Chicken babies, that is, "giving children chicken blood".
In contemporary education, "chicken baby" has become a hurdle that countless parents can't pass, from children's homework counseling, to the family smashing pots and selling iron to buy "old and broken", just to let the baby enjoy better educational resources, parents have begun a difficult "war", for the future of the child to work hard, "can not let the child lose on the starting line" has become a consensus.
However, a few days ago, she brushed such a mother who graduated from Tsinghua University, as a "Kochi element", she chose to "go against the trend" and never had a chicken baby.
Although this mother graduated from Tsinghua University, she did not let her child attend a day's cram school, and her child also took the penultimate exam in elementary school, but the mother never cared about the child's learning.
My mother, who graduated from Tsinghua University, has a mantra: "Although you are not studying well, you are in good health." ”
Once the child took the second-to-last exam in the class, the mother attended the parent-teacher meeting, did not change the color of the teacher's criticism of splitting his head and covering his face, and returned home and said to the child: "When my mother went to school, I was not criticized by the teacher like this, but it doesn't matter, my mother believes in your choice, when to learn is your own business." ”
Although the children have always received "free-range" education from childhood to adulthood, they were finally admitted to a 985 college (Wuhan University).
After going to college, the child asks her mother why she never "chicken baby"? Never force yourself to take the 1st place?
My mother replied, "I have been admitted to Tsinghua University, and I can't surpass me with your qualifications anyway, so it's good to accept your mediocrity and live a peaceful and happy life."
Indeed, when countless parents have embarked on the "road of no return" of chicken babies, perhaps we should be more like this mother and maintain some rational thinking: Why choose chicken babies? How can we alleviate the "chicken baby anxiety" of this class of parents?
Why do parents embark on the "chicken baby road"?
"The world is like a theater, and when the front row audience stands up, the back row audience has to do the same. So it's hard to find a mom in this world who isn't anxious. ”
This quote is from "I'm a Mom, I Need a Platinum Bag," written by Winisty Martin, a Yale anthropologist who tells the story of a "chicken journey" to quickly make a class jump for her children after moving to the Upper East Side.
At the moment of rapid economic development, social competition is also becoming more and more fierce, countless parents have personally experienced the anxiety in work and life, for the sake of their children's future, resulting in this generation of parents than any previous generation, have invested more time, energy, and financial resources in child-rearing, parents are worried that their children are not working hard now, and they will have to suffer from life in the future, invisibly passing on their own anxiety to their children and joining the "chicken baby army".
But when most people start chicken babies, the educational gap between children is gradually narrowing, and the high-quality educational resources of the whole society are limited, so the ideal "you chicken baby, my chicken baby, our children kao Qinghua" can not be realized, parents can only increase the strength of "chicken baby", everyone has begun to "inner volume", resulting in children suffering from its harm, parents are also suffering from chicken baby anxiety.
How can I relieve anxiety and stop chicken babies?
First of all, there is no real "perfect" child, "someone else's child" is only a legend after all.
Although it is the common sentiment of people to hope that children will become dragons and women will become phoenixes, genius will always be a very small minority.
If parents blindly chicken baby, will only let the child bear huge physical and mental pressure, there are countless cases in real life show that let the child at an inappropriate age to learn ahead, contrary to the child's own physical development law, but will do half the work, and even cause irreversible harm.
For the vast majority of parents, how to let children live their lives according to their own wishes and realize their own value is the "ultimate topic" in education.
Secondly, there is nothing wrong with investing in their children's education, but parents don't have to worry about it.
Parents attach importance to the child's education, there is nothing wrong with increasing investment in education, and the key is to maintain a harmonious mentality, if the blind "arms race", see the child's peers work hard, force their own children to pay double the effort, look forward to shaping the child as an imaginary "cow baby", will only increase anxiety.
When we educate children, we should do more to follow the good example, affirm the child, cultivate the child's self-confidence, form good learning habits, as long as the child has a certain subjective initiative, the parent's "chicken baby anxiety" can naturally be resolved.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Many parents will think that their children are geniuses and destined to achieve greatness, but in fact, the essence of most people is to spend their lives ordinary and ordinary.
Therefore, accepting the child's imperfections, discovering the shining points in the child, and letting the child live a simple and happy life may be the true meaning of education.
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