Some time ago, I did not post a few articles about fertility, a friend who managed family planning came to me and said that it is no problem to have a second child now
If you encourage the third child, the powerful family will be born early, and it is useless for ordinary people to encourage it
At the end of the last century, the Family Planning Office was busy catching supernatural students and repeatedly banned them
Now the Family Planning Office in turn encourages everyone to have children, and young people are scornful, and the times have really changed
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I think the gap between the second and third children is mainly due to the family burden
Because the cost of raising children is too high now
The post-80s and post-90s of the last century belonged to the ultra-low energy consumption generation
Taking the author as an example, growing up in the rural areas of western Zhejiang, the average annual consumption before high school did not exceed 3,000 yuan
The four years of college are slightly higher, after all, it is into the city, spending a total of 70,000
In this way, it actually takes only 130,000 to cultivate a post-90s to adulthood
This number is still conservative, after all, I ate more barbecues at the school gate than the average classmate
So in fact, most of the cost of the post-90s should be around 100,000, of course, mainly refers to rural children (but in the 90s, children in rural areas were the mainstream)
Today's children are generally intensively raised, and from the birth of the child to the university, almost all of them are watched by six pairs of eyes
Especially among children in the city, some of them have begun to spend money since prenatal education
There are also tens of thousands of kindergartens and private schools that can't move for 30,000 a year, and according to statistics, Shanghai parents spend more than 2 million yuan on a baby
You see that number is enough to raise a football team in the countryside, and there is a surplus of 9 substitutes
The chart above is how our country's urbanization rate has changed over the past two decades
Around 2000, with a series of social changes, our urbanization rate increased significantly
With the increase in the urbanization rate, the rural population has rapidly moved into the city, and the cost of social childcare has also increased by leaps and bounds
Everyone's thinking has changed, from the number of children in the countryside to the number of children in the countryside, to the intellectual duel in the city, and the intensive raising of children is better than schooling
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Nowadays, children are investing heavily in the competition, and the material has indeed improved a lot, and the eighteen martial arts will be pointed out
Some time ago, a new crown tune in Beijing let everyone see the current situation of chicken babies in super cities
It was later confirmed that the after-school schedule on the Internet was fake, but it was indeed because the child attended too many after-school classes, and later the whole school was closed
From the perspective of parents, there is nothing wrong with chicken babies. We have managed to gain a foothold in the city, suffered from the lack of talent, and now let the children make up for it
Chicken babies are similar to nuclear bomb competitions, after dumping each other, the parents' wallets are tired, the child's body and mind are tired, and finally found that the child is broken
My classmate, who teaches in high school, said that children's psychological endurance is very poor, and teachers dare not say a word of gravity
At the age when it should be playing, children lose interest in learning early, and at the same time do not pay attention to children's socialization
Many children nowadays have problems with school aversion and social phobia
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Social fear and aversion to school must be the main responsibility of the chicken baby
Urbanization is a secondary responsibility, but it is interconnected
Social changes and populations have left their homeland, making the relationship between family and family in a state of separation for a long time in time and space
Many children will not get along with friends like cousins and cousins, and maybe mobile phones are better partners
Now in the New Year, the only thing that the juniors can link to is the common friend mobile game
Family affection slowly fades away in a long separation
At the end of the last century, the post-80s and post-90s mainly gathered in the countryside, and the flow of children in the city was also small, and everyone had a bunch of partners who were small
In the past two decades, the urbanization rate has grown rapidly, and many newly emerging cities have relied on the support of new citizens
In this kind of stranger society with a rapidly mobile population, many people have to move every few years, leaving the children without friends and separated from the group
In the 90s, not only did there not have endless game time for chicken babies, but there were also a bunch of friends at the door
Excessive academic chicken babies also exacerbate the confrontation and comparison between children
Living in this closed and competitive environment from an early age, the child's personality will inevitably go to extremes, of course, he does not love socializing
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Economic changes
Now the post-00s who have social fears have begun to slowly walk out of the campus, and they are a special generation
In recent years, the army of examination and research has been growing, and the essence is that it is afraid of employment
It is indeed very confusing to come out of the campus, leave the protection of your parents, and accept self-reliance
Especially after more than 20 years of low energy consumption in schools, the impact of suddenly having to face the real problems of life cannot be described as strong
Now the average monthly living expenses of college students with better conditions are 3,000 yuan, but when you walk out of the campus, you will find that 6,000 yuan can only be a moonlight family
The cost of living and the rising cost of social networking have made everyone retract their own acres and three points of land
Of course, most of the post-00s are confident and brave, they dare to challenge authority, dare to defend their rights and interests
Compared with the ostrich personality of the post-80s and post-90s, the post-00s are collectives who dare to say "no", and they have a bright future
In the future, the strength of chicken babies will gradually fade under the power of education double reduction, and I hope that the next generation of children will have a healthier future!