Recently, a post-90s mother gave me a few similar pictures (see Fang) to let me use the early childhood education expertise I had learned to see if such a general early education method was reliable.
When asked, her baby is only 2 years old...
She said that now in the mother group, there are often such videos spreading, and the results of The Baby are very significant. Learning to raise children wants to be good for the children, but in the face of such a popular parenting method, you need to understand whether it is "really useful" or "really harmful" before learning. Today, let's take stock of these Internet celebrity parenting methods, and at the end of the article, I will also add how to practice the skills of fire-eyed golden eyes.
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"Chicken Baby" sinks to early education to talk about the screenshot above, which makes people "thrilled" with the general early education method. I believe that many mothers have brushed such videos, empathetic thinking, I am a novice mother, but also easy to have the illusion: it is really a good plan! After watching it, I was ready to roll up my sleeves and do a big job, full of confidence in myself to become a good mother. Look at how intimate this "whole subject early education" is: according to each discipline, the design of early education programs at home, the class schedule includes language, mathematics, English and other post-school-age subjects, as well as language expression, logic, speech and other skills "training", but also carefully prepared for everyone free learning resources, planned roadmap, self-made advanced teaching materials. Some videos say:
Be sure to do something that your child is more productive at this age and tap into your child's potential, and focus on them.
The following one is even more exaggerated:
So I grabbed a two-year-old baby and began to memorize words: at home and on the car, they were all plastered with famous poems carefully prepared by parents every day, and repeated bombing let the baby carry it (also said that it is best to shape when the baby is small and still a blank piece of paper). The schedule of the chicken baby is simply more terrible than the 996 and 007 in the workplace: the child has no time to play during the day, OK, and must pay attention to learning for 2 hours before going to bed!
Everyone should pay attention to the following contents are children before the age of 3
Such a full plan, a scrappy incitement video, every word is typed on the soft underbelly of the mothers. But when I turn my head, my child doesn't seem to be able to sit like the angel baby in the video, and is not interested in this knowledge, is there something wrong with my method? "Other children are like this, why can't my family do it?" If my family doesn't do it, will it fall behind? Once the mothers think like this, the purpose is achieved - all the traffic is rushing, and the "chicken baby" is the universal traffic password.
Must be faked! The so-called "general early education" is completely unreliable:
1. Tracing back to the source, the concept of early childhood education does not exist, it is just a network term. On the Internet, there is indeed a set of books called "American Preschool General Practice" that is used as a practice book, and this "general practice" is actually just a translation of Chinese.
This set of books is good, but those who have read it know that what it advocates is not a discipline, but an exercise book that pays attention to the comprehensive application of knowledge to life. Moreover, the first level is also recommended for children aged 4-5 years old and above in kindergarten. But I didn't expect that in reality, this network term was born and moved, and it became a full set of enlightenment for 0-3-year-old children.
2. The discipline-based curriculum design does not conform to the rules of preschool children's learning, and it is not suitable for all children. Children explore and learn things by observing, imitating, and engaging in play. Children's learning rules must first change from figurative, then to image, and finally to abstraction. Take mathematical enlightenment as an example, children before the age of 3 can not understand what the abstract "1" means, the best way to enlighten is to let children see all kinds of "1s" in life, an apple, a car, a chair, a doll. Help children establish specific "one-to-one correspondence", and then slowly change from objects in life to figurative concepts such as shapes in books, until the effective articulation close to school age does it really have abstract digital concepts. Without the cultivation of such number-sense thinking, it is meaningless to simply pursue the understanding of numbers within 100.
Another example is the English enlightenment, the law of language enlightenment is that listening and speaking go first, and reading and writing keep up.
There is no early lot of listening and speaking input, lack of language environment, which is a very inefficient and will discourage learning motivation. In European and American countries where English is a native speaker, the introduction time of graded reading is after the age of 3, just imagine their language input and we can compare?
Another example is independent reading, which has been widely publicized on the Internet, saying that natural phonics is an advanced teaching method for foreign children to learn English. But there are some invisible conditions in it that don't tell you: natural phonics requires hearing and speaking vocabulary greater than 3,000, preferably 5,000 (even native English speakers have to wait until at least 4 years old to start)
3. Teaching too early destroys the autonomy of children's learning and increases the anxiety of parents. Once you have received such "general" enlightenment, the most direct harm is that you will be extremely anxious. Because the "general" enlightenment means that before the child is 3 years old, he can learn step by step, and like the child in the video, he can sit for 1 hour at any time. And these videos will also post the stage learning results, and we will compare them.
This is fundamentally believed to be a standard piece of the child, and each age has a learning style that quantifies the learning outcome.
The most critical thing for preschool enlightenment is to understand three truths: to prepare the soil, to know the "opportunity cost" and parent-child connection.
Preschoolers' hippocampus is not yet fully developed (the part of the brain responsible for memory), so "learning ahead" means spending extra effort to get the brain that is not ready to do what it is not currently good at, while ignoring the window period when the brain is really good at this stage:
For example, children's figurative thinking, observation, imagination, curiosity, internal drive, good reading habits and so on. And if you still firmly believe in these methods, then you will definitely be anxious because your child can't reach it, and even force your child to sit and study. Such a high-pressure parent-child relationship will also damage the child's sense of security, including brain development.
This kind of internet celebrity early education, there is no harm! Must be faked! But what we really have to be vigilant about is that it is obviously harmful, why can it be red, why are there so many mothers pursuing? Anxiety behind the need for a way out, then the chicken baby has become a traffic secret, after a hype, derived a large number of courses and books, pay the mother naturally a lot.
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Mass-produced poisonous chicken soup and parenting tips
In addition to the enlightenment of the Internet celebrity, what needs to be vigilant is the parenting treasure book and chicken soup like "street psoriasis" and "small advertisement", which are really emerging on the Internet.
For example, these: a two-child water "treasure book", two of the seven are related to "beating";
A variety of advocacy of sleeping in bed alone will affect children's gender awareness, and sleeping with elders will have a risk of disease and even hinder mental growth:
Various reasons for poor concentration, and tips for cultivation:
Is it sometimes quite reasonable to listen to, and immediately want to press the screenshot and forward it?
But after seeing too much, I found that it was not right, who are the people who sent these? Brushing it again, you can see that the content is so highly similar (who copied whose source can no longer be found). Patchwork, true and false are the most difficult to identify, and these contents are also less read.
1. First of all, the biggest role of these speeches in the name of disseminating knowledge is to cater to emotions and sell anxiety. For example, sleeping with grandparents will have the risk of disease, if the parents have no choice, the need for elders to bring the baby of the family, is not it better to cater to the prejudice of some people? Grasp the intergenerational parenting contradiction and sprinkle another handful of salt into the wound. In the face of children's problems, mothers are prone to have stronger emotions, tendencies, prejudices, and especially like this kind of thing, so such content is easier to spread.
2, these parenting treasures, usually a single sentence seems to have no problem, right and wrong mixed together, plausible, but the most important thing is that in the end, it can not really solve the problem, but can cause bad emotions and anxiety.
3. Finally, reveal the production methods of these golden sentences and treasure books: (This was accidentally discovered by the little assistant when checking the data). Look at this skillful production process, it turns out that these explosive models are crazy patchwork, infinite copying, are you still willing to like such content?
03 Practice the Golden Eye of Fire
True and false parenting knowledge on the Internet, all out to discuss is not very realistic, the following three points, I think basically can make everyone less deceived.
1, about the subject education / chicken baby all kinds of chicken baby schedule, curriculum, preschool age before the sub-discipline, after the school age unlimited brushing, the state with the double reduction policy to clearly draw a line, everyone should not follow up again; the meaning of family education, is to make up for those schools do not have, rather than focus on strengthening the school has.
2, about the selling point of all to tell you, find a point, one size fits all, one trick, how to promote the method of omnipotence, not according to the specific situation of the specific analysis, there is no multi-dimensional analysis of the parenting concept, are not very reliable; blindly follow the trend, remember to figure out these three questions: what is it? What problems does it solve? What kind of child is it for?
3, about anxiety Finally, everything stimulates you to be more anxious, after reading people more emotionally unstable, looking at their children is more unpleasant, please directly backhand point exit, turn off do not look at it ~
We always say that the choice is too difficult, in fact, it may be that we want too much. Recently, the epidemic has been tight, kindergartens, schools, and even extracurricular classes in many places have been suspended, and in this era when everyone is forced to run desperately by the inside, the epidemic has put the brakes on us again and again. Now the children and mothers, have worked hard enough, must learn to untie themselves, to untie the children, since they are forced to brake, then take a good rest.