Looking at the problem from another position, what you see is completely different from what you originally thought
Many parents, when they learn that their children take the exam today, when their children come home from school, they will always ask, "How did you do today?" "In the eyes of parents, asking children how they are learning every day, whether they have made progress, and whether they have been praised by teachers is the concern for their children. This view seems to be no problem, and many parents do the same.
Have you ever thought about the question, when you ask these questions, what do children think?
To understand this problem, we may as well change the scene, you work hard all day every day, dragging the tired body back home, the child sees you ask, "Mom, how much bonus did you send today, whether there is more than others, why no one else, why the boss will criticize you, why there is always no progress..." When you face these problems, what kind of mood is it, understand this, you know your usual so-called "care", whether the child likes it, what kind of mood the child is in.
The ancients said that what you do not want, do not do to others, since even we do not like things, why do we want to do it every day under the banner of "loving children", the key is to be at ease, think that asking this question, for the sake of the child's good, with their own way to care for the child, but do not pay attention to such a way, is not what the child wants.
Here again to talk about the concept of empathy, when a person really learns to empathize, learn to use other people's positions, use other people's heads to think about other people's things, you can understand a lot of phenomena, the original stand on their own position, see the result is "6", and stand on the opposite side, the other side's position to see, the result is "9", whether it is the "6" you see, or the other party sees the "9", has always been there, has not changed.
With the education of children a truth, get along with people, if you know how to empathize, you will find that you can not understand the things, can understand, the original can not accept, can also be accepted, because with the change of position, see and before you imagined, completely different, with the perspective of seeing is different, your understanding, tolerance, recognition will change, this is your growth, is your progress.
Let's try to think differently and see what has changed.
Life is full of learning, learn a little every day, accumulate a little, you can take fewer detours on the road of daily life, I hope my information can help you, thank you for your attention!
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