed out loud.
A few days later, the mother who returned from a business trip saw her husband, who had never worked, cook happily in the kitchen, and was shocked and couldn't believe it.
When the child gives you a lesson, let go of the parental authority, accept it modestly and low-key, adjust carefully and quickly, let the child see your change, and then give better love to the child.
Good children are educated by their parents;
Good parents are also "educated" by their children.
Bend down, listen to your child's voice, and progress with your child to become a better version of yourself.
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Author: Erhe, journalist, pastry chef, likes fresh and interesting text, prefers sweet and rich cream. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.