Warning: This is not a yuwa chicken soup article, it may be very different, do not like please cross away.
In addition, in this article, the child's mother's appearance rate is particularly low, because she may be the only normal person in the family
Chicken babies are not difficult, of course it is difficult.
To bear the double challenge of energy and money, it is even more difficult if the parent is still a person with a very jumpy mind.
Chicken baby nine years, in the words of her daughter: a VIP of a mental hospital brought out two mental illnesses.
How it is
It was a delight
If you want to make two such babies, how do you start? To sum up, share with the kings (yi qi ru ken).
1
precondition
Mustn't there be a crazy daddy? The so-called "people look like dogs in front of people, and there is no personal appearance after returning home."
This innate condition determines that this chicken baby way cannot be popularized, and the father has to be open-minded. Describe several real-world scenarios:
A. Kill the pig to remove the hair
B. Be careful in words and deeds at home
C. A small crab talks for five or six years
What image can be used when telling a story, usually two girls lying down laughing, I stand on the bed dancing with my hands, like a very crazy demon. Moreover, a single small crab series story has been told for five or six years. It can be said that in every story, there is not a serious protagonist.
Little crab skipping ballet (how does a man who can't dance at all perform?). Must it be a fool's errand? ), after receiving whales as little brothers, going to aliens as bosses, heaven and earth are bigger than Sun Wukong, and Marvel heroes are a slag in front of it. And the image is not positive at all, it is a small crab with a black belly.
D. "Sincere Teaching"
E. Has always been the "executed" object
The meaning of open-mindedness is that most of the time when I am a father, there is actually no dignity, like what my daughter asked to sit there and give me hair to tie my hair, and to be asked to see a famous doctor as a patient are small scenes.
Innate conditions are in place to do the following chicken baby actions.
2
Develop your child's ability to pick up stems
What is a stalk? Personally, I think it's a bit like a brain teaser.
In addition to being rigorous in thinking, I think it is also very important to be active. To keep your mind active, what is the first thing to do?
Try to make your child have a strong sense of curiosity and protect it.
What is a stalk? Isn't it a course to avoid falling into the trap of thinking? What is a thinking trap? I think it's a pit.
So, my method is to create all kinds of "pits" for my daughter.
The eldest daughter has been pit by me since childhood,
Later, the eldest daughter is difficult to pit, and sometimes join hands to pit the younger daughter:
As for the usual, the following kind of dialogue is even more commonplace:
Or:
Dad said something to you:
Today Dad played with someone, saw a master, next to the golfers lost him.
You know Dad's level, roll up your sleeves and challenge him.
(Pretending to be proud)
Got it? Hahaha.
Your father's death was terrible.
After more such conversations, the eldest daughter has developed a habit, and when I speak, she will think about it and then answer. The younger daughter is still young, and her nature is relatively innocent, and she is still frequently pitted; but it has changed quite a lot from before.
3
Pay attention to mood changes and do a thought exchange
Pure madness is certainly not the main content of raising children. Women are delicate in their hearts, and so are little girls. And as you get older, you will think more and more carefully. Then it is also essential to do some ideological communication.
Don't let children go crazy without a correct worldview.
Don't look at the eldest daughter grinning, there should be a rebellious period that did not run away. Sometimes the wife will say: Oh, this guy, now it's the top of the heart and lungs. This time to play? inexistent. scold? Scolding children during the rebellious period can only be counterproductive (there are also times when the qi pole is uncontrollable, but it is relatively rare). So you have to chat more with your child and put her in a peer-to-peer position.
I have a habit of talking to my daughter, which is to use question sentences instead of rhetorical questions (I have always felt that rhetorical questions can appear aggressive). Guide the little one to speak his mind through reasonable questions.
For example, if Dad did this just now, I know you're going to feel very uncomfortable, right? Do you know what Dad thinks in his heart? Dad also felt wronged. So there must be one side in the middle of us who misunderstood the other side, what did you think in your heart just now? (The tone should be calm, otherwise it will become a question.) )
Usually, when I feel the need to tell her some ideas, I will tell her the reasons and let her choose for herself. For example, let her save her own pocket money, and instead of saving it in the bank, it is recommended that she use a stainless steel piggy bank to store it. I talked to her about the concept of compulsory savings, and the difference between consumption and saving money.
Another example is the eldest daughter, who is young and wants to make a will
In school, she will also encounter some things that make her angry, such as senior students robbing their badminton courts, schools do not have holidays on weekends because of the epidemic, etc., these things can help her analyze through jokes, and do not let negative emotions affect them for too long.
4
A family atmosphere that "hurts" each other
Join forces to deceive children
The big words reminded herself, and she also reminded her father
When they joined forces to damage me, I would turn over their black history
Young and gentle, began to plot to kill her father
5
Since it is a chicken baby, have you participated in the training class?
There really is. It has been nine years since the eldest daughter began training; the younger daughter has also been training for four or five years. It can be said that for nine consecutive years, my family has basically not had a complete holiday.
There are still many training programs for my baby, but there is a feature: it is not forced for children to go, it can be said that children are more interested. Even to stop a training to do a long period of ideological work.
In the children's cultural class training, we did not give up the theory of happy education until the summer vacation of the eldest daughter's fifth grade was forced to go to school. At that time, after talking to her eldest daughter about further education, she let her decide for herself whether to participate in the training of cultural classes, and she struggled for a long time between taking the school and the time to play less, and agreed to sign up for the training class with tears.
After the epidemic increased and subtracted, the only thing that has been insisted on is the training of interest; there is also a discipline training that is intermittent.
6
Am I satisfied with the growth of my children?
I've always thought that growing up with a baby is a matter of crossing the river by touching stones, not superstitious authority, but I will go to see some information on children's education (don't get excited, don't watch much).
Moreover, my wife and I are ordinary people, and we know that it is a very immoral thing to impose our unfulfilled dreams on our children. So I don't have high requirements for my children, that is, to be able to be an ordinary person with enough food and clothing.
At this stage, the two little guys are getting by, and the interest category has also won some awards with some weight. But on the road of taking a baby, we must pay attention everywhere; achievements and achievements I think are far less important than a mature mind and a relatively positive three views.
What makes me very happy is that although the two little girls have such shortcomings, they are kind and sincere to others; in terms of personality, I am a little crazy, but the popularity is not bad. Knowing how to advance and retreat, knowing good and evil, is already a very satisfactory look.
Finally, I've always believed in one sentence: beautiful things, slow growth. The rest of the road is very long, and I don't let the results of the moment affect my joys and sorrows. I believe that life gives us not only tribulations, but also endless beauty, just like these two god-given daughters.