Technological change, resulting in high-end jobs, allows parents to see the high returns of education.
The differentiation of rich and poor and the solidification of classes allow parents to rely on their children to use high education to obtain achievements.
"Chicken Baby", "Tiger Mother" and "Helicopter Parents" are the products of the social and economic environment.
Parents' different parenting styles for their children are the result of a trade-off between the happiness of childhood and the happiness of adulthood.
Parents who adopt a laissez-faire parenting style believe that childhood is also a part of their children's lives, and it is a respect for children to have a happy childhood. You can't sacrifice your child's childhood happiness in exchange for adult happiness.
Parents who adopt a harsh parenting approach argue that their children lack judgment at a young age. Parents should be responsible for their children's lives as adults. In the stage of children's education, it is necessary to have strict requirements, so that children can seize the time to learn and invest in later life.
Parents who do not have parenting methods treat their children's happiness as differently as people treat money.
· Some people choose to force savings when they are young and save enough money for the elderly.
· Some people practice timely pleasure, moonlight clan or overdraft credit cards, flowers, to pay for the current happiness.
However, now that the gap between the rich and the poor is widening, more parents believe that only by paying close attention to their children's education can they have the opportunity to let their children break the circle of parents.
Therefore, under the potential advantage of a refined and rigorous education method, more "helicopter mothers" are born. "Chicken baby" becomes the optimal strategy for a single family.
1. Strict and refined education can effectively improve children's test scores.
Although we intellectually do not support it, in fact, in the case of families that take intensive education for their children, their children's grades are generally higher than those of children with non-intensive education. Two children with similar grades, one child, after attending the training class, the grades have improved significantly.
The picture above shows the test scores of Chinese and Korean students in two different parenting modes. Whether in mathematics, reading or other subjects, children who adopt intensive parenting methods will have a final test score of more than twenty points higher.
Observing the children around you, you will also find that although the students of the hegemonic type rely on their own efforts and diligence. However, for children with moderate and lower grades, the improvement of academic performance depends more on the investment of parents' time and money.
Parents compare their own social circle, the child's learning situation. After drawing a link between rigorous and refined education and grades. For the education of their children, parents should increase their investment in time and money.
· In terms of time, parents sacrifice more time for their work, socializing, and entertainment. Supervise children's learning, give children more logistical support in learning, and pick up and drop off children to and from various cram schools.
· Financially, parents have upgraded from large classes to boutique small classes. Ultimately, strive to maximize the child's time-efficiency ratio in learning, and may also choose to spend more to 1-on-1 subject training.
2. Refined and strict education, pinning parents' hopes for children to break the circle
Technological changes have brought about high-end jobs in today's society, which generate huge incomes and social status differences with ordinary jobs. And high education is a stepping stone to high-end work, and the high rate of return on education makes parents believe that the success of children depends on the achievement of education.
Parents see no hope of breaking the circle on their own. Therefore, put your hopes on your children's education, and make every effort to let your children enjoy high-level educational resources, so that children can break through their own circles through education.
Parents, through coercion or indoctrination, make children believe that sacrificing the happiness of childhood is the investment in obtaining the highest rate of return on happiness in adulthood, and that childhood happiness is the capital of happiness in adulthood.
Before we became parents, we envisioned a more relaxed way of educating our children. But in reality, we find that we now intervene more in our children's daily activities and in education than we did in our childhood education.
The way we choose to raise children depends more on the socio-economic environment. It's not about the parenting perspectives we receive from childhood and the educational environment we live in.
Although the educational arms race is a zero-sum game for society as a whole. But for a single family, it is the best choice. Therefore, parents of all income levels are keen on a sophisticated and rigorous approach to education. Trying to let the child pass, the high return of education, break the circle of parents themselves.
Therefore, in this social environment that pursues the maximization of personal interests.
The relaxed education of children allows children to have a happy childhood and gradually lose their attractiveness.
Strict and refined parenting continues to spread in society and receives the support of more parents.
Essentially, what parenting style parents choose depends on their parents' predictions and trade-offs about their children's current and future. Only when the gap between the rich and the poor in society becomes smaller and the educational resources are equitable, parents may think more about the happiness of their children's childhood. Practice a "free and happy way of education".